Our Collaborative Save The Dates


by Meg Keene, CEO & Editor-In-Chief

There was never a question that we were going to make our Save The Dates ourselves. I view Save The Dates as extraneous (though, boy, were they practical for us) and hence a fantastic excuse to think outside the box. Since David and I once ran a theatre company where we used to design thinky advertisements, we obviously were not going to pass this chance up. After much vigorous debate about what form we wanted our Save The Dates to take, we decided that we wanted them to be evocative of our values as a couple. What we came up with is not the worlds fanciest design, but it’s ours, and we worked together on every inch of it. The front of the card is a vintage map of the bay area, marked with important spots for both us and our family. We marked our wedding venue, and where we got engaged, but we also marked where my parents got married, where my grandparents got married, and where each of our mothers lived as a girl. It was a way of rooting our wedding in family history, and showing that for us the wedding represented not just the creation of a new family unit, but the merging of two families.The back of the card is simply a poem, our names, and the date and time of the wedding. We found this poem on a plaque on Chestnut and Embarcadero in San Francisco. It’s not about love, but about choice.

Icon, By Mark Osaki

Once, in a great while
you will see a sign
and invest in it everything
out of the simple faith
it is meant for you

You will surrender
all you’ve been taught
to the purity of its direction
and stand perfectly still
knowing nothing more is beyond it

This is how they will find you:
unable to break away, peering
steadfast from the threshold
starved be certainty
blessed forever and unobserved


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Meg Keene

Meg is the Founder and EIC of APW. She has written two best selling wedding books: A Practical Wedding and A Practical Wedding Planner. Meg has her BFA in Drama from NYU’s Tisch School of the Arts. She lives in Oakland, CA with her husband and two children. For more than you ever wanted to know about Meg, you can visit MegKeene.com.

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  • I think that is a really great idea! I love “vintage” maps, as they evoke a nostalgiac feeling. Just by looking at them, you can’t help but wonder about romance of days gone by. You could carry that subtle map detail into the wedding invites and the favors and decor, perhaps, as well! (I’m thinking of these compass table eascort cards/favors I saw on Etsy…)

    ~Liz
    http://www.bayareaweddingcoordinators.com

  • This is so beautiful… the poem. I’m SO giving you props on my blog.

  • I love the map idea — what a wonderful idea to evoke tradition and family history.

  • kerstin

    i love the poem. love it. bravo :)

  • you guys are awesome. so thoughtful. they are great!!!

  • This looks great and I love the map idea.

  • Brilliant! Wow, what a perfect poem and I love the map with all your important landmarks.

  • So cute, I love the maps!

  • Anonymous

    Wow. I’m blown away. Creative, meaningful, thrifty, practical, romantic. Who knew something as simple as stationery could convey so much?

  • very, very pretty. love the map and the poem.

  • I love them, that poem is amazing!

  • I love them. The map, the marking of personal points, the poem about choice not love (hooray!) – I love it all.

  • Great job! I love how personal and original this idea is and how easy too! Thanks for inspiring us!

  • The vintage map is fantastic. Dang! Why didn’t I think of that?

  • Oh, I love how you tied your family into it. I know it is a “trend” with the family wedding pictures, but it is so… personal. It honors the family members’ lives and how it connects to yours. We were married were my parents were married.

  • best save the date ever … how incredibly thoughtful and unique (such a rare combination for save the dates these days).

  • Um, I might steal that poem for our ceremony. Its just lovely. Great work!

  • Amy

    WOW!

    the end.

    Those are stunning! You guys did an awesome job. I love the vintage map.

  • just beautiful.

  • Bravo, Meg & honey! That is fantastic – I love the idea, the map and the poem. Congratulations. :)

  • One Love Photo

    Oh I love them! And the poem is perfection. Love the idea of the map and the markings of other very important unions!

  • These are simply stunning Meg! The vintage maps….the locations of meaning…the poem! You two are so incredibly thoughtful, romantic and crafty, I can’t wait to see the wedding invitations!

  • Andrea

    I saw that same plaque when I visited San Francisco this past summer. It stuck out and I saved it in my phone, and just now googled it and found this.. awesome! (: