Comments on: Groom Guest Post: The Other Point of View

By: Karina

Karina — Tue, 31 Aug 2010 19:39:30 +0000

I certainly enjoyed reading this post with advice from the other side! It put some perspective on things for me. I also agree that the wedding day shouldn’t necessarily be the “happiest” day of your life, but could be ONE of MANY happy days in your lifetime

By: meg

meg — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 23:17:05 +0000

He’s not a blogger. He doesn’t parse all his words like I do, to make sure he says it exactly the right way, leaving all options open, offending no one. As a non-blogging male, my husband is just gonna lay it on you the way he sees it. And there is a certain beauty to that.

By: Sue

Sue — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 23:07:20 +0000

I did enjoy reading this post and get a glimpse of the male perspective on wedding planning from the horse’s mouth, but one thing you said did bother me. Who is anyone to say when you should have the happiest day of your life? Perhaps for you it will be 25 years down the road when you get a big promotion and use your bonus to go on a fabulous vacation around the world. But for some men and women out there, the day that they make the enormous commitment to their partner–their wedding day–WILL BE the happiest day of their life. And good for them.

By: J

Tue, 01 Jul 2008 07:16:33 +0000

I love this. I, too, have an opinion on everything, and most people around me have heard of them all!

By: caroline

caroline — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 00:22:16 +0000

Oh, and kudos for your point that this ought not to be the happiest day of our lives. I would hate to think that there would ever be a point in my life where I could not imagine more happiness to come.

By: caroline

caroline — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 00:20:33 +0000

Great post David! We’ve found out first-hand the ineffectiveness of randomly postulated “What do you think of…” questions, so now we set up “can-we-talk-about-wedding-things-at-this-particular-time-and-day” dates to more efficiently tackle wedding topics, sometimes with agendas hahaha. (Sometimes things are resolved purely on “Do you hate this, or not?”)

By: ladyt/getmarried4less

ladyt/getmarried4less — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 12:32:46 +0000

this was great! thanks for the guest post!

i’m guessing my groom probably feels similiarly. he has explained over and over that his lack of opinion does NOT mean he doesnt care…but i have a difficult time processing that bc if i dont have an opion its BECAUSE i dont care, lol.

i’ve done my best not to press him to give me opinions on things that he probably doesn’t care…err…has no opinion on. such as the flowers. but certain things i won’t give up on bc they should reflect us both. he’s doing a good job of formulating opinions, lol

By: Minh

Minh — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 08:05:39 +0000

Amen.
And can I add that just because the groom doesn’t want to walk down the aisle to “Give Yourself To Love” doesn’t mean he’s a cold-hearted bastard?

By: Dubbs

Dubbs — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 00:54:05 +0000

Personally bro, it takes a real man to rock the pink pastels, and I think you can be that man.

By: Meg

Meg — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 17:41:17 +0000

And we do have to keep it all in perspective. David talks a big game, but he has hand designed our invitations, with only plenty of opinions (but no help) from me. And... I'm not sure there is that much he hasn't had a opinion on yet :)

So, he has a great point, but not all guys are like any one thing, for sure. And sometimes it's not a guy, it's a same gendered partner!

And Jessica Lynn, I think Tara is right. In Offbeat Bride the book, she talks about something similar. One of the few things her fiance really cared about was her NOT having her makeup done. She did in the end, but she finally figured out part of what was going on was he really wanted her to look like "herself."