Comments on: Classic APW: How Is More Important Than How Much

By: Mrs T

Mrs T — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:43:25 +0000

I love the bit about how to spend your money. I own and run a small business and know how hard at times that can be.

When we were trying to hire table cloths and chair covers we were trying to save money by going with a big company. But then we ran across a lady around our age that runs a hire place from her shed. We went to see her at the shed beside her house, her two little kids twirling around in chair sashes and it just felt right. How much more the money would mean to her than to some big corporation. Even though it cost us a few dollars more we went with her. And you're so right – it just feels better.

By: Mouse

Mouse — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 14:54:26 +0000

Yay, Meg! Yay for karma and re-posting this.

And thanks for being patient about watching me learn all this for myself! xo

By: melinda

melinda — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 11:39:04 +0000

In the homestretch, when I'm adding up all the last minute purchases and the accounts that need to be settled on the day of, this post was a godsend (as I'm reading it for the first time). I'm confident in the How – no need to fret the How Much and condemn myself for it!

By: Ms. Bunny

Ms. Bunny — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 11:19:55 +0000

Thank you everyone. We really do not want to put it off because of finances. It's just one of those weeks where the whole budgeting process seems like an insurmountable mountain. It's difficult to realize that I personally won't be able to contribute much at all because of grad school. It's hard to reconcile that because I've always valued paying my own way for things. Plus there might be some family conflicts due to ceremony location. But it'll get worked out â€” you've all renewed my hope.

By: A Los Angeles Love

A Los Angeles Love — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 10:37:56 +0000

When I first red this post I hadn't started planning my wedding, but it made perfect "duh" sense. It's the way I try and approach my entire life and I was committed to it for my wedding. But then, after jumping into this wedding thing full on, this is the sort of post that helps me keep sane, especially as the budget balloons beyond my nice initial number and especially as I make peace with the whys of my individual decisions and compromises. Which is, after all, how I try and approach my entire life after all.

By: Peonies and Polaroids

Peonies and Polaroids — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 09:57:01 +0000

Hey! You quoted me! I love you even more.

@bunniesnbeagles don't put it off, just do it cheaply. It's possible. Equally, take your time finding out what is available and at what price. We booked a lot of things straight away when we got engaged, a year later we had come across quite a few much cheaper options but we were stuck with our initial decisions.

You can do it. Wonderfully. With any budget, I promise.

By: Peonies and Polaroids

Peonies and Polaroids — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 09:50:28 +0000

'But here is the thing: I don't care. I really, really don't care how much you spent.'

I love you.

By: Meg

Meg — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 09:45:33 +0000

Or to quote a post over at Peonies & Polaroids:
"No pockets in a shroud" as Gran used to say.

That helped.

By: WestAussie

WestAussie — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 09:12:11 +0000

sorry Ive already made a comment but just thought of one more thing to say. I'd like to quote my Grandma, who was born in the great depression and is over 80 years old. "getting married should be an emotional decision, not a financial decison"
Go Gran!

By: Jamila

Jamila — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 09:10:03 +0000

@bunniesnbeagles and Meg

Yes, please don't put off getting married because of money! Everyone's solution is different though – my family couldn't help out so my husband and I extended our engagement by 6 months to save up. Though, the engagement was so long more beacuse I had to deploy right in the middle of it. I know I could have planned the wedding in 3 months and been done with it by the time I deployed. But I didn't want to do that – it turns out I really fully enjoyed planning our wedding. If I'd shotgun styled it, I would never have had time to find out about etsy.com or this wonderful blog!!! One option that might work is to look at your favorite local resturaunt that doesn't cater to weddings (read: WAAAY more reasonable). We were surprised to find our favorite local Mexican resturaunt has a private room for functions that doesn't cost a single penny, as long as you have a least 30 guests! The menu was VERY reasonable and drinks were included at a very reasonable price as well! Plus, the resturaunt is beautifully decorated with spansih tile floors, whitewashed walls, colorful streamers, twinkle lights, colorful tablecloths and a roving mariachi band!!! Another option we looked into was a late morning wedding with brunch (everything seemed cheaper if you went with a lunch vs. dinner option, but without sacrificing quality!) or a cocktail reception.