Comments on: Your Wedding, Your Budget http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/06/your-wedding-your-budget/ Weddings. Minus the insanity, plus the marriage. Wed, 23 May 2012 22:53:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Jeff http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/06/your-wedding-your-budget/comment-page-1/#comment-4529 Jeff Fri, 26 Jun 2009 10:59:51 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/06/your-wedding-your-budget/#comment-4529 Amen to you and ESB. The key at any budget is to balance what you can afford and what will make you happy. At the very beginning of our wedding planning, my partner and I had initially lowballed our budget, but after we priced out the things we really wanted — and experienced a little sticker shock — we looked at the things that would be <i>meaningful</i> to us (like our venue, which we have special memories of), and then looked at our finances, realized we were at a fortunate place in our lives to have some money that we were comfortable spending on this, and decided to go for it.<br /><br />Everyone's wedding is their own. It's easy to get caught up in comparing. Your title hits the nail on the head: <i>your</i> wedding, <i>your</i> budget. Amen to you and ESB. The key at any budget is to balance what you can afford and what will make you happy. At the very beginning of our wedding planning, my partner and I had initially lowballed our budget, but after we priced out the things we really wanted — and experienced a little sticker shock — we looked at the things that would be meaningful to us (like our venue, which we have special memories of), and then looked at our finances, realized we were at a fortunate place in our lives to have some money that we were comfortable spending on this, and decided to go for it.

Everyone's wedding is their own. It's easy to get caught up in comparing. Your title hits the nail on the head: your wedding, your budget.

]]> By: Miss High Heels http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/06/your-wedding-your-budget/comment-page-1/#comment-4530 Miss High Heels Fri, 26 Jun 2009 00:06:54 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/06/your-wedding-your-budget/#comment-4530 Whenever anyone tries to make me feel guilty over my supposed wedding spending I'm going to re-read this post and East Side Bride's post. Thank you for pointing out the obvious, that each couple's wedding budget is personal and should not be used to tear the happy couple apart. Whenever anyone tries to make me feel guilty over my supposed wedding spending I'm going to re-read this post and East Side Bride's post. Thank you for pointing out the obvious, that each couple's wedding budget is personal and should not be used to tear the happy couple apart.

]]> By: Accidental Housewife http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/06/your-wedding-your-budget/comment-page-1/#comment-4531 Accidental Housewife Thu, 25 Jun 2009 21:22:46 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/06/your-wedding-your-budget/#comment-4531 LPC: Oh, no worries there! Planning a wedding WITH children! Yep! Which makes trying to justify the expense of wedding planning that much more difficult. BUT, we want to be married. We want to have a wedding to make that happen. And that costs money. period. (true story: my man-friend proposed and I turned him down because, after ten years I thought it was "impractical". Thankfully, he's convinced me otherwise!) LPC: Oh, no worries there! Planning a wedding WITH children! Yep! Which makes trying to justify the expense of wedding planning that much more difficult. BUT, we want to be married. We want to have a wedding to make that happen. And that costs money. period. (true story: my man-friend proposed and I turned him down because, after ten years I thought it was "impractical". Thankfully, he's convinced me otherwise!)

]]> By: Meg http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/06/your-wedding-your-budget/comment-page-1/#comment-4532 Meg Thu, 25 Jun 2009 20:46:05 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/06/your-wedding-your-budget/#comment-4532 Oh LPC,<br />You think I don't spend time worrying about THAT? I might or might not already own a baby related domain name, because I *know* I'll need to vent then. Oh LPC,
You think I don't spend time worrying about THAT? I might or might not already own a baby related domain name, because I *know* I'll need to vent then.

]]> By: LPC http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/06/your-wedding-your-budget/comment-page-1/#comment-4533 LPC Thu, 25 Jun 2009 18:46:02 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/06/your-wedding-your-budget/#comment-4533 All I can say is, wait until you all enter the world of having children. You think the WIC is oppressive. Try the cultural expectations for the continuation of the species... All I can say is, wait until you all enter the world of having children. You think the WIC is oppressive. Try the cultural expectations for the continuation of the species…

