Comments on: Wedding Graduate: Michelle And The (Hot) Traditional Social Hall Wedding

By: Alison

Alison — Wed, 04 May 2011 11:56:40 +0000

Agree! I gave up all wedding blogs EXCEPT APW for Lent. It was awesome. I realised that there were evenings previously when my fiance would want to discuss an aspect of our wedding and I’d be like, um… hang on, I’ll just finish reading about this Californian vineyard wedding where everyone ate canapes dipped in pure gold and toasted the bride and groom with champagne made from angel tears. APW makes you think about your wedding and marriage, most other blogs make you doubt it. Congrats Michelle!

By: Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 19 May 2010 13:08:01 +0000

oops sorry my mac autofilled my entire name! that is way more formal than it should have been! sorry

By: Sarah E Shreeve

Sarah E Shreeve — Wed, 19 May 2010 13:06:09 +0000

My Fi and I are actively searching for our premarital counselling, and have no massive issues to speak of- we barely even fight! We’re getting married in one of my dad’s churches in Norfolk, UK but I like in Sheffield (North England) and my hubby-to-be lives in Portsmouth (south coast) so we’re kinda meeting in the middle and bringing our pastors with us, which means noone seems to be responsible for our premarital counselling! We just want to get off to the best possible start, and for us that means actively making the pastors marrying us meet with us, travelling up and down the country at weekends (even during my current finals) and having lots of heart to hearts because I am truly of the opinion that if it can help us in the future, why wouldn’t we actively go after getting us some of that?! :D its knackering but awesome!!

By: ETCIllustration

ETCIllustration — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 14:12:55 +0000

@Nina – I don't know if this helps, but my husband and I did an Engaged Encounter, which is a weekend-long, intense counseling session intended to raise awareness about important issues that come up in marriage. It's sponsored by the Catholic church, but it's open to people of all backgrounds (neither I nor the hubs practice Catholicism). We were required to do it, and I am so grateful that we were because it was so rewarding and we would never have sought pre-marital counseling otherwise. At no point did either of us feel as though we were trying to "fix" something; rather, the experience simply reinforced the fact that we're made for each other and that getting married was a good idea!

By: kahlia

kahlia — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:16:39 +0000

@Michelle aw, too bad they're not available any more. Thanks anyway!

By: Michelle

Michelle — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:01:50 +0000

@kahlia the dresses are from Chadwicks. unfortunately, they are no longer available, but here is the link http://tinyurl.com/y8jhkdl.

@Octpumpkin wow! I'm flattered.

@T-bone Lee the best combo would to be able to get all your guests on the dance floor – talking and dancing, yea!

By: Suz

Suz — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 10:23:37 +0000

@Sarah: I know exactly what you mean. I think it helps that I don't have to "let go" of the details, because I actually don't have the eye for caring about them. Sometimes I wonder if I'm lame and tasteless and utterly lacking in creativity for not caring what the invitations look like or what colors my bridal posse wears. And until a month or two ago, I had never even heard of a wedding having a theme. I'm sure I would love to attend a more creatively developed wedding, but I sure don't want to plan one. So I won't. And it will be okay.

By: kahlia

kahlia — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 09:33:03 +0000

Thank you! I've bookmarked this post. Excellent advice about removing anything that makes you feel bad from your Reader. Though I mostly avoid all that already, it's good to be reminded!

(Mind if I ask where the bridesmaid dresses are from? That's just about the exact colour the girls & I were thinking about and a great style!)

@Nina In addition to Meg's post on pre-marital counselling, check out Sara's posts on $2000 Wedding. They actually did it after the wedding, but were able to find a cool secular programme and apparently got a lot out of it.

By: Leah

Leah — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 05:36:05 +0000

p.s. I don't even know what a gocco is!! Sounds like that might be blissful ignorance…

By: Leah

Leah — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 05:34:04 +0000

Thank you so much for sharing this with us. My sister has banned me from wedding blogs (except this one of course :) They just keep generating ideas on decisions I already made weeks ago. Very lethal. Anyways, thanks for encouraging us to live in the moment on the big day. I plan on definitely jumping up and down with the "OMG i'm married!"