Comments on: Shower Me With Love

By: Amanda

Amanda — Sun, 05 Dec 2010 22:19:10 +0000

Okay so I know this is posted forever ago but I just linked back to it and Ah! Love it. Especially that last paragraph. I’m just learning this about letting go and how things fall into place and it’s hard but so worth it! I kinda like controlling things and having ideas :) But it’s not worth the stress it causes me and I know people love me and those people are usually pretty darn smart :)

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 09:03:53 +0000

wow. If someone wants to throw me a shower, I’ll have to pass along this fabulous idea. As a huge booknerd, this would be perfect. And makes me much happier than the idea of getting fancy undergarments from relatives. scary.

By: {furi kuri} travels

{furi kuri} travels — Fri, 28 Nov 2008 12:21:13 +0000

What a wonderful theme for a shower, and your invites are adorable!

By: Cate Subrosa

Cate Subrosa — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 11:40:56 +0000

I loved this post, firstly because the book shower thing is such a great idea and secondly because your experience was so similar to mine of my hen do. Sometimes you just have to let go and trust your friends and what they come up with will be more wonderful than you could imagine yourself.

By: Meg

Meg — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 07:50:15 +0000

First, I never claimed to be the anti-wedding blog, I only claimed to be the find-a-way-to-do-it-that-works-for-you blog. I have not a problem in the world with letting people buy me gifts or throw me parties to help me celebrate. All within reason. Also, I never claimed not to need more books. One always needs more books. So letting ones friends by one a handful of books is perfectly reasonable, as far as I'm concerned. (and if you must know, half of the books in the picture were free as they were from my friend the editors publishing house).
Do I get paid for ads? Yes. I spend a huge number of hours a week writing this blog. It's hard work. That said, do I reject advertisers? Yes. All the time. Do I get paid very much? No, not really. Also, all of my ad's and ad posts are very clearly posted as such. I'm not pulling anything over on anyone, and my sponsor policy is very clearly posted.
That said, it sounds like you need to read a new blog. I'm not a fraud, but I'm not anti-wedding or anti-spending money. I'm pro what is practical for any given couple, and I'm anti conspicuous consumption.
Also, I'm a real person, so coming here to tell me how my bridal shower makes you think I'm a fraud because I didn't do it they way you wanted me to is both inappropriate and out of line.

I'm leaving your comment, since it's clearly an honest opinion. That said, reconsider how you speak to people publicly.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 05:46:30 +0000

I am a bit torn on this post and actually have been very torn on this blog since you started featuring adds (and I presume getting paid for it).

On one hand you write blogs about not buying into the the ring Olympics and you feature people who say, having monogrammed napkins really doesn't matter and you feature registries with Goats on them.

On the other hand you feature registries at all...you even said you don't need stuff...but you registered anyway-doesn't that = caving to the WIC? If you don't need stuff, why register at all?

If you aren't into the WIC then why feature vendors. You may call them Wedding Elves, but to everyone but you, they call themselves vendors. A rose by any other name....is still a rose.

On one hand it would have been rude to tell your friend, I don't want your party. On the other hand, you once again registered. If you really just wanted to celebrate the fact that you were getting married and you didn't really buy into the WIC, you would have said no gifts, or asked for friends to write out their faviourite love/friendship themed poem or thought or something.

I think what you struggle with isn't not buying into the WIC, but not wanting to spend the money that the WIC says you have to, and not being inclined to do everything yourself to make a WIC wedding without the cost.

I think you're a bit of fraud. Sorry. I suspect this comment will be removed, but it's not an attack. I just mean to have you, and your readers really start to think about their views on the WIC and how far they are willing not to buy into the WIC. I think when many women get the chance, they will really take those things that the WIC says they should have.

By: Nicole

Nicole — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 15:28:31 +0000

Oh, how lovely! I am also a fan of low-key, from-the-heart, grown-up wedding showers. Lucky gal!

And thanks for the reminder – I need supress my inner control freak and just not worry!

By: Lucy

Lucy — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 10:00:23 +0000

ok dumn question – what’s a giant cheese ball????

By: Jessamyn Harris

Jessamyn Harris — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 09:55:05 +0000

what a great idea! and, total book score!

By: Cheryl ~ Truly Engaging

Cheryl ~ Truly Engaging — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 09:38:12 +0000

As showers go, this one tops the list for unique ideas. Plus, your advice to just let your friends love you the way they want to….priceless!