Comments on: Wedding Planning In The Face Of Serious Illness And Even Death

By: lisa

lisa — Thu, 15 Sep 2011 09:24:59 +0000

Hi its really good to no that i am not alone 3 weeks ago i took my mum into hospital as she was having trouble brething at only 47 i thought it was astma, like the doctor had told us but no she has the most aggressive kind of lung cancer. i asked her doctor if he thinks she will make it till my wedding which was ten weeks aways…. no such luck…. my mum was going to be the one to walk me down the aisle i couldnt not have her there. we have pushed the wedding forward we are now getting married in two weeks everything feel into place i was able to just change the venue extra. However i cant help thinking that this may be the last big event i will actully have my mum at.i cant even amagine trying to tell my daughter who loves her nana sooo much that her nana has gone to heven, when she passes away. At the same time everything seems so surrheal i dont think i belive my mum has cancer has anyone else felt like this? i dream about my mum having cancer every night since we found out and when i wake up for that brief moment i think it was all just a nightmear, then i realise it not i feel lost. i have a great partner he is my rock atm

By: lisa

lisa — Thu, 15 Sep 2011 08:46:35 +0000

I know this was posted last year, but i wanted to say a huge thank you. you have actully helped me alot my wedding was supposed to be 12/11/2011 but we have moved it forward in two week01/10/2011 has we have just found out my my mum who is only 47 has terminal lung cancer and is going down hill fast. having my mum at my wedding is the most important thing to me. It gives me strength to no other people out there have gone threw the same things and tell me its worth moving it forward

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[...] 13 January 2010: Wedding Planning In The Face Of Serious Illness And Even Death: The problem I’m facing is one I’m not finding a lot of information/help on the internet, probably because talking about death is hard at the best of times, let alone at a wedding. But I’m sure that I’m not alone in dealing with a loved one’s illness during wedding planning, and I’m wondering how anyone else got through it. The kindness and stories in the comments still make me cry. [...]

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Thu, 26 Aug 2010 03:04:20 +0000

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By: Naomi

Naomi — Sat, 21 Aug 2010 03:25:30 +0000

I lost my father in June, and I get married in March of 2011. The thing is he was not sick at all just had a physical, so we have no clue what happened. I was looking foward to him walking me down the aisle to butterfly kisses, so he was cremated and his ashes were put into a locket ans I will wear it on my weeding day while walking to butterfly kisses. But since his death I had not felt like planning and my dad would yell at me if he knew that I stopped the planning because I am grieving. I think with any loss of a loved one id hard because we wanted them to share our joyus day with us, and I personally feel robbed that I do not get to have the phsyical form there. I am glad that I am not alone and that I have found this site.

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Morgan and David: Wedding in the face of death. — Mon, 09 Aug 2010 02:01:33 +0000

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By: Kim

Kim — Sat, 29 May 2010 01:56:29 +0000

im extremely glad that i just found this website. my dad was just diagnosed with stage 3 liver cancer a week ago and my wedding is in two months. i cant imagine the day without him and we are hoping the chemotherapy will remove his cancer and he will be able to attend our wedding. we’re keeping as positive as we can with this diagnosis. its good to know that other people understand our struggles.

By: Eme309

Eme309 — Fri, 09 Apr 2010 02:08:02 +0000

My fiance’s mom was diagnosed with cancer a little over 4 years ago and she always insisted she was going to be okay. We got engaged in Dec and decided to get married sooner, rather than later to be sure she would still be well enough to enjoy herself. She died, rather unexpectedly to us, 3 weeks ago. I have lost all interest in planning this wedding but we still are thrilled about getting married.
Really, I felt like one of the first people that was actually going to be able to say that I genuinely loved and enjoyed being with my mother-in-law.

This post has been what I have been looking for for weeks… thank you.

By: butterfly811

butterfly811 — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 18:59:59 +0000

You're not alone. My fiance's father has had cancer for a few years. We got engaged this past January and were planning a wedding in January 2011. Then we got news that his dad wasn't doing so well. So we moved the wedding to June and cancelled the idea of making it a destination wedding in favor of getting married where his dad is so he could make it. June is also when his brother will be on leave from the military.

Then we got news that he had six months, but I was so excited that he could make it to our wedding in June and we could all be together.

Today we got news that he's hardly able to get out of bed anymore and June isn't looking so realistic after all. He's 800 miles away. My fiance is getting a one-way ticket to go be with him; I don't have the luxury of working from out of town like he does. I'm a little lost as to how to proceed but I am glad to know I'm not alone. Feel free to email me at phatkat811@gmail.com.

By: Kat

Kat — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 01:58:08 +0000

My heart goes out to you and your family.
I find myself in a similar situation. My Mother passed away quite unexpectedly ten days ago and my wedding is supposed to be in August this year.

Today is the first time I have checked out APW since I found out my mother was being rushed to hospital three weeks ago and what do I find? A post from Meg about this very topic that no one wants to speak about.

I've had people ask me about my wedding at my mother's funeral. (SO upsetting and infuriating). Why they ask I have no idea.

In your your situation I say do what feels right for you and your fiance. Only you know what the relationship you have with your Dad is like and how much it means to you. So you're in the best position to honor it as you see fit.

I hope and pray that you will find the courage and strength to guide you through this difficult time.
When I light my Mothers candle each day I will send up a prayer that your father is able to be with you on your wedding day.
I wish you all the best.