Leah and Omid’s Low-Stress, High-Fun Wedding


I’m so lucky to be sharing multiple weddings this week from members of Team Practical that found their photographer(s) through the site, and who I think are fantastic people as well as being fantastic photographers. And Leah is also… just great. She donated her wedding dress through the site, because it was more important to her to share with the community than to keep a really emotionally loaded object for herself. So, it’s no surprise that her wedding was amazing. Beautiful not only in looks (because it was) but in spirit. So, so, beautiful in spirit. (And for those of you who’ve been asking me for some non-DIY weddings already – and I *hear* you – this is it):Leah and Omids Low Stress, High Fun Wedding | A Practical WeddingLocation: Ceremony at San Francisco Institute of Art, Reception at Zarzuela
Leah and Omids Low Stress, High Fun Wedding | A Practical WeddingWhat made our wedding creative wasn’t the crafts or the details because there weren’t many of those. In fact, as my wedding approached I had a couple of minor meltdowns about the lack of personality in our wedding because there weren’t programs or favors or cute DIY projects. I realized that I was looking at it wrong. Our wedding was something that I never thought would happen. Omid had repeatedly stated his views on marriage, the fact that he didn’t think it was important or necessary because we had already made a commitment to each other. What changed his mind is his love for me. He realized how important it was to me and he has always done everything in his power to make me happy, so this was just another one of those things that he did. His willingness meant the world to me and I didn’t want him to wonder what made him change his mind so I did everything I could to make sure the wedding reflected us, his anti-wedding attitude and all. We focused on food, family, friends and our love for each other. Leah and Omids Low Stress, High Fun Wedding | A Practical WeddingHe didn’t want a stressed out bride so I threw a lot of the traditional stuff out the window. No cute DIY projects, no programs, favors, flower arrangements, or anything like that. There were times when this was hard for me but sites like this one helped to remind that our wedding was about us and our love for each other.Leah and Omids Low Stress, High Fun Wedding | A Practical WeddingAnother way that we made the wedding more personal was having it at our favorite tapas restaurant, Zarzuela, where we picked every dish served. We had our favorite waiter there who helped make our day memorable and sang us a traditional Spanish wedding song that is passed down among his family. The best man found a flamenco group to perform.Leah and Omids Low Stress, High Fun Wedding | A Practical WeddingOur reception won’t win us any spreads in magazines but it was everything I could ever have possibly hoped for.Leah and Omids Low Stress, High Fun Wedding | A Practical WeddingI should admit that we didn’t have a budget. We thought of our wedding as a wedding week and we had things planned for many different days and we just tried to stay reasonable about our spending. When we tried to do a budget we both got super stressed and stress was not something that we wanted to be a part of our wedding. However, there were things that we did that helped us save money. First, we got rid of a lot of traditional wedding items. Second, I went to a bridesmaids store, Bella Bridesmaids, to find my dress. I knew I wanted it to be affordable and I was planning on getting something short with a poofy skirt. I didn’t get that but I still found a dress. I didn’t think it was perfect, perfect would have cost a lot more, but to keep it in budget all I was looking for was something that I felt beautiful in and I found it. Third, we kept our wedding small, 40 people including us. And last, we hired an amazing photographer, Emily of Emily Takes Photos, who happens to be incredibly affordable.

What made our wedding sane was the overwhelming amount of love around me that day and the days leading up to the wedding. Leading up to it, my sister did a wonderful job of being nothing but positive and supportive of our plan. She was there whenever I needed something. The whole thing reminded me that it is great to have a sister, even better to have one who is also my best friend and biggest fan. On the day of not everything went smoothly or looked the way I wanted but I could feel the love for my husband and family trying to burst through every part of me. Most of my wedding pictures show me laughing because I was just so incredibly joyous. We also made sure to spend a lot of time with everyone (before, during, and after the wedding) which didn’t leave much time to stress out about stuff. I had a bad day or two but overall I was relatively calm about the whole thing. It was amazing to be surrounded my so much love and support. It was like I was cocooned in a giant security blanket and I was floating on a high from it for days after.Leah and Omids Low Stress, High Fun Wedding | A Practical WeddingOther than our friends and family, a key part that helped us stay sane was that we had a cocktail party that night. We had a lunch reception that we had purposely
kept small and low key but there were people we still really wanted to be part of our day. We decided to hold a cocktail party and invite the wedding guests and friends and family that we hadn’t been able to invite to the ceremony/reception. It also fixed one of the other problems I had been having with our wedding plan, no dancing. Not only did we host our event in a small restaurant but my grandfather seriously injured himself a month before the wedding and he was in a lot of pain at the time. I knew that if there was dancing he wouldn’t be able to stop himself from getting on the dance floor for at least one dance with me. So in the interest of space and my grandpa’s pride we nixed dancing. I was bummed about the lack of a first dance and not being able to dance with my dad but the cocktail party fixed it. Granted, I was dancing in a cocktail dress I had borrowed, with shoes that didn’t match because my feet hurt, on a wooden deck to teeny bopper music on my neice’s ipod but I was also dancing with my husband, my dad, my mom, my sister, my neices, friends, and new in-laws under the stars on one of the happiest days of my life and it just doesn’t get any better than that.Leah and Omids Low Stress, High Fun Wedding | A Practical WeddingOne thing that surprised me was how happy being married has made me. I’ve always valued the the commitment inherent in a wedding and wedding vows but Omid’s attitude and my tendency towards cynicism made me wonder, at times, why we were doing it. I didn’t expect to feel any differently but I did and still do. I was nervous, I had butterflies in my stomach, and the moment of our first look it was like my smile was trying to escape my face it was so big. I couldn’t stop looking at my husband-to-be and I felt like the luckiest girl in the world. Cliche but totally true. There was so much love it was like I was floating the whole day and I don’t think I ever stopped smiling or laughing. I still giggle when I call him husband and when he calls me wife it makes me just as giddy as on our wedding day. After all the talk about how weddings weren’t as important these days, about the politics of marriage and the injustice that forbids some people from marrying the people they love, I expected to be underwhelmed by the words and the sentiment. I wasn’t, they did matter. They settled into my skin and my being and the fact that I am spending the rest of my life with this amazing man by my side became very very real.Leah and Omids Low Stress, High Fun Wedding | A Practical WeddingPhotos by Emily Takes Photos, of course.

