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Guest Post on Snippet & Ink Today!


by Meg Keene, Editor-In-Chief

Guest Post on Snippet & Ink Today! | A Practical Wedding

Hi Guys!
My friend Kathryn at Snippet & Ink is getting married (this weekend!!! wheeee!!!), and she asked me to write a guest post while she was gone. Well, I couldn’t settle for just any old post, so I decided to write her a wedding present. I asked her what she wanted me to write, and by request, I wrote ‘Everything You Need To Know To Survive Your Wedding Day Intact.” Ok, well, not everything, but a few things.

I’m actually really proud of what I ended up coming up with, so go read it, and then leave me a comment here or there. (Please? The thing about guest posts is you get no comments, which is the very saddest thing.)

And to Kathryn, I wish that Saturday is everything you need it to be, and that the rest of your lives together is so much more. Oh, and you better be ready to dish with me when you get home (is all I’m saying!)

Lots and lots of love,
Meg

Meg Keene

Meg is the Founder and EIC of APW. Her first book, A Practical Wedding: Creative Solutions for Planning a Beautiful, Affordable, and Meaningful Celebration, was published in January 2012, and has been a top three bestseller on the wedding bookshelf ever since. Meg has her BFA in Drama from NYU’s Tisch School of the Arts. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her husband and son. For more than you ever wanted to know about Meg, you can visit MegKeene.com.

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  • Rachel

    what an absolutely wonderful post. Thank you :)

  • http://26toforever.blogspot.com Martha

    I love loved loved this post! I am not getting married till next September but I don’t think it is ever too early to hear those words of wisdom. Can’t tell you how helpful that is.
    Thanks

  • Mallory

    “For ten hours of your life, your job is to protect your own experience. Your job is to refuse to get emotionally involved when people get stressed, and to just walk away and let it go. It’s tricky, but it only lasts for a few short hours. Tomorrow you can get totally pissed at your mom when she’s acting a fool, but for today, it’s not your problem.”

    You’re a smart lady, Meg.

  • http://jolynn.wordpress.com jolynn

    Way to just rock my face off again, Meg. And provide some pretty incredible advice that I’m going to harbor in my heart.

  • Esther

    Awesome post and much needed, since I’m 19 days away from my wedding. Even though we are only having 5 guests, I’m already worried about making sure they behave themselves. Thanks for the reminder that it’s not my problem!

  • Rebecca

    “planning a wedding is a giddy mix of beautiful things, mixed with a serious dose of pain in the *ss”

    Awesome =)

    Snippet and Ink was my favourite pretties blog planning my own wedding (gorgeous, without the BS that goes along with it in so many other places). Congratualtions Kathryn!!

    I am kinda jealous that you guys (pretty much my wedding heros) get to hang out in real life.

    • meg

      Awwww. Kathryn is great in real life, just super down to earth and funny. So it’s awesome to get to have pizza and gossip about wedding blog goings on (because you know I’m a total gossip).

  • http://roughit.wordpress.com roughit

    Oh my goodness, Meg, this is the BEST: “Being a bride has certain perks, and one of those perks is being given a free pass to not give a sh*t.” And here’s why it’s the best: because usually we’re told that being a bride means we DO have to give a sh*t. We have to care about dresses and flowers and details and also about being a princess. We have to care about it being The Most Important Day of Our Lives. But the thing is, you’re right: it is (or SHOULD be) a free pass to NOT give a sh*t.

    And this – “But the happiest day of my life? That was probably a lazy honeymoon day with my husband, drinking whiskey and looking at castles.” – sent me rushing back to sitting on a deck overlooking the mountains on our honeymoon, drinking wine while my brand new wife slept inside. So, so wonderful.

    Thanks for the reminders.

