I’m sorry it’s come to this, but here we are.
99% of you are the sweetest commenters that the world has ever seen. You’re witty, delightful, well-read, and sassy. You think critically, you prompt discussion, you support each other and me. Sometimes I wish we all had a standing brunch date (at an increasingly big restaurant) where we spent 20 minutes chatting about our weddings, being supportive, and swapping wedding goods, and then we settled in for a nice long gab about politics, books we’d just read, that article in the New York Times last week, and fabulous etsy finds.
But then, there is the other 1% of commenters. As the hostile comments on this blog have piled up, I decided it was time to set a few ground rules. So here goes:
1. Think before you write. The couples who write about their weddings here are real people, as am I. We might have made different decisions than you would have made on a particular issue, but before you write, think. Don’t write anything that you wouldn’t say to someone over a cup of coffee.
2. Do not make nasty or judgmental comments on real wedding posts. If you do, I will delete them. Making an unkind comment on a post about someone’s wedding is a little bit like peeing in their guest book. If you don’t agree with their wedding philosophy, that’s fine. But there are plenty of other places to discuss it (both on and off this blog) in a way that is not hurtful to people who were kind enough to share pictures of their wedding day.
3. If you want to write me about how I’m a capitalist sellout/ pinko commie, and the weddings I feature here are too budget/ not budget enough, please know that I’ve heard it before. I post about weddings that are a betwixt and between, and don’t tend to fit into any strict set of wedding rules. I know this, I’ve thought about this, and I do so intentionally.
4. If this site makes you feel bad about your wedding, please stop reading it. Life is too short.
In sum: I love comments that promote thoughtful discussion, dislike comments that make blanket judgments, and reserve the right to delete comments as I see fit.
NOW! Lets set up that giant brunch date.
(Happy comments that restore my faith in the delightfulness of the internets are, of course, welcome)