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Dress, Given IX


Dress, Given IX | A Practical Wedding

What could be a better way to end the week than a Sisterhood of the Traveling Dress giveaway, right? RIGHT. I mean, we’re all crying from the last two days of posting, but now we can start the weekend happy-crying, which is an improvement.

Robin sobbed over picking the next recipient of her dress, and told me she wanted to rip the dress into little pieces and give a little bit to everyone. At which point I made a King-Solomon-And-The-Baby joke, and told her to find me the real owner of the dress. She said she had that coming.

But she DID finally pick, and she picked Allison T, who said:

Hi! I started reading APW about a month before my sweet fiance and I were actually engaged (in June) and this site has really helped me frame the importance of the engagement time. I was engaged ten years ago, but that wedding never happened (called off two weeks before the date). And that engagement was all about planning a wedding, but nothing at all about planning a marriage and life together.

When I accepted my fiance’s proposal, I knew that I wanted our wedding to be different than my previous experience (understandably!) with the focus being on us and our life together and the friends and family who will be helping and supporting us in our life together. We sat down and made separate lists of what we wanted the wedding day to be like and at the top of both of our lists was that the other person is happy with the day. At the end of the day we will be married. The details will come together and I am hoping that this dress giveaway is one of those details!

I started reading APW for the bridal ideas but then figured out that this site is not really about bridal ideas, it’s about marriage ideas. And I love this site for that reason. Don’t get me wrong, I love to see the pictures because weddings are so much the same (bringing together people to share in love) and so different (seeing all those fabulous styles that I could never pull off) (Editors note: DON’T SAY THAT! You can pull off whatever you wanna!). But the beauty of this site is community and support of (all) marriages.

I am not so fortunate to live in a large metropolitan area with lots of APW readers. Although I hope I am not the only reader from way down south in Alabama. I do appreciate the online community on this forum and the focus on the marriage rather than just the wedding. I think that the sharing of the wedding dress is really a sweet way to pass along the good feelings of the special day.

I love Robin’s dress and I really can’t believe that I am 5′3′ and the same size. I have read comments during past dress giveaways and thought, “How can they be exactly the right size?” And here I am, all 5′3″ of me saying “I am the exact size!” I dread dress shopping and this dress would be a gift to save me from that task! I am looking forward to marriage, but not some of the wedding day details like dress shopping.

Robin is an absolutely beautiful bride and the bride lucky enough to wear the dress next will be too — but not because of the dress, because of the spirit of the dress. Thank you for being nice, Robin, and thanks for considering me to possibly wear your beautiful dress when I see my fiance on our wedding day. Best wishes to you and new family!

Allison

P.S. I love that there is a stain on the dress so that “I” would not the be the one to get a stain on the dress! Yet another burden would be lifted!

So, Allison, email me!

And everyone else, go run over to Facebook and catch up on your APW Book Club meetup. Or, if you’re not going to a physical meetup, buy the book and read it. I’ll announce all the meetup locations on the site next week, and then we’ll discuss online the week after (rubs hands together with glee).

Happy weekend, ladies, and happy Halloween. COCKTAIL TIME!

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  • http://www.moodeous.com Kristy

    Congrats Allison! Love your post and think you are SO very deserving of this dress. Congrats to Robin and APW for making more APW magic happen! Can’t wait to see the wedding graduate post :)

  • Faith

    Allison sounds like the sweetest, most perfect person to receive the dress! I love the way she described the whole engagement time frame.

    Congratulations Allison!

  • Erin

    Weeeeeee cocktail time!!!!! Love it.

  • http://www.chilingwang.com Chi-Ling Wang

    Yay for Allison! A note on styles that are “too fabulous” to pull off. Generally, I find that I can pull off anything I BELIEVE I can pull off. Believe in yourself. Best wishes for planning your wedding and your marriage.

  • http://bestofcourt.blogspot.com Court

    Hi Allison – I was engaged five years ago (and it didn’t work out), and when I got engaged last year, I wanted it to be different. For this engagement and this marriage to be focused on our love, not what we wanted people to see. Our engagement was hard because we dealt with hard issues, but our wedding was amazing for both of us. Yours will be, too.

  • http://koruwedding.blogspot.com Koru Kate

    Congratulations Allison!!!

  • Cristina

    Yay, I like this post on a Friday afternoon. Congratulations, Allison!

  • http://www.10000dollarwedding.wordpress.com Lizzie

    Congratulations! Her comment is so sweet and honest…she definitely deserved the win!

  • Chantelle

    ummm, your p.s. killed me and I was secretly “voting” for you in my head.
    Fellow clutzes unite!

  • http://linseykitchens.wordpress.com Linsey

    Hooray! These posts make me swoon. I love the dress mojo that’s floating around here–the idea that it’s not the dress, but the transferred magic of the day. My mother recently gave me her wedding dress (circa 1964) and just putting it on made me giggle and run around my empty house. It’s the giving that makes it all feel so special.

    I know, Meg, you said that so many people were offering dresses that you couldn’t keep up (you did say this a while ago, right, or am I making things up?) I wonder if there’s a way the amazing APW community can help you facilitate more of these awesome donations…maybe via Facebook? Or maybe the specialness is in the fact that it only happens every once in a while? I dunno…I just know that this post is the first thing to make me smile in days, so it’s worth it’s weight in organza to me (which, I know, Robin says is lightweight.) :)

  • http://www.momentsofelegance.com Claire

    Congratulation Allison. Love your post.

  • Kaitlyn

    So, I’ve been reading this blog for months (even before I got engaged), and I just never commented for reasons unbeknownst to me. Every time I read it, whether it’s Meg or a wedding graduate, I think to myself, “Yes! Someone else feels like me!”

    Firstly, congratulations, Allison–you seem like the perfect bride for this.

    Secondly, I think it is incredible how many women are willing to share their dresses with each other–talk about having a built-in something borrowed. It reminds me a lot of a little something called the Glass Slipper project, which gives girls a chance to have beautiful prom/formal dresses when they just can’t afford them. It’s all set up like a real store, and they get to go “shopping” and feel like Cinderella (shouldn’t every one get that chance if they want it?).

  • Allison T.

    Thank you so much for your sweet comments! I have been out of town and was going though my google reader and just saw this post and the kind words. I will, without a doubt, submit a wedding graduate post with some photos of this lovely dress!

  • Trisha

    Congratulations Allison!