... Or why you should ask your fiance's opinion on wedding decisions.
I just remembered a slightly intoxicated conversation I had with David and our friend Rachel about indie wedding trends. I feel like I should say up front... I was tipsy, David was not. David said this is the most exact transcription of a conversation I've ever posted. It really was this ridiculous.
Me: You know... indie wedding trends. They get as trendy as regular wedding trends.
Rachel: Indie wedding trends?
Me: Yeah. Like Mason Jars and Bunting.
David: Bunting?
Me: Ok. Um. How do I describe this? You know those little plastic triangle flags on a string they hang at used car lots?
Rachel: That's bunting?
Me: Um. I don't think the used car dealer would call it bunting, but...
David: I thought bunting was the fabric swags that you hung at the fourth of July?
Me: It is, but, no that's not this. Um, ok so the plastic triangle flags. So if you take those flags, but you make them out of gingham...
David: Gingham?
Me: Yeah, you know, like calico.
David: What?
Me: Like what you make prairie dresses from.
David: What are you even talking about?
Me: Like cotton with lots of tiny flowers and stuff.
David: Ew.
Me: Whatever. Anyway, so if you take those plastic flags and you make them out of gingham, that's bunting. For, like, hanging from the trees at your wedding.
David: Really???
Me: Yeah, it's like, rustic festive?
Ha!
I went to an arts high school and I used to call the trendy indie stuff "conforming to the fringe."
I'm using succulents at my wedding. Those are even mainstream trendy. That gave me pause, but then I thought HELLO, a) I love them, and b) I'm getting married in the desert, it totally works.
Sometimes trendy things are pretty great.
March 22, 2010 11:08 pm
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do you know whats sad, is that i LOVE reading wedding blogs and i dont even have a wedding to plan… here im worrying about if the bunting will still be rustic festive at my wedding, probably a decade from now, haha
March 23, 2010 12:15 am
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Hahaha, I love this post AND all of the comments! I'm cracking up because I apparently had a totally "trendy" wedding–a mid-morning ceremony in a barn, surrounded by mason jars, MS poms, iPod-supplied tunes, fruit pies, and a photo station, with props in front of a sheet! So help me, my bridesmaids even wore Anthropologie dresses, and my own dress was carefully chosen to show off my huge backpiece. And talk about your weirdo WIC-y descriptive language–I explained our wedding vibe online as "neo-Victorian elegance meets boho/hippie chic".
But it's all good. Even though my wedding might not have been cutting edge enough to enthrall the blogosphere, nobody in attendance had ever seen anything like it, as far as I know. I still maintained my long-held position as The Weird Artist One in my extended family. And my husband and I loved every minute of it.
I figure even "indie" trends are trends for a reason, right? 'Cause they are cool and fun and tap into some cultural collective consciousness. I personally LOVE looking at 'dated' wedding photos from the '60s and '70s, and I don't particularly mind if mine ends up seeming a bit date-stamped in hindsight as well.
March 23, 2010 5:55 am
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I'm making bunting, because I think it's pretty, and I plan on reusing it after the wedding.
I am not, however, using a pretty sheet for a photobooth backdrop. I went thrifting with my Mom and told her what I was looking for.
Mom: "Why do you need a sheet?"
Me: "(explains photobooth)"
Mom: "Why do you need a backdrop? You're getting married outside! NATURE is your backdrop!"
Me: "Oh! Right. Good point. Thanks, Mom."
Thank goodness for level-headed Mothers.
March 23, 2010 5:56 am
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@ Meg – we're having a morning wedding! it was the only way we could afford our venue and now I'm kind of stoked that all I have to do that day is
1. wake up
2. get married!!
(although I kind of feel obligated to entertain everyone in the afternoon… but we only have the venue till 3… meh)
March 23, 2010 8:29 am
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I'm really happy to see this post. I was actually thinking the same thing lately. I had thought of adding a scripture reading to our ceremony–yes, the one it seems everyone does–1 Corinthians 13 (Love is patient, Love it kind…) I've always loved that reading, but feared using it because it wasn't "unique" or "different" enough and thought I would be a blogger bride outcast for being too "boring." But it's funny, the bloggers that poke fun of the reading always insist that they have the most "unique" answer — "I Like You" by Sandol Stoddard. This is a very cute book, but it's not that "unique" anymore. I've read about 6 different bloggers doing the same exact reading, as well as three other friends I know. I've heard this reading far more than I've heard 1 Corinthians 13! When I ask my friends why they chose "I Like You" they say they wanted to be different. I think the point is, don't do things just to be different and be some sort of wedding trailblazer. Because most likely, you're not. Someone probably has done it before. Do it because it totally fits you and your future hubby! Trends are trends, even "indie" trends…I'm starting to wonder if I'm supposed to have moustaches on a stick for my wedding shoot now!
March 23, 2010 8:58 am
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hahahah I love reading this After the wedding. I think if I had seen this oh, last Friday, I would have had a moment of panic that my wedding was trendy. LOL. but then reading all the comments, I feel better. Yes, some aspects of our wedding probably followed "indie trends," but we didn't pick them because they were trends, we picked them because they were US, and/or they saved us a butt-load of money.
but it's still good to have a laugh at how we still get sucked into the BIC very easily and need to be brought back to reality. as long as you're including things because they're You, and not because you hope the pictures will end up on a blog, who cares if other like-minded awesome couples also love things that you love?
O. and Zach had no idea what bunting was either, we had a very similar conversation a few months ago.
March 23, 2010 11:18 am
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hahahahahahaha! I've just had this conversation about seersucker. hahahahahah!
March 23, 2010 11:51 am
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@NIKKI
IF YOU ENTERTAIN EVERYONE ALL AFTERNOON AFTER YOUR WEDDING I WILL PERSONALLY HUNT YOU DOWN AND KILL YOU. Lady! What are you thinking! They are grown-ass people. They have been entertaining themselves their whole lives. They can entertain themselves for an afternoon (and frankly they want to talk *about* you at that point, not *too* you…) And you ONLY HAVE ONE AFTERNOON IN YOUR WHOLE LIFE WHERE YOU JUST GOT MARRIED. You need to cozy up and bliss out with each other. SERIOUSLY.
Since I never type in all caps all the time, I assume you get that I am NOT JOKING AROUND. Our wedding was awesome, our after wedding was one of those golden moments, of which you have so few in a lifetime. If I'd after partied and ended up calling cabs for people? F* That!
March 23, 2010 5:19 pm
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@Budget Bride
Watch it. We read that at our ceremony. Why? It reflects us. It was nice that people were not familiar with it, only because they listened with fresh ears. But we read multiple sections from Psalms as well, ancient Jewish prayers, and vows that have stood for thousands of years.
But that's not the point. The point is no one is trashing First Corinthians. If it's good for you, it's good for you (it's a classic because it's excellent and deeply meaningful). So please don't trash readings that you think other people are doing for the wrong reasons. Hot tip: they are probably not. It's their wedding ceremony. They are doing what matters.
Keeping a wry sense of humor about it all is good, attacking other people's choices? Not.
March 23, 2010 5:37 pm
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@Meg
I must be a weirdo because I always pictured a daytime wedding myself. Early afternoon so I didn't have to wake up hellishly early, and finishing up early evening (like, around 5 or 6 o'clock) so that we could spend a whole evening together. It was a real shock to my system when I had to have a night wedding (due to church availability). Oh well!
March 23, 2010 5:52 pm
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[...] want to wear it to my wedding. If I were having one of those daytime weddings in a park with “rustic festive” details, I would have bought this dress and skipped out of the store. Well, maybe I would [...]
May 19, 2011 9:54 pm
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