]]> By: P. http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/06/your-wedding-your-budget/comment-page-1/#comment-4534 P. Thu, 25 Jun 2009 15:55:57 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/06/your-wedding-your-budget/#comment-4534 i very much enjoyed this and the post on ESB. can't we all just be happy and supportive of each other for finding LOVE and celebrating that fact, no matter what kind of party we decide to throw, or how much money we decide to spend?<br /><br />i started this wedding planning process wanting to have a "budget" wedding. after crunching our numbers recently, our final costs will probably tip us into what's considered an "average" wedding. but those terms mean jack to us because we are throwing a party that is immensely personal to us, true to what we love, planned in the most practical of ways to ensure that our money and our parents' generous contributions were used to the fullest, and that our friends, family, and guests would have a damn good time celebrating with us. because it's not just about US (though, yeah, it's kind of the reason we're having the wedding ;)), but it's about the happiness, love, and joy that's going to fill that room and you can't put a $ tag on that! i very much enjoyed this and the post on ESB. can't we all just be happy and supportive of each other for finding LOVE and celebrating that fact, no matter what kind of party we decide to throw, or how much money we decide to spend?

i started this wedding planning process wanting to have a "budget" wedding. after crunching our numbers recently, our final costs will probably tip us into what's considered an "average" wedding. but those terms mean jack to us because we are throwing a party that is immensely personal to us, true to what we love, planned in the most practical of ways to ensure that our money and our parents' generous contributions were used to the fullest, and that our friends, family, and guests would have a damn good time celebrating with us. because it's not just about US (though, yeah, it's kind of the reason we're having the wedding ;)), but it's about the happiness, love, and joy that's going to fill that room and you can't put a $ tag on that!

]]> By: Anonymous http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/06/your-wedding-your-budget/comment-page-1/#comment-4535 Anonymous Thu, 25 Jun 2009 14:27:34 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/06/your-wedding-your-budget/#comment-4535 Thank you Thank you Thank you. I always feel badly about the budget of my wedding because it seems way too much compared to other "practical" ones. But the fact is, it would not be practical for us to have a cheap DIY wedding when we live 1200 miles from the venue and from our families and when I am working on my PhD and spending a third of my year in the field gathering data. Thank you Thank you Thank you. I always feel badly about the budget of my wedding because it seems way too much compared to other "practical" ones. But the fact is, it would not be practical for us to have a cheap DIY wedding when we live 1200 miles from the venue and from our families and when I am working on my PhD and spending a third of my year in the field gathering data.

]]> By: Meg http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/06/your-wedding-your-budget/comment-page-1/#comment-4536 Meg Thu, 25 Jun 2009 14:13:23 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/06/your-wedding-your-budget/#comment-4536 Louis,<br />I think I will. Perhaps I will use it whenever people say things like, "but you CAN'T have XXX and have a practical wedding. You CAN'T." And I might even share it with ESB, though goodness knows that might be dangerous.<br /><br />Meg Louis,
I think I will. Perhaps I will use it whenever people say things like, "but you CAN'T have XXX and have a practical wedding. You CAN'T." And I might even share it with ESB, though goodness knows that might be dangerous.

Meg

]]> By: April http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/06/your-wedding-your-budget/comment-page-1/#comment-4537 April Thu, 25 Jun 2009 13:28:43 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/06/your-wedding-your-budget/#comment-4537 LOVE this. Loved ESB's comments too. <br /><br />I beat myself up because I feel I'm spending to much.<br /><br />Then I beat myself up again because I think, "Why NOT spend the $$? We've worked hard and saved, and this is gonna be a fantastic celebration to remember."<br /><br />*sigh*<br /><br />So, my mantra for the finance side of the wedding is, "More than some, less than the Royal Family's."<br /><br />And there ya go. LOVE this. Loved ESB's comments too.

I beat myself up because I feel I'm spending to much.

Then I beat myself up again because I think, "Why NOT spend the $$? We've worked hard and saved, and this is gonna be a fantastic celebration to remember."

*sigh*

So, my mantra for the finance side of the wedding is, "More than some, less than the Royal Family's."

And there ya go.

]]> By: Luis http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/06/your-wedding-your-budget/comment-page-1/#comment-4538 Luis Thu, 25 Jun 2009 12:33:04 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2009/06/your-wedding-your-budget/#comment-4538 Meg, I think you should form a wedding club.<br /><br />Maybe out of wood.<br /><br />How you use it is completely up to you. Meg, I think you should form a wedding club.

Maybe out of wood.

How you use it is completely up to you.

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