2) When I was informed that only my aunt and one cousin will be attending my wedding (out of about 35 family members). Yes, they live in Iowa, and I am getting married in SC, BUT they’ve known about this wedding for almost a year, and I have never missed one of their weddings (EVER). Should’ve known when none of them could be bothered to attend my first wedding either.

Second marriages are just as worthy of celebration as first marriages.

It’s also made me realize that I can ditch the things that I’ve never really cared about: programs and favor to start with.

THANK YOU!!!

A dear friend, future BM, and former Bride (who had a gorgeous and ridiculously expensive wedding), asking me extremely personal questions about what our intended budget is, explaining to me in pitying tones that she’s sure we could do something really “nice” for $15, 000 (which, by the way, is way over our actual budget), and telling me that she didn’t think our interest in getting married in our home town (where we both grew up, went to grade, middle, and high school together) versus the city in which we now live fit “our aesthetic,” despite the major monetary savings and potential significance for us and our families. (And yes, I know, it’s our wedding, we can do what we want, etc., but why doesn’t anyone else know that??). Oh, and also, her not understanding how my first forays into wedding planning were stressing me out, “Really? I loved planning my wedding! It was so much fun!” Huh, no kidding. With a wealthy, indulging fiancee and significant contribution from your parents, you had fun planning?

The cost of everything. Seriously. Every single thing I look at is so freaking expensive I can’t take it.

Finding a location. Everywhere cool is expensive. Nothing fits both our budget and our tastes. We don’t even know what our tastes ARE.

I am finishing my Master’s degree in education, and will be working in a school next year. Therefore, I would like to get married in the summer, when I will have the time to attend to all the last-minute details, travel for the honeymoon, etc. However, our good friends are already having their wedding smack dab in the middle of the summer, making it awkward if ours is too close to theirs, or not feasible for my schedule if it’s far enough away. Also, they recently found out they’re pregnant and got married in a courthouse for insurance reasons. But are going through with their summer wedding anyway.

Blurg. Sorry, I know I sound like a whiny jerk, even to myself. But I really had no idea how stressful this was all going to be. I’m so grateful that I found this site and community in which I can read others’ struggles and vent about my own. It helps deflate a lot of the engragement. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

It engrages me that even after giving my little brother everything he wanted, he cant just give me what I want which is a destination wedding with my parents and man I love.

Let’s start with because your the one standing in the MOH place on the altar when we get married, followed by it will be in the program and end with giving me the feeling that egrages me the the most…This isn’t about you it is about me and my FI!!!!

I feel engraged when the event planner at our venue agrees to but insults every idea I have. (Of course we can order long tables, but it might look like a cafeteria. Would you like me to go ahead and order those?).

But this is nothing compared to the engragement that I felt when I arrived to our family holiday celebration with my fiance, excited to see my sisters and cousins for the first time in months and talk to them about wedding plans. Instead I walked into the announcement that my sister had brought her FIANCE for us all to MEET – she met him 6 weeks before and they've decided they need to be married. What was the rush? She, "thought it'd be fun if we could share being a bride."