    • meg

      Ahhhh… I’d never thought about it that way. Yeah, I think your right. I totally DID NOT GIVE A SH*T by our wedding day, though I had to work really hard to keep my focus on that all weekend. It really did feel like a super hard mediation class, “Ohhhh this is going wrong… FOCUS. Ohhhhh so and so is being a bitch… FOCUS.” I think it’s important to remember that while you can’t control how you feel you CAN make a choice about how you’re going to react, and you get to make that choice over and over again, every second of your wedding day.

      • JEM

        ” I think it’s important to remember that while you can’t control how you feel you CAN make a choice about how you’re going to react, and you get to make that choice over and over again, every second of your *wedding* day.”

        You could leave the out the ‘wedding’ and make that say ‘every’ and that is soooo so true. I’m learning about this in life right now.

  • http://www.myownboat.tumblr.com Brandy

    It was awesome! Great writing, great reflection, great advice.

  • Carrie M

    Yes! to the bit about the next part being so much richer! Just last night I asked my husband if he liked being married better than he liked being engaged. We’ve been married three months and so far I like being married a million zillion times more than being engaged. Surprisingly, I like it better than I liked being boyfriend/girlfriend and better than I liked dating. We lived together for two years before getting engaged and I really didn’t think anything would change after the vows. But it did, in a very cool way.

  • http://koruwedding.blogspot.com Koru Kate

    Great post with wise advice! I’m excited to put the advice to use in 44 days!! I want to savor the end of our engagement but I really, really can’t wait to get to the rich, sweet other side (aka marriage) everyone talks about.

  • kyley

    Seriously Meg, you are an awesome human being.

  • Amanda

    “What happens next is so much richer”
    Mmm that make me feel fuzzy inside and like I’m doing things right.
    We’re in the midst of a premarital course right now, planning on doing an “Engaged Encounter” retreat weekend and also a “Financial Peace University” class. We talk about wedding plans maybe once a month (the wedding is in 8 months) and our relationship, expectations, families, finances, personalities, all the other stuff you’re forced to talk about in a class like that at least once a week :) Usually more. Also, I have a mini meltdown almost every time we talk about wedding plans. I very much dislike planning events. My expectations are usually too high and I’m never really sure what I want anyway.
    My wedding has been very DIT so far. Friend doing the flowers, friends doing the photography, Aunt’s doing the cake, musician friends playing at the ceremony, random coworker of his volunteering to roast a pig and tend it all night just because we’re getting married, mom is paying for the dress, etc. I feel all happy and loved when I think about how people just want to contribute :) Anyways, point being, that helps me to not have too high expectations and not stress.

  • Brenda

    That was great Meg. Thanks for that.

  • angela

    a very good summary for a day as important as its suposse to be.
    thanks again

  • saveroomforpi

    Meg, Great post, have read it more than once now.

    Got back last Friday from our delayed honeymoon (got married in March, which would have meant New Zealand was having fall – but now they were having Spring and things were green and in bloom and light until 8pm and I want to be there instead of here in the grey with no leaves), so I’m still working my way through the pre-Thanksgiving posts, which have been really good to read and fun to come back to!

    Happy Chanukah :)

  • Emily

    this just made my day. thank you.

  • Serena

    I am so happy that you guest blogged over on snippet and ink, because if you hadn’t, I’m not sure if I would have ever come across A Practical Wedding! I just spent the last hour reading various APW blog posts and everything here is just so right on, I wish I had found you earlier! It is so refreshing in comparison to many of the other wedding blogs I read, which often leave me feeling stressed out and jealous that I can’t afford these magazine worthy weddings. I loved in your guest post that you said “it’s easy to get focused on This One Day We Spent So Much Time And Money Planning. But that day is not the point. Your marriage is the point” It is so so so true yet something that you can so easily lose sight on. It is my new mantra. “that day is not the point, my marriage is the point.” Thank you Meg, I am delighted to have found my way over here!

    • meg

      And we’re delighted to have you :)

  • Alison

    Your post was exactly what I needed to read right now!!! Thank you!