Comments on: The Good And The Bad http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/09/good-and-bad/ Weddings. Minus the insanity, plus the marriage. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 09:49:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: mimi http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/09/good-and-bad/comment-page-1/#comment-245 mimi Wed, 17 Sep 2008 16:46:09 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/09/good-and-bad/#comment-245 i have to thank you. i am newly engaged and just starting to plan and of course my ideas are bigger than my budget. a few days ago i read some of your posts and on the same day spoke to another very practical bride and had an attitude shift. somehow i am clearer now on what the day is about and how it should happen. and i am able to rein myself in when i start looking at invites that cost 50 dollars each or caterers that charge 200 per person. i have to thank you. i am newly engaged and just starting to plan and of course my ideas are bigger than my budget. a few days ago i read some of your posts and on the same day spoke to another very practical bride and had an attitude shift. somehow i am clearer now on what the day is about and how it should happen. and i am able to rein myself in when i start looking at invites that cost 50 dollars each or caterers that charge 200 per person.

]]> By: Bea http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/09/good-and-bad/comment-page-1/#comment-246 Bea Wed, 17 Sep 2008 11:43:32 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/09/good-and-bad/#comment-246 In defense of the Death Star a.k.a The Knot, they have been featuring same-sex committment ceremonies in the real weddings section for a long time. <br /><br />The gay knot site is not going to be as mainstream as The Knot because not all states recognize gay marriages yet (sadly). So really, what it comes down to is making a profit hence why it's the Death Star. In defense of the Death Star a.k.a The Knot, they have been featuring same-sex committment ceremonies in the real weddings section for a long time.

The gay knot site is not going to be as mainstream as The Knot because not all states recognize gay marriages yet (sadly). So really, what it comes down to is making a profit hence why it’s the Death Star.

]]> By: Cyd http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/09/good-and-bad/comment-page-1/#comment-247 Cyd Tue, 16 Sep 2008 13:02:11 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/09/good-and-bad/#comment-247 My initial reaction to Gay Weddings By the Knot was one of appreciation. Something along the lines of, "Wow, somebody is finally going to get this out in the mainstream and treat gay unions as something that should be a given, not something we should be fighting in the courts!"<br /><br />However, your point that it's an attempt at separate but equal is completely valid and I now have a bit of a sour taste left in my mouth. <br /><br />If they want to be open and accepting, why isn't this a component of the main website? Why wasn't there some great fanfare to promote it on other maintstream sites? I could go on for hours, but the bottom line is that I'm glad you've pointed out this other side of it, and while the optimist in me would like to believe there were no intentions to "protect" the "normal" brides from the gay-friendly content, the realist in me recognizes it's more than likely the case. Thanks, Meg!<br /><br />Also, I'm glad my humble little post helped inspire a smile and made the list of The Good! Your blog is inspiration for many and you deserve a little recognition here and there. :-) My initial reaction to Gay Weddings By the Knot was one of appreciation. Something along the lines of, “Wow, somebody is finally going to get this out in the mainstream and treat gay unions as something that should be a given, not something we should be fighting in the courts!”

However, your point that it’s an attempt at separate but equal is completely valid and I now have a bit of a sour taste left in my mouth.

If they want to be open and accepting, why isn’t this a component of the main website? Why wasn’t there some great fanfare to promote it on other maintstream sites? I could go on for hours, but the bottom line is that I’m glad you’ve pointed out this other side of it, and while the optimist in me would like to believe there were no intentions to “protect” the “normal” brides from the gay-friendly content, the realist in me recognizes it’s more than likely the case. Thanks, Meg!

Also, I’m glad my humble little post helped inspire a smile and made the list of The Good! Your blog is inspiration for many and you deserve a little recognition here and there. :-)

]]> By: Laura E @ Southern Wedding http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/09/good-and-bad/comment-page-1/#comment-248 Laura E @ Southern Wedding Tue, 16 Sep 2008 06:00:55 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/09/good-and-bad/#comment-248 What a great list. I had never thought about making an engagement party or bridal shower also into a make a difference event. I am going to pass along this idea to so many brides. What a great list. I had never thought about making an engagement party or bridal shower also into a make a difference event. I am going to pass along this idea to so many brides.

