This week, as we’re getting ready to get two same sex couples legally married, and doing an APW fundraiser for LAMBDA Legal, I’ve been thinking about why this work is important. And then I got this email from Claire, about using APW Wedding Grads to teach equality to her four-year-old niece. And I cried.
The other night I was playing with my four-year-old niece, and she was marrying off all her little dolls in some sort of cultish mass wedding ceremony. On a school bus. Anyway, she had two extra girl dolls and said something to the effect of, “I wish these two girls could just marry each other, but they can’t.” I said sure they could, and she said that was silly. “Girls can’t marry other girls.” I insisted that they could. She said fine, but it would have to be a silly wedding and not a real wedding. “Like not in real life, not for serious.” So we had a little conversation about it and she kinda believed me, but still seemed skeptical. “I’ve never seen a girl-girl wedding before. Only boy-girl weddings.”
At which point I said I could prove that weddings don’t have to be girl-boy. So I went Facebook and pulled up the beautiful wedding photos of a dear lesbian friend. She looked at them carefully and said their dresses were very pretty and she guessed it was a real life wedding after all.
Then she asked if boys can get married too. I immediately thought of APW, and a quick search pulled up “The Mad Gay Wedding” (with Mickey Mouse no less!). Well, that clinched it. We looked at a few more diverse weddings and she exclaimed that, “Any kind of people can have a pretty, real-life wedding!”
Then the two girl dolls got married with the rest of the dolls on the bus. “Because girls can marry whoever they want to.”
Photo: The Mad Gay Wedding, by SkyeBlu Photography