So, it seems that we all needed to hear that our weddings don’t need to strive for perfection! The post I wrote last week was written mostly to remind myself that the standard being set for weddings is insane and unrealistic, and I needed to chill out, and let the pieces fall where they may. Whew! Well, talk about a big response. My inbox was flooded with “Mmmhummm! Preach it!” emails, along with the “Oh my god, I needed to hear that” emails. And then, everywhere I looked the post kept popping up again. Which is all well and good. If the only thing anyone remembered from this little blog was me saying “If you still believe in perfection, you are too young to get married,” then I would be happy.
Since I started thinking of the delightful imperfection of both weddings and marriages, I’ve stumbled on some quotes on the subject that I loved. Lest we forget:
“Love is an ideal thing, marriage is a real thing; a confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished.” – Goethe
“Nearly all marriages, even happy ones, are mistakes: in the sense that almost certainly (in a more perfect world, or even with a little more care in this very imperfect one) both partners might have found more suitable mates. But the real soulmate is the one you are actually married to.” â€“ J.R.R. Tolkien
And finally, the quote that would make the most excellent wedding reading, from Ms. Peonies: