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Wedding Graduate: Anna of Fruit of A Common Tree
Nov
2009
I'm thrilled to introduce loyal (and awesome) reader Anna with the tale of her wedding to her husband Andrew. Like so many of your stories, we could dwell on how savvy she was, and how she saved money and had a beautiful wedding - and that spirit of practical mixed with adventurous would be delight enough. But instead, I want to dwell on Anna's Wedding Graduate wisdom, because wise women sharing is the heart of what we're doing here, and Anna is both generous and wise with her knowledge. Well, that, and I'm always *thrilled* to get to share another interfaith wedding. So with that, I give you Anna:
A little about us: The context of our engagement was graduate school, so by the time the wedding rolled around, spending a lot of money seemed wasteful and outrageous. Finding employment after school made us appreciate what we had even more, so we purchased very basic necessities as we could afford them, one step at a time.
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Achem.
Nov
2009
Ladies, my few lovely Gentleman,
There have been beggings, and some pleadings for more real weddings, nownownow (which is a delight to me, I didn't know you all loved them so). I am doing my best this week, but if you're sitting at home thinking, "Hum. I've been meaning to send my wedding over to Meg," do. Or drop me a line to get the wedding graduate prompt if you've been dreaming of being a graduate.
I can tell you that I'm so grateful for getting the chance to write about our wedding. Having put it down in words makes me remember it that much better, and lets me go back and re-live it, through my own eyes, anytime I need to be closer to that moment. So. Writing about your wedding may be the best gift you can give yourself (and yes, you'll figure out surprising things as you write).
Think about it,
Meg Continue reading Achem.
There have been beggings, and some pleadings for more real weddings, nownownow (which is a delight to me, I didn't know you all loved them so). I am doing my best this week, but if you're sitting at home thinking, "Hum. I've been meaning to send my wedding over to Meg," do. Or drop me a line to get the wedding graduate prompt if you've been dreaming of being a graduate.
I can tell you that I'm so grateful for getting the chance to write about our wedding. Having put it down in words makes me remember it that much better, and lets me go back and re-live it, through my own eyes, anytime I need to be closer to that moment. So. Writing about your wedding may be the best gift you can give yourself (and yes, you'll figure out surprising things as you write).
Think about it,
Meg Continue reading Achem.
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Sponsored Post: A Turtle Love Committee
Nov
2009
These beautiful wedding bands are made from recycled silver cast in bands of cork, by the eco-friendly and generally wonderful Turtle Love Committee. And it wouldn't be Thanksgiving if I didn't have something wonderful for you all - Turtle Love Committee is running a GREAT sale on that includes my favorite wedding set for $70!! So, happy Thanksgiving from APW and the Turtle Love Committee!
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Calming.
Nov
2009
Dear Everyone,
You notice I turned the comments off on the please discuss post, and that comments are off on this post. I'm not quite sure why, so many of the times we talk about wife-hood on this site the comments get hijacked to talk about some sort of mythical fight between stay at home moms and working moms, but let me be very clear:
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You notice I turned the comments off on the please discuss post, and that comments are off on this post. I'm not quite sure why, so many of the times we talk about wife-hood on this site the comments get hijacked to talk about some sort of mythical fight between stay at home moms and working moms, but let me be very clear:
- As far as I'm concerned there is *nothing* to debate. Whatever choice you make about caring for your children is between you and your partner. I hope we are able to make these decisions based on what is practical and what brings our family joy, not based on ideology of any sort.
- As Cate, who read the comments in shock while she nursed her baby girl pointed out, there are many ways to skin a cat. It's not working moms versus stay at home moms, its how each of us chooses over the years to find a balance that works for us and for our children.
- This is *not* a parenting blog. Period. This is a blog for talking about weddings and for talking about our experiences with marriage. Part of the reason that I'm tackling talking about marriage is that I think that there need to be more places to discuss our lives and experiences as married people (for most of us that means wives) totally separately from being parents (or mothers). Sometimes kids tangentially are part of the discussion, but that is not what the discussion is about.
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Promise.
Nov
2009
I was reading Lauren's blog yesterday (you'll remember Lauren from her fabulous wedding in the MIT chapel). And I came across something that made me really sit up and take notice. Really take notice. Because when I talk about having a brave marriage, and not wanting to put off things like travel, and wanting to really voraciously experience life together, without kids, with kids, however, whenever that of course has a little to do with my family of origin. My parents (you'll remember their wedding from back here) are very happily married, and have had wonderful lives doing work they love. They did, however, always put off things like travel till "one day" or "when the kids are grown." And now they are less spry than they were, and still haven't traveled the world together, which makes me sad. So I want to make sure I don't miss that.
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Please Discuss.
Nov
2009
I've been wondering lately (and asking in some of our long chatty comment discussions) if it's possible that this idea of 'one perfect day,' 'your big day,' you should look like a princess,' blah blah blah are maybe all tied up with our concepts of being a wife.
Because the stuff about being a wife that gets drilled into our heads through our cultural noise (hello Oprah) is about how once you become a wife (and mother, since, well, obviously that's next) 'you let yourself go' and 'you put yourself last' and 'after you have kids it's not about your dreams anymore, you won't even care about your dreams!'* And if, at least partially, you believe all that.... then don't you deserve to go out with a bang? Don't you deserve a day of perfection, a day of everyone catering to you, a day of being a princess? Because if you really believe that your wedding day is the happiest day of your life, don't you want to make it as grand as possible before you go into the long decline?
What do you think? Are these two lines of cultural chatter connected? Are they totally not? What am I missing? I could be very wrong, but I keep rolling this over in my head, so I wanted to throw it out there. Chat!
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Because the stuff about being a wife that gets drilled into our heads through our cultural noise (hello Oprah) is about how once you become a wife (and mother, since, well, obviously that's next) 'you let yourself go' and 'you put yourself last' and 'after you have kids it's not about your dreams anymore, you won't even care about your dreams!'* And if, at least partially, you believe all that.... then don't you deserve to go out with a bang? Don't you deserve a day of perfection, a day of everyone catering to you, a day of being a princess? Because if you really believe that your wedding day is the happiest day of your life, don't you want to make it as grand as possible before you go into the long decline?
What do you think? Are these two lines of cultural chatter connected? Are they totally not? What am I missing? I could be very wrong, but I keep rolling this over in my head, so I wanted to throw it out there. Chat!
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