Comments on: In Praise Of The Particular http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/04/in-praise-of-particular/ Weddings. Minus the insanity, plus the marriage. Wed, 23 May 2012 16:15:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: K http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/04/in-praise-of-particular/comment-page-1/#comment-19110 K Mon, 14 Jun 2010 20:27:34 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/04/in-praise-of-particular/#comment-19110 This post has allowed me to take a deep breath. I'm one of those people who really could care less about the details. Actually, the fewer details the better. I like simple, basic things and ideas and everything floating around out there about what you could do for your wedding was starting to overwhelm me. Just give me something simple, but beautiful. My friends even keep reminding me that they'll bring the beer and wine in cartloads, because they just want to celebrate with us. So anytime I start stressing about things, I just remember that and know that none of them will care about anything other than being there with us. This post has allowed me to take a deep breath. I’m one of those people who really could care less about the details. Actually, the fewer details the better. I like simple, basic things and ideas and everything floating around out there about what you could do for your wedding was starting to overwhelm me. Just give me something simple, but beautiful.

My friends even keep reminding me that they’ll bring the beer and wine in cartloads, because they just want to celebrate with us. So anytime I start stressing about things, I just remember that and know that none of them will care about anything other than being there with us.

]]> By: How we came to be... http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/04/in-praise-of-particular/comment-page-1/#comment-5775 How we came to be... Thu, 28 May 2009 06:57:20 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/04/in-praise-of-particular/#comment-5775 agreed on SO many levels. being a really crafty person, i wanted to do as much of the "fun" stuff myself as possible. we made our invites, programs, gifts, hankies (from my dress fabric remnants), all decorations, and embellished my dress. now that we're down to the details, it's little signs for the treat buckets ("we need more chopsticks!") and a matching yellow purse for my rehearsal dinner outfit ("but everyone knows i sew! i HAVE to sew it!").<br />but i just had a breakthrough for my now 16-days-away wedding. for the past week i have been wondering if it's cold feet - "should i even be doing this?" i cry to myself as i peer at my endless checklists of details, details, details. FI comes in and offers "i'm going to target to get the champagne flutes, need anything else?" needless to say, my checklist of "still have to make"'s was eliminated right there in those target aisles. sorry, individuality, sanity won this time. agreed on SO many levels. being a really crafty person, i wanted to do as much of the “fun” stuff myself as possible. we made our invites, programs, gifts, hankies (from my dress fabric remnants), all decorations, and embellished my dress. now that we’re down to the details, it’s little signs for the treat buckets (“we need more chopsticks!”) and a matching yellow purse for my rehearsal dinner outfit (“but everyone knows i sew! i HAVE to sew it!”).
but i just had a breakthrough for my now 16-days-away wedding. for the past week i have been wondering if it’s cold feet – “should i even be doing this?” i cry to myself as i peer at my endless checklists of details, details, details. FI comes in and offers “i’m going to target to get the champagne flutes, need anything else?” needless to say, my checklist of “still have to make”‘s was eliminated right there in those target aisles. sorry, individuality, sanity won this time.

]]> By: Crystal http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/04/in-praise-of-particular/comment-page-1/#comment-5776 Crystal Fri, 15 May 2009 09:23:12 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/04/in-praise-of-particular/#comment-5776 This was really brilliantly spoken..really.<br /><br />I'm finding that planning my second wedding is a very different experience from the first... for many reasons, no the least of which who I am now v. then....not to mention the difference in who I'm marrying! <br /><br />My first wedding was all show....that was how he wanted it, and it should have been a signal to me, but I was so overwhelmed with the "have to's" and the manufactured checklists....anxiety vomit isn't the half of it.<br /><br />The one thing I did, the ony gift I really gave myself or anyone selse that day, was the single pink rose tucked into the back of my otherwise fall-toned bouquet...daddy, who had passed away a year before, always gave me pink roses. My mother wept when she saw it. Just for us, that moment..just for the three of us. There wasn't a single moment of the rest of the day that held that kind of power. This was really brilliantly spoken..really.

I’m finding that planning my second wedding is a very different experience from the first… for many reasons, no the least of which who I am now v. then….not to mention the difference in who I’m marrying!

My first wedding was all show….that was how he wanted it, and it should have been a signal to me, but I was so overwhelmed with the “have to’s” and the manufactured checklists….anxiety vomit isn’t the half of it.

The one thing I did, the ony gift I really gave myself or anyone selse that day, was the single pink rose tucked into the back of my otherwise fall-toned bouquet…daddy, who had passed away a year before, always gave me pink roses. My mother wept when she saw it. Just for us, that moment..just for the three of us. There wasn’t a single moment of the rest of the day that held that kind of power.