]]> By: DomestiGals http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/09/good-and-bad/comment-page-1/#comment-249 DomestiGals Tue, 16 Sep 2008 01:55:59 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/09/good-and-bad/#comment-249 Meg, I absolutely LOVE this post. You are right on with every point! <br /><br />TheKnot's treatment of their gay weddings site makes me want to boycott them. So lame. <br /><br />But on the happier side, you are totally right about the silver lining in these economically turbulent times: that people are focusing more on the meaning of a wedding ceremony and marriage is really wonderful.<br /><br />Such a great post! Thank you! Meg, I absolutely LOVE this post. You are right on with every point!

TheKnot’s treatment of their gay weddings site makes me want to boycott them. So lame.

But on the happier side, you are totally right about the silver lining in these economically turbulent times: that people are focusing more on the meaning of a wedding ceremony and marriage is really wonderful.

Such a great post! Thank you!

]]> By: Tara http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/09/good-and-bad/comment-page-1/#comment-250 Tara Mon, 15 Sep 2008 23:04:03 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/09/good-and-bad/#comment-250 Aw, the NYTimes Vows column usually leaves me feeling slightly hostile and annoyed, but that one made me cry. Thanks for sharing so many interesting links! Aw, the NYTimes Vows column usually leaves me feeling slightly hostile and annoyed, but that one made me cry. Thanks for sharing so many interesting links!

]]> By: Catherine http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/09/good-and-bad/comment-page-1/#comment-251 Catherine Mon, 15 Sep 2008 19:22:15 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/09/good-and-bad/#comment-251 Thank you for this post! I'm right with you on the things that bother you, but since I'm trying to be positive, I won't rant, and just say I LOVE the idea for the Be the Change Party!! I'm totally going to pass that along to my bridesmaids. I think they'd like the idea too, not that I'm dictating my bachelorette party or anything. :) Thanks again! Thank you for this post! I’m right with you on the things that bother you, but since I’m trying to be positive, I won’t rant, and just say I LOVE the idea for the Be the Change Party!! I’m totally going to pass that along to my bridesmaids. I think they’d like the idea too, not that I’m dictating my bachelorette party or anything. :) Thanks again!

]]> By: Words and Steel http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/09/good-and-bad/comment-page-1/#comment-252 Words and Steel Mon, 15 Sep 2008 15:16:14 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/09/good-and-bad/#comment-252 as a queer blogger for a mainstream wedding website, I too get quite tired of the separate-but-equal standpoint in the wedding industry. Generally though I am sick of the wedding industry- everyone trying to capitalize on what should be a simple celebration of two people's love. I could write a book (and probably will!) on this crapola. as a queer blogger for a mainstream wedding website, I too get quite tired of the separate-but-equal standpoint in the wedding industry. Generally though I am sick of the wedding industry- everyone trying to capitalize on what should be a simple celebration of two people’s love. I could write a book (and probably will!) on this crapola.

]]> By: erica http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/09/good-and-bad/comment-page-1/#comment-253 erica Mon, 15 Sep 2008 14:16:55 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/09/good-and-bad/#comment-253 The Knot IS linking to their new gay weddings site - scroll down to the very bottom in the tiny links. That's where I saw it today.<br /><br />I don't like the idea of making gay weddings different from hetero weddings - but it's a niche, and a growing one. Sadly it's about $$$. To line THEIR pocketbooks with. The Knot IS linking to their new gay weddings site – scroll down to the very bottom in the tiny links. That’s where I saw it today.

I don’t like the idea of making gay weddings different from hetero weddings – but it’s a niche, and a growing one. Sadly it’s about $$$. To line THEIR pocketbooks with.

]]> By: Mrs. Andi http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/09/good-and-bad/comment-page-1/#comment-254 Mrs. Andi Mon, 15 Sep 2008 13:55:06 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/09/good-and-bad/#comment-254 I agree 100% with Luis. The growing untapped gay marriage market reminds me of when the US economy looked at China as billions of new consumers. Not people, not individuals that they can help, but simply as billions of wallets they haven't delved into yet.<br /><br />I don't like the idea that getting married means you MUST have everything in List A with 5 things from List B or 7 things from List C. Why does a wedding HAVE to have everything that every other wedding has had? Do you need bridesmaids, a ring bearer, an engagement party, etc? I agree 100% with Luis. The growing untapped gay marriage market reminds me of when the US economy looked at China as billions of new consumers. Not people, not individuals that they can help, but simply as billions of wallets they haven’t delved into yet.

I don’t like the idea that getting married means you MUST have everything in List A with 5 things from List B or 7 things from List C. Why does a wedding HAVE to have everything that every other wedding has had? Do you need bridesmaids, a ring bearer, an engagement party, etc?

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