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  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/16188994551748661706 redwhitebride

    wow… what a lovely wedding. he's getting concerned about not being able to dance at the reception venue (but we will go to a pub for an after-party). i have to show this wedding to him :)

  • fran

    Ah….this makes me so happy. I am one who has also in the past had reservations about whether there was a need to make the marriage statement. Now that i really feel i want to do that so just live in hope that my partner can also come to that thinking. Yes I would like the floss of the wedding but my I would just love to express the emotion that you have talked about. Best wishes

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/14994374749738180430 Katie Jane Parker

    I love this wedding! This is exactly what I'm hoping for on my own wedding day. My fiance is also the same… he didn't think marriage was necessary because we were already so committed to one another. But he realized that, although I don't think of myself as a traditional person in many respects, this is one traditional thing that I did want, and he actually did too, because of his love for me. So this wedding really rang true for us, and how we are approaching our own wedding.

    And I love her dress! I am so glad it found such a great home. What a generous bride!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/07964067874449854147 Heather

    Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! For sharing this wedding. Mine is just around the corner (10/3/09) and I'm at a high anxiety level over things like programs, and christmas lights, and do I have all the information in my head down on paper etc. This totally helped to center me and take a step back and realize that no matter what I do or don't do in the next 10 days – my wedding day is going to be simply beautiful because when all is said and done – I'm still coming out married to my best friend.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/11097163969864312650 K

    this may be one of my favorite wedding grad posts to date! perhaps b/c i'm just biased and it so closely mirrors my own wedding plans…

    we're also having the reception in a restaurant – no muss no fuss – no need for big arrangements, decorations, favors, programs, etc. etc.

    thanks for sharing and congrats on such a beautiful and happy wedding and marriage

  • Anonymous

    This is just like my fiancĂŠ and me! We both wonder what the purpose of getting married is when we're already committed to each other, but I grew up dreaming about my wedding and it's hard to let that go. I imagine it will be special just to have so many of our loved ones together, and it's inspiring to read stories like yours. I'm curious, did Omid feel any differently during or after the wedding? Was it more meaningful than he'd expected? I know some guys just aren't like that. :) We had a bigger wedding planned over a year ago and ended up canceling a few months prior because it just wasn't us. I was feeling envious of people having second marriages because they seemed more free to do what they wanted! We lost about $2000 in deposits but saved a LOT of money overall. We've happily settled on a private family reunion with no more than 30 people and everyone staying in the same place, with a wedding ceremony and reception in the middle of the weekend at the same location. We're able to put everyone up there and still have a much smaller budget. It's coming up in November and I can't wait!! I want other couples to know it's okay to change your plans…it worked out really well for us.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/16826856044690823004 iheartkiwi

    a flamenco dancer AND tapas! love it. a girl after my own heart.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04991021631976832780 Leah

    Omid still has the same views about marriage but the day was more special to him than he thought it would be. Being with our loved ones and having our families come together not only meant a lot to him but it also strengthened the bond he felt with me. We were both fully committed to each other before the wedding and didn't feel like we needed a ceremony to prove that commitment but somehow we both came out of it feeling like our commitment to each other changed subtly. It strengthened and deepened in completely unexpected ways.

    Thank you all so much for the comments, it has been so nice to read all the sweet things that are being posted. Best wishes to all you soon to be brides!

  • Anonymous

    I hope this doesn't hurt the feelings of DIY brides . . .

    I love going to a beautiful location and looking at pretty flowers. I love a moving ceremony and witnessing the couple's happiness. I love being there to support them. I love wedding cakes.

    BUT . . .

    As a guest, I actually don't want to be given anything I have to carry around, i.e. programs, favors, etc . . .

    What I'd like in my hands is a drink, some food, and people to hug.

    ;-)

    Also, I thought this wedding WAS pretty! What else do people want?

  • Anonymous

    For a man who wasn't keen on the institution of marriage, Omid sure is smiling a lot.

    :-)

  • April

    Beautiful. I'm bawling after that very heartfelt and sweet post!

    And drooling over the fact they had a tapas lunch. I think I spied my FAVE tapa of all in one of the photos: tortilla espanola. YUMMY!

    Sounds like it was a lovely day and most importantly: a day crafted exactly the way this couple intended. Cheers!

  • April

    p.s and THANK YOU to the bride for being honest about NOT having crafty bits. The mere thought of crafty bits sends me into bridal overload. Yes, they're lovely – and yes, I adore looking at the things other talented people can create.

    But Lord have mercy: I just don't give a fig about making them myself. I'm in a tizzy already about placecards!!

    So "Hurrah!" for no crafty bits!!!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/14255085164215672341 brooke

    this is beautiful and looks so peaceful and happy. i love it!

  • K

    This is another sanity post for me to keep when I’m letting the DIY weddings overwhelm me. (I’m not a crafty person… but am apparently forever wishing I was.)