]]> By: Polka Dot Bride http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/04/in-praise-of-particular/comment-page-1/#comment-5777 Polka Dot Bride Thu, 23 Apr 2009 18:34:03 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/04/in-praise-of-particular/#comment-5777 Thankyou Kathryn and Thankyou Meg for putting into words what I have been struggling to for so long.<br /><br />I too love details but more than anything I am excited when a bride shows me a details that has a relevance to her and her fiance- the cake knives her mum used, a ring pillow (I know noone see's the point of these!) with lace from her mother, pokemon cake toppers because they met over pokemon. That's what excites me!<br /><br />It what I wanted to help others do- to think past what they "had" to have into things that reflected who "they" are and the love that they have. Thankyou Kathryn and Thankyou Meg for putting into words what I have been struggling to for so long.

I too love details but more than anything I am excited when a bride shows me a details that has a relevance to her and her fiance- the cake knives her mum used, a ring pillow (I know noone see’s the point of these!) with lace from her mother, pokemon cake toppers because they met over pokemon. That’s what excites me!

It what I wanted to help others do- to think past what they “had” to have into things that reflected who “they” are and the love that they have.

]]> By: Autumn http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/04/in-praise-of-particular/comment-page-1/#comment-5778 Autumn Wed, 22 Apr 2009 12:56:56 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/04/in-praise-of-particular/#comment-5778 I loved this. Early on I vowed not to obsess about details, but as we went along I found ideas and thought of ways to incorporate our true "selves" into the wedding. Those aren't details, they're our personalities, and those are the things that make me smile the most. I loved this. Early on I vowed not to obsess about details, but as we went along I found ideas and thought of ways to incorporate our true “selves” into the wedding. Those aren’t details, they’re our personalities, and those are the things that make me smile the most.

]]> By: mimsie http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/04/in-praise-of-particular/comment-page-1/#comment-5779 mimsie Wed, 22 Apr 2009 09:20:06 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/04/in-praise-of-particular/#comment-5779 "meaningful rituals". That's a beautiful and simple way to put it. I may have to scrawl it across my wedding planner, my laptop, and every wall in this wedding infested house to keep myself in check. ;) “meaningful rituals”. That’s a beautiful and simple way to put it. I may have to scrawl it across my wedding planner, my laptop, and every wall in this wedding infested house to keep myself in check. ;)

]]> By: Cate Subrosa http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/04/in-praise-of-particular/comment-page-1/#comment-5780 Cate Subrosa Wed, 22 Apr 2009 01:37:04 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/04/in-praise-of-particular/#comment-5780 LPC is right, there is definitely such a thing as an old soul, and you my dear were born wise, I'm sure of it.<br /><br />New mantra: "stuff that matters or no stuff at all." (Has a nice rhythm to it!) LPC is right, there is definitely such a thing as an old soul, and you my dear were born wise, I’m sure of it.

New mantra: “stuff that matters or no stuff at all.” (Has a nice rhythm to it!)

]]> By: Emmalinda http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/04/in-praise-of-particular/comment-page-1/#comment-5781 Emmalinda Tue, 21 Apr 2009 19:10:33 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/04/in-praise-of-particular/#comment-5781 YAY!!<br /><br />I find myself getting excited about the basics of our wedding: music, a tent, fresh local food....and overwhelmed many times when I'm looking at wedding blogs, b/c it seems that everyone is incredibly detaily! But the details stress me out. I keep telling myself not to sweat it, but it's so nice to see it in print on the interwebs.<br /><br />Thanks! YAY!!

I find myself getting excited about the basics of our wedding: music, a tent, fresh local food….and overwhelmed many times when I’m looking at wedding blogs, b/c it seems that everyone is incredibly detaily! But the details stress me out. I keep telling myself not to sweat it, but it’s so nice to see it in print on the interwebs.

Thanks!

]]> By: Catherine http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/04/in-praise-of-particular/comment-page-1/#comment-5782 Catherine Tue, 21 Apr 2009 17:43:08 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/04/in-praise-of-particular/#comment-5782 love.this.post. love.this.post.

]]> By: Meg http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/04/in-praise-of-particular/comment-page-1/#comment-5783 Meg Tue, 21 Apr 2009 15:24:02 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/04/in-praise-of-particular/#comment-5783 Lauren-<br />Haaaaaaaaaaaaaa. I'm not Zen. I'm not even close to Zen. AT ALL. I'm a sassy emotional loudmouth, who happens to be realativly grounded. I do however, think things through the best I can and string words together.<br /><br />I suppose that I am Zen compaired to most wedding media. Which says far more about them then it does about me.<br /><br />But you are sweet.<br /><br />xo Lauren-
Haaaaaaaaaaaaaa. I’m not Zen. I’m not even close to Zen. AT ALL. I’m a sassy emotional loudmouth, who happens to be realativly grounded. I do however, think things through the best I can and string words together.

I suppose that I am Zen compaired to most wedding media. Which says far more about them then it does about me.

But you are sweet.

xo

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