Comments on: Registry Ennui

By: gophil

gophil — Fri, 02 Sep 2011 06:28:38 +0000

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By: Doreen

Doreen — Thu, 26 May 2011 22:13:05 +0000

I am currently registered in two places for a summer wedding. We both went around and about–what’s a down to earth couple to do in the face of a registry?–and finally I decided that it’s okay.
I’m okay with it for two reasons. First, it gives my relatives direction. We know each other, but not in a daily way. They want direction. They want to succeed. So, I feel good about providing that.
The other reason I feel good about the registry is that I want everything on it, but if I didn’t get a single gift it would not change my wedding one bit. The true gift to me is my upcoming marriage. Everything else is a bonus!
And, for the curious, the theme of our registry was Practical Stuff. We registered for garden tools, power tools, camping equipment, and the world full of wool blankets–nothing that we couldn’t or wouldn’t use.

By: Karina

Karina — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 18:28:48 +0000

What about something practical, like gas or grocery gift cards? In my case the gas gift card would be especially helpful because my commute to work is an hour both ways and I have to get gas every couple of days!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 01:30:46 +0000

Hello, We’re thinking of scrapping the whole registry thing and asking for consumables only (ie drink – I’m sure we’ll get some fancy Champagne and the like, and food – ooh, all those posh dried mushrooms, fancy spices and luxuries we’ve never go for on our own!). Not sure how useful that would be if you don’t cook though…
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By: amyc

amyc — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 12:18:02 +0000

it’s so heartening to hear others struggling with the same thing. we have yet to tackle the actual registry, but have decided to say up front we really don’t need or want anything, but feel setting up a registry is smart since, like mentioned in so many posts above, people WANT to give (and unless you want 3 toasters and a framed, crochet-bordered copy of your invite), letting others know what you like and what your tastes are, seemed appropriate.

however, the wording is hard… anyone have any thoughts? we’re putting a link on our website with the statement that we don’t want gifts; that their time or help with the events would suffice; some restaurants we love and then regular registry (rei.com). would love suggestions. thanks!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 19:58:22 +0000

you should totally register for books and cds. or beautiful sheets/towels. it doesn’t have to be all about the dishes. i am i so looking forward to registering, whenever that day comes!

By: Kelly Seiler

Kelly Seiler — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 17:02:40 +0000

Instead of doing just a registry you could always ask for help with the wedding. Ask someone to pay for the flowers, the table arrangements, photographer. Use one of the registry sites thats lets you go with multiple stores and put the house things you’d like to get as well as listing 10 table settings quantity 5, flowers for the bride, cost of online photo share site, and other wedding day items. Also, ask for time to help with the wedding setup!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 08:29:58 +0000

i know exactly how you feel! we live in 330 sq ft (happily i might add). we don’t need anything. we want a few things that we could register for. of course we have been saving for a home but i will not ask for cash. i don’t have any fab solution. however, we did come up with an idea that we are excited about. we are “registering” at a couple local shops that sell items made by local artists. one store sells mostly ceramics- scuptural and functional. and the other sells imported fair trade items. that way we can support the type of stores we would like to see more of. also i plan on asking some of my artist friends for a drawing/photo/or painting to adorn our walls.

By: Marina

Marina — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 11:24:42 +0000

When we first got engaged, my thought was “I get to marry the guy I love, AND have a big party, AND get gifts??? Best idea ever!” But, uh, yeah, once I actually started looking at registries it became a lot less attractive.

We’ll probably be upgrading a lot, like everyone else said (especially sheets and towels… mmm, I love me some big fluffy towels…), and probably tech gadgets… but the stuff I’m really excited about is asking people to give us something handmade, or personally meaningful. I’m thinking art made by them or someone they know, a zine of their favorite love poems, a tchatchky they got on their trip to [insert exotic place here] from an artisan who told them it was to ensure fertility and wealth, a menorah or sedar plate, their favorite recipe…

There’s no real way to put those on a registry, since the whole idea is that they come up with something we never would have thought of, but we at least want to try and emphasize the idea.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 10:13:17 +0000

I know you’re not a fan of honeymoon registries, but I just thought I’d mention that our guests REALLY liked ours. We were able to specify activities, and give pictures and descriptions and we’ll post photos after the honeymoon. So, while the registry is functionally cash, people get to feel like they’re giving specific experiences. Which our travel-happy families really liked–much more meaningful and fun than dishes!

I’d definitely second what an earlier poster said: registries aren’t really about what you want. They’re about what your guests want to give you.