It’s funny, wedding bloggers never seem to blog during wedding weekend. But one of the joys of getting married where you live (and there are many, but we’ll go into that later) is that I’m still sitting on my couch, with my laptop in my living room (at least for now).
So what is wedding weekend like so far? I would say that it feels like the toughest yoga class I’ve ever been to, but also the most rewarding one. Because here is the thing – when you get all of your friends and relations together in one place for an event that feels high stakes – people will get stressed out, things will not always go as expected, though wonderful things will happen to. That’s human, that’s normal. But most of the time, when stressful things happen, we can give in to being annoyed. We can let the crappy bits of life stand larger than the joyful bits. But for your wedding you can’t get thrown by little things. You have to pull yourself back to a core of calm that you’ve created for yourself, over and over again. You have to remember that a wedding is about love, and people stand still for love. You have to remember what wise wedding graduate Christina told me: “It is not your business what other people think of you.” Because it’s your wedding. You can’t leave a bit of you behind gnawing over that little thing that went wrong, or that weird comment someone made. You have to show up with all of yourself.
Or, in the words of an old Jewish prayer that leapt off the page for me today:
“The entire world is a very narrow bridge
And the essential thing is not to succumb to fear.”
So I’m here. And I’m breathing in the moments as they come.