Comments on: How I Tamed The Registry http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/12/how-i-tamed-registry/ Weddings. Minus the insanity, plus the marriage. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 08:30:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Diana Lauren http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/12/how-i-tamed-registry/comment-page-1/#comment-81787 Diana Lauren Sat, 19 Nov 2011 17:40:33 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/12/how-i-tamed-registry/#comment-81787 I'm planning to NOT register anywhere. I don't feel right telling people what to give as a gift, and it feels better to me to not register, and to say "I have everything I need, and if you can attend our wedding, that would be the best gift possible," which is true. Is this so crazy? To me, it seems more appropriate to let people decide what they want to do for a gift, and to not express any expectation. I'm not criticizing anyone who has done registries, but this is my own personal plan. Thoughts? I’m planning to NOT register anywhere. I don’t feel right telling people what to give as a gift, and it feels better to me to not register, and to say “I have everything I need, and if you can attend our wedding, that would be the best gift possible,” which is true. Is this so crazy? To me, it seems more appropriate to let people decide what they want to do for a gift, and to not express any expectation. I’m not criticizing anyone who has done registries, but this is my own personal plan. Thoughts?

]]> By: Practice: Lightening my load | A City Mouse http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/12/how-i-tamed-registry/comment-page-1/#comment-49484 Practice: Lightening my load | A City Mouse Tue, 22 Feb 2011 21:02:43 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/12/how-i-tamed-registry/#comment-49484 [...] me, getting to a place of love for the wedding presents took some time (and this post). We struggled mightily over the wedding registry. That may be a post for another day, but suffice [...] [...] me, getting to a place of love for the wedding presents took some time (and this post). We struggled mightily over the wedding registry. That may be a post for another day, but suffice [...]

]]> By: channamasala http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/12/how-i-tamed-registry/comment-page-1/#comment-33447 channamasala Fri, 22 Oct 2010 16:13:40 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/12/how-i-tamed-registry/#comment-33447 A registry wasn't right for us (we live abroad and had no way to get the stuff back here, and nowhere to store it in the USA) but it is so true that for a certain planned lifestyle - ie a family-centric one with kids that doesn't involve a lot of moving around - that a registry can be a really smart idea...even if - no, when - it feels like a PITA. I'm still happy we didn't register though... A registry wasn’t right for us (we live abroad and had no way to get the stuff back here, and nowhere to store it in the USA) but it is so true that for a certain planned lifestyle – ie a family-centric one with kids that doesn’t involve a lot of moving around – that a registry can be a really smart idea…even if – no, when – it feels like a PITA.

I’m still happy we didn’t register though…

]]> By: JAR http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/12/how-i-tamed-registry/comment-page-1/#comment-7975 JAR Sat, 20 Dec 2008 11:34:24 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/12/how-i-tamed-registry/#comment-7975 Hi Meg,<br />I've been reading your blog for months (since getting engaged) but have never commented. <br />I am catching up on some older posts, having been too busy to handle wedding stuff for the last few weeks.<br />I just wanted to say that this post is incredible, and really helped explain to my fiance why we're registering. I have always known we'd register (I have the kind of family that would never have taken no for an answer) but he has had some serious trouble with it.<br />So thank you, for again, explaining the practical solution!<br />Happy Chanukah! Hi Meg,
I’ve been reading your blog for months (since getting engaged) but have never commented.
I am catching up on some older posts, having been too busy to handle wedding stuff for the last few weeks.
I just wanted to say that this post is incredible, and really helped explain to my fiance why we’re registering. I have always known we’d register (I have the kind of family that would never have taken no for an answer) but he has had some serious trouble with it.
So thank you, for again, explaining the practical solution!
Happy Chanukah!

]]> By: Sarah http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/12/how-i-tamed-registry/comment-page-1/#comment-7976 Sarah Thu, 04 Dec 2008 14:09:44 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/12/how-i-tamed-registry/#comment-7976 Becca:<br />Thanks so much for the link! I'd started researching cash registry sites and they all had fees or really sleazy websites. Thanks again!<br /><br />And Meg, thanks for the reassuring words and I'll certainly keep you posted if anything comes of this. Becca:
Thanks so much for the link! I’d started researching cash registry sites and they all had fees or really sleazy websites. Thanks again!

And Meg, thanks for the reassuring words and I’ll certainly keep you posted if anything comes of this.

]]> By: Heidi@Truly Engaging http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/12/how-i-tamed-registry/comment-page-1/#comment-7977 Heidi@Truly Engaging Thu, 04 Dec 2008 14:01:05 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/12/how-i-tamed-registry/#comment-7977 Well done Meg! Great post. Our grandmothers do know a thing or two about marriage... and quality wares (given in love)that will undoubtedly echo many a memory over the years with family. I love that my mom still uses out the same pot that her Nana made spaghetti in... ah, how I love Nana's spaghetti :) Cheers! Well done Meg! Great post. Our grandmothers do know a thing or two about marriage… and quality wares (given in love)that will undoubtedly echo many a memory over the years with family. I love that my mom still uses out the same pot that her Nana made spaghetti in… ah, how I love Nana’s spaghetti :) Cheers!

