Post-Wedding Freedom


by Meg Keene, Editor-In-Chief

The evening of our wedding day we were browsing in a used bookstore (this is not surprising to you, is it? Of course not). I was looking through the magazine section and I stumbled upon a wedding magazine, a wedding magazine that I *like* at that. And I had this dull feeling in the pit of my stomach.

And suddenly I realized, “It’s not my problem anymore!” And I felt terribly terribly free.

You hear a lot about post-wedding depression. You hear about how when you wake up the morning after your wedding you will feel happy, but also a little empty… sad that the party is over. Maybe. Maybe this will happen to you, I don’t know. But what I can offer you is a ray of hope – it did not happen to us. Our wedding was wonderful. Our wedding was absurdly joyous. Our wedding was one amazing party. But it was exactly the right length, and when it was over I ran out of that door, making long strides in my silver heels as I dashed to the car.

Our wedding was just right. But we are both so happy to move on. We’ll have it in our memories for ever, and now we have a wide open vista ahead of us, with new adventures to be had…

Meg Keene

Meg is the Founder and EIC of APW. Her first book, A Practical Wedding: Creative Solutions for Planning a Beautiful, Affordable, and Meaningful Celebration, was published in January 2012, and has been a top three bestseller on the wedding bookshelf ever since. Meg has her BFA in Drama from NYU’s Tisch School of the Arts. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her husband and son.

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  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/14678228538722128590 meredithbee

    You summed it up perfectly! Happy it's over, happy that so much is about to begin. What's to be sad about?

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/00174894872050076618 Marie-Ève

    This picture is lovely, and I CAN'T WAIT to see more of your dress…

    I'm with you on that (I even posted about it last week). I enjoyed every minute of it, but I didn't feel bad it was over at all. Moving on. Other fun projects to come! Freedom is the right word.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/03208244458086146065 Blablover5

    I was so incredibly happy to not have to think about all those little wedding things anymore.

    My sister-in-law was in the middle of planning her wedding while we had ours so come Christmas my husband and I would trade knowing looks while she'd bicker with her mother over invitations or flower colors.

    I much prefer being on the other side of the Wedding Complex.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/03534900102032292325 writtenbliss

    Me too, Meg! I remember waking up the morning after the wedding going "YESSSSS, it's over!" and being SO happy to be a wife and not a fiancee any longer. The wedding was spectacular, but the life after is even more so.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/14893442520502947603 Jennifer

    I agree with you completely, and I also have to echo what Blablover5 said…I definitely prefer being on the married side than the wedding-planning side. "It's not my problem anymore!" is exactly how I felt once our wedding was over. I enjoyed the day, it was lovely, but it was OVER.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/06272654565469914998 sam

    Isn't this the way it should be? When you're not just wrapped up in planning "The Day".
    The wedding will be fun, but it's the marriage that will be the real adventure. I know that's what I'm looking forward to.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/09197008991622181061 PrincessMax

    Thank you for posting this. I'm struggling to get myself motivated to do the last implementation details (many of which are crucial) and feeling like I'm the only bride in the world who isn't totally excited about her wedding. The fact that you are looking back without regret that it is over shows me that although it was important, it was not necessarily all-consuming. I think I can shoot for that.

  • http://www.wornthrough.com Heather

    I so needed this today. I'm not at all interested in thinking about my wedding (which is almost a month away). I'm looking forward to the day when I don't have to think about the planning anymore.

  • TNM

    Many thanks for these thoughts… I'm a little under two months out and SO ready for the wedding to be over. There is a lot of joy in the planning and lead up, but man, I want my freedom back.

    (The honeymoon trip, on the other hand, could last forever'n'ever as far as I'm concerned…!)

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/03410537408217066331 Words and Steel

    thanks for this post, love. it gave me the will to say what i had to say on my blog. i feel really free now, too!

  • http://www.themaidenmetallurgist.com The Maiden Metallurgist

    We didn't have any PWD either, we were both just exhausted and relieved.

  • Anonymous

    When I was married a long time ago, I also was relieved that it was DONE! I didn't look back.

    A wedding is a beginning of something; not the end. A wedding should be about all the times you have to look forward to.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/12051581432652556410 Marina

    The only post-wedding sadness I feel is when I walk past the hotel where most of our guests stayed and I miss my family. Other than that, it's time to go on to bigger and better things!

  • Anonymous

    You are killing us with just a glimpse of the dress, you know. Really want to get a good look at that skirt because I think I love it.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/11784946794675621661 Kaki

    I'm right there with you! It's so freeing to have your life back. It has been a month and I still marvel at having free time. I will never have to plan anything like that again and I'M SO HAPPY!

  • http://budgetbeautiful.wordpress.com/ budgetbeautiful

    This post sums up how I know I'll feel. I hate that pretty much every weekend from now until the wedding (at the end of September) is taken up with wedding crap! I know I will feel free after it's done.

    Wishing you a wonderful honeymoon and I can't wait to see more photos from the wedding!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/17572133516556386284 *Michelle

    I love it! CONGRATS! And hooray for no post weeding depression. I heard SOO much about this that I was rather surprised I didn't feel it. We just kept thinking "Wow that was great. Can we do it again next weekend?!"

  • Cate Subrosa

    Everyone I know is getting engaged lately and I am SO glad I have already been there, done that.

  • Monica

    Exactly!! Everyone kept telling me it’s depressing! Like the day after Christmas, when it’s all over and you go back to normal. I don’t know what kind of Christmas they have but the day after my Christmas AND my wedding was relaxed and wonderful. SUCH a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders and now my new husband and I can just enjoy each other.