Comments on: Wedding Party Alternatives

By: JPH

JPH — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 12:21:17 +0000

We went had my husbands son and daughter stand up with us, and that was it. It was a nice way to honor them... our friends were all integral in planning, setting up, and keeping things running, so they got special mentions in our program and a shout-out at the reception.

I hope that everyone felt honored, and in the end we only had to find one dress ;).

Really though, people appreciate whatever you choose as long as it's special to you. People were really touched by our small but loving little family-as-wedding-party, and the kids got to dress up and be special. Friends and family alike will understand and honor your choice, because they love you.

By: jans

jans — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 11:16:47 +0000

I have three sisters, and my fiance also has a sister who I am close to, so the four of them will stand beside me. They’re wearing whatever black dress they want. My two best friends are the flower girls, and I’m inviting my other close friends to be with me when I get ready- I can’t imagine my friends not being there for that. Our moms will also be there- so it will be special to have all the most important women in my life together.

By: Bride in Exile

Bride in Exile — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 18:15:09 +0000

Hey, thanks for the shout-out! And thanks for the original post as well, it helped me put my finger on something that had been bugging me and inspired me to think outside the “traditional” roles and consider what (and who) is really important.

I don’t think I can take back my bridesmaid invitations, but now I’m thinking about inviting my non-bridesmaid friends to hang out with us in the bridal suite for some pre-ceremony “girl time.” I may also ask some of my female friends to be our ushers. I know female ushers aren’t traditional, but, well, nuts to that! :-)

By: The Broke-Ass Bride

The Broke-Ass Bride — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 16:09:22 +0000

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By: ctemp

ctemp — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 14:26:00 +0000

very thoughtful comments. family is right for some people and not for others. i had many challenges with mine, but my wife's was fine. very weird world indeed.

chuck
TheWeddingLens.com

By: Peonies and Polaroids

Peonies and Polaroids — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 13:48:12 +0000

Thanks for the mention! I’m glad to know that someone thinks that we had the right idea. We felt a bit weird for not having people standing up there with us, but it would have felt so wrong to us to do it any other way.

By: Cate Subrosa

Cate Subrosa — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 13:21:13 +0000

Now we’re getting really close to D day, I’m enjoying your blog more than ever. I think the reason is because you keep pointing out to me reasons to be proud of all the decisions we made and how determined we were to do what was right for us in a simple way. Thank you.

By: Krista

Krista — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 09:42:27 +0000

It’s so true, all these comments. It’s not important if cousins, family or friends “stand up for you”. It’s that you ask those who mean the most (if you can choose!), and that you honour those loved ones (family or friends) who are not standing up with you. And a wedding day breakfast is a great way to honour those people!

By: Bridechka

Bridechka — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 08:52:24 +0000

I like Angie’s idea too, my friends are going to be having dinner with me, my mom, grandma, and sister the night before my wedding (we aren’t going to be having a rehearsal dinner)… it will just be a fun night to honor some of the amazing women in my life.

By: sarah

sarah — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 08:51:06 +0000

I love Angie’s idea too, I’ve been planning this also. I’m thinking a wedding day brunch, especially so all my girl friends can meet each other and all be together before the wedding. Very inclusive and fun. I also have friends from all over the place, as I’m sure most people do, so they can’t all get together for a shower or bachelorette or something, I thought this was a very good replacement. I’d love to hear more ideas like this!