]]> By: Becca http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/12/how-i-tamed-registry/comment-page-1/#comment-7978 Becca Thu, 04 Dec 2008 10:25:23 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/12/how-i-tamed-registry/#comment-7978 To Sarah and Meg (re: the baby registry idea):<br /><br />Check out Smartypig (www.smartypig.com), which would probably work really well for this. It's an FDIC insured bank that allows you to create a goal-oriented online savings account that... other people can contribute to! And it's high-yield! You state your goal, your goal amount, and other folks can contribute. Best of all, there's no commission or fee, since it's just a bank with a unique account contribution option. <br /><br />Somce to think of it, this would be an EXCELLENT honeymoon or house downpayment registry option for folks who want to take that route and who get ticked off by registry fees. To Sarah and Meg (re: the baby registry idea):

Check out Smartypig (www.smartypig.com), which would probably work really well for this. It’s an FDIC insured bank that allows you to create a goal-oriented online savings account that… other people can contribute to! And it’s high-yield! You state your goal, your goal amount, and other folks can contribute. Best of all, there’s no commission or fee, since it’s just a bank with a unique account contribution option.

Somce to think of it, this would be an EXCELLENT honeymoon or house downpayment registry option for folks who want to take that route and who get ticked off by registry fees.

]]> By: Rachel http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/12/how-i-tamed-registry/comment-page-1/#comment-7979 Rachel Thu, 04 Dec 2008 07:55:47 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/12/how-i-tamed-registry/#comment-7979 Oh, and yes, we are donating much of our "older" and mis-matched things to a resale shop that benefits a local women's shelter. Oh, and yes, we are donating much of our “older” and mis-matched things to a resale shop that benefits a local women’s shelter.

]]> By: Rachel http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/12/how-i-tamed-registry/comment-page-1/#comment-7980 Rachel Thu, 04 Dec 2008 07:54:52 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/12/how-i-tamed-registry/#comment-7980 Our registry worked out well for us. We ended up getting a ton of placesettings, so we are now stocked up there. We also got some great looking and well made casserole dishes, bakers, etc. - being young and poor we just had a couple of corningwares that were chipped. But I think one of the BEST things we got was a massive 12-inch skillet pan. It is fab. I've never had a pan that's so well made - balanced, heavy, stainless (so the non-stick won't eventually flake off!). It was an expensive pan that we probably would have never bought for ourselves, but I'm SO proud to have it now. I do see it coming to the retirement home with us!<br /><br />The other thing from our registry that worked out for us is that we were able to get a coffee table!!! A nice coffee table that I see easily lasting through kids. We put it on our registry (which allowed us to get 10% off) and told our family and friends that any gift cards received would be used towards its purchase. So last week I walked in and purchased our new coffee table for $68.34. Yay!!<br /><br />You're absolutely right - the registry is a way for people (who wish to) to help set you up for your married life together. I had a hard time setting my registry up too, it made me feel so materialistic and kind of greedy. But, I'm glad to hear that you're a little more okay with it now.<br /><br />By the way - if you'd like to see (non) pro pics of our wedding, feel free to head over to my site or EAD. ;-) Our registry worked out well for us. We ended up getting a ton of placesettings, so we are now stocked up there. We also got some great looking and well made casserole dishes, bakers, etc. – being young and poor we just had a couple of corningwares that were chipped. But I think one of the BEST things we got was a massive 12-inch skillet pan. It is fab. I’ve never had a pan that’s so well made – balanced, heavy, stainless (so the non-stick won’t eventually flake off!). It was an expensive pan that we probably would have never bought for ourselves, but I’m SO proud to have it now. I do see it coming to the retirement home with us!

The other thing from our registry that worked out for us is that we were able to get a coffee table!!! A nice coffee table that I see easily lasting through kids. We put it on our registry (which allowed us to get 10% off) and told our family and friends that any gift cards received would be used towards its purchase. So last week I walked in and purchased our new coffee table for $68.34. Yay!!

You’re absolutely right – the registry is a way for people (who wish to) to help set you up for your married life together. I had a hard time setting my registry up too, it made me feel so materialistic and kind of greedy. But, I’m glad to hear that you’re a little more okay with it now.

By the way – if you’d like to see (non) pro pics of our wedding, feel free to head over to my site or EAD. ;-)

]]> By: {un}Veiled Vows http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/12/how-i-tamed-registry/comment-page-1/#comment-7981 {un}Veiled Vows Wed, 03 Dec 2008 23:34:47 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/12/how-i-tamed-registry/#comment-7981 "The registry is like a barn raising." Wow. I just got it. What a fabulous way to think about it! “The registry is like a barn raising.” Wow. I just got it. What a fabulous way to think about it!

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