Ok, this is the part of the blog you’ve been waiting for for the last 1.5 years. The part where I ask you, “Did you watch Oprah on Monday? No, seriously, DID YOU WATCH OPRAH ON MONDAY?”
Because if you didn’t you must. Ellen Degeneres and Portia De Rossi were on, and Portia gave the most eloquent, emotional, and wise argument I’ve ever heard for marraige equality. Since I can remember, and at least since the seventh grade when I did my term paper on gay rights (yes, yes, yes, it’s true) my gut level reaction has been, “Well of course gay people should be able to get married, because it’s discriminatory not to let them. It’s wrong and unfair.” But Portia made a far more elegant and nuanced argument, a wiser argument, and one that I don’t think would have hit me in the heart the way it did before our own wedding. You can, and must, watch the whole clip on the Huffington Post, and then you can go watch bit from their wedding here (which made me weepy) but here a bit of the wisdom:
“She’s my wife, I get to say that she’s my wife and that’s just the way it is,” said Portia.
“Anybody who’s married knows there is a difference,” said Ellen. “It feels like you’re home. There’s an anchor, there’s a safety. I’m going to be with her until the day I die and I know that.”