When you look back, it's different. Some are looking at each other. Some are crying. Some seem to be concentrating really hard. In that moment, you feel connected to all of them. It's strange and peaceful.

But yes, we will spend time with those people who mean something to us. Wise words.

It's a party! You've spent months planning so that you can spend this day celebrating. Just celebrate! Make your way around the room and talk to your guests. (What on earth else would you be doing?!) Eat and drink and dance and enjoy yourself. It's that simple, if you make it that simple. It's up to you. (And we all know what you want, so just get out there and do it.)

You're going to have a blast, Meg. It's not a production, it's a party.

I didn't get a chance to have any long, in-depth, one on one conversations on my wedding day. But I don't regret it at ALL. I had time to say hello and make some connection with every single one of our guests (well, except two, but they're local and my husband said hi to them at least), and I feel really, really good about that.

One thing that helped was that we had several pre and post wedding events where I had the chance to connect to people in smaller groups, so by the time the wedding day rolled around I'd already had the chance to connect to many of our guests and wasn't stressed about it.

Another thing that really helped was that I delegated EVERYTHING on the wedding day. My friends and relatives didn't let me do a thing and I was still called away from a lot of conversations to consult on one thing or another. Really, there is no reason for you to be in charge of ANYTHING logistical on the wedding day, especially once the ceremony starts. Delegate delegate delegate. Once the day starts, let go of everything and you'll be much less scattered.

What other people said about not seeing your new spouse really resonated for me too–we actually didn't spend much time together at the reception. At the time I felt a little sad about it, but in retrospect I'm glad it worked out that way–we had a fabulous yichud together where we just sat and tried to take it all in, and then we went on a honeymoon where we saw no one but each other for over three solid days. We didn't need to hang out constantly at our wedding reception–we have the rest of our lives to do that. And it enabled us to each make the connections we wanted most to make without worrying about what the other person was missing out on. My husband got to spend some one on one time with his mother, I got to hold my baby cousin, it worked out pretty well.

Thinking back on it, I didn't have any deep one-on-one conversations during any of the events with anyone but my husband and my maid of honor. But that's all right. I had a moment of connection with each guest–I can picture their face in my mind and remember what they were saying. I'm usually all about the one-on-one conversations, but… it's okay to have multiple modes of interaction, and this event was about the group interaction. I feel really good about it, and that's what matters in the end at least.