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Taking A Joke

Remember when wedding graduate Nicole wrote about her wedding cake disaster? Yeah, she just had an exact replica Christmas ornament of their wedding cake made. Hilarious.

A perfect wedding day? Heaven forbid!

Picture by Pcorreia

I just got this email from VERY newly married reader Cindy. And All I can say is: getting married better feel like this! It just better. The best part? You know how everyone tells you that you won't remember your wedding day or your ceremony? Cindy did. I love that. You will be consumed by joy by the end of this post:

We were both so in the moment. So clear minded and happy. I remember every moment of it and don't think I'll ever forget. I felt loved and calm, yet excited, and spent the entire weekend just knowing this was right.

While our wedding was traditional in many elements, we worked hard to make it our own and it paid off. My mom and I argued about flowers all year and I eventually gave in BUT I wore a wrist corsage so I could have my flowers with me ALL NIGHT. It was simple and lovely and inexpensive and wonderful.

Things I loved:

  • Walking down the aisle to The Weakerthans - (Manifest). My dad had a mini freak out since it wasn't a romantic song but then smiled at me and patted me on the arm. Best. Feeling. Ever.
  • Walking back down the aisle with my husband to Green Day - Pop Rocks and Coke, which solicited cheers from the crowd
  • Having bouncers instead of bridesmaids, basically a couple of friends manned the doors and one of my girls, from LA, wore leg warmers! I loved it! It was like 20 degrees that day. Perfect.
  • High fiving my bouncers on the way back out and shouting, "Yeah, Girlfrizzles!"
  • The impromptu receiving line that had me running around hugging everyone like a maniac
  • Our limo ride, which was a wonderful surprise gift from the best man
  • Deciding at the last minute we wanted to be introduced as we entered the reception room, choosing "Hot for Teacher," and walking into the place like we were movie stars heading to the Emmy's. It was flashbulb fantastic!
  • The cake. The cake. The cake. The cake. Oh my god, the cake.
  • The dancing. Just about everyone got out there and moved. It was awesome.
  • Despite choosing a dress without a train, my husband still managed to step on the edge of the dress and tear it. Two left feet on that guy. He said, "I'm just doomed, aren't I?" I laughed and told him it's just a freaking dress and it doesn't matter, it's coming off in a little while anyway. That seemed to cheer him up quite a bit.

Our winter, partly D-I-Y wedding rocked so hard and I wouldn't have had it any other way.

Can I get a rousing cheer? Don't you all just want to stand up and wave your arms around and dance? Because H*ll yes. H*ell freaking yes. (I love you guys!)

Do you read Mighty Girl? If you don't, you must, because Maggie is just about my favorite blogger of all time. I've been reading her for, well, years. It helps that she's five years older then I am and lives in San Francisco, so she's like that super cool slightly older girl who gives you something to live up to.

Anyway, I was digging through her archives, and stumbled upon this snippet from when she was getting married, filed under What Year Is It Again? I trust you will enjoy it:

An all-too-familiar excerpt from Here Comes the Guide Companion magazine Spring 2003:

"Don't forget: That man in the corner is your fiance. While you may have intended to plan the entire wedding yourself, consider including him in the process. Because he loves you, he'll tag along with you to the florist, caterer, photographer and wedding planner. And because he loves you, he'll forgive you for saying stream-of-consciousness things like, "Oh honey don't you just love this it's so adorable how does it look on me oooh I just have to have it!" Even though he probably won't share your boundless enthusiasm for picking out party favors or linens, he'll do what he can--chauffeur you around and say "uh-huh" a lot, despite the fact that he really doesn't understand much of what's going on."
Continue reading This Is Why I Love Maggie Mason (nee Berry)

This weeks fabulous set of readings, as collected by Amanda of First Milk, bends towards the classics (see Part I). It ends with a passage that lights up my face, one Amanda selected without having any idea that I loved it so much I'd used it in a performance piece when I was just 21. So I give you images, readings, magical synergy. Amanda, take it away...

Gifts and ornaments, wishes, grins. For giving, for keeping, for sending off, raising high.

From THE ODYSSEY
--Homer, Translation by Robert Fitzgerald

There is our pact and pledge, our secret sign,
Built into that bed—my handiwork
And no one else’s!
An old trunk of olive
Grew like a pillar on the building plot,
And I laid out our bedroom round that tree,
Lined up the stone walls, built the walls and roof,
Gave it a doorway and smooth-fitting doors.
Then I lopped off the silver leaves and branches,
Hewed and shaped that stump from the roots up
Into a bedpost, drilled it, let it serve a model for the rest. I planed them all,
Inlaid them all with silver, gold and ivory,
And stretched a bed between—a pliant web
Of oxhide thongs died crimson.

There’s our sign! Continue reading Words To Read When You Wed: Olives, Leaves

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Or maybe it's just me with the occasional wedding rage issues.

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Continue reading Sponsor Introduction: Emily Takes Photos

*Our* Wedding Party
I've written quite a bit about alternative wedding party models. I wrote about having your family as your wedding party, having a bridal brigade, and your great suggestions for having the people you love the most near you on your wedding day. But. I realized I never wrote about what we decided on for our wedding party. Funny thing that - starting a blog to write about your wedding and then forgetting to write about it.
Continue reading *Our* Wedding Party