When we posted “Ask Team Practical: Wedding Toasts,” the idea was that we would look through the comments and collect the best tips on how to write a wedding speech. Luckily for us, there was no need to pick and choose. Kyley left this brilliant comment about how to give a Maid of Honor (or Best Man!) toast that tells you everything you need to know, in four easy steps:
After delivering what I consider a bang up Maid of Honor speech, and hearing a number of other wonderful ones, here is what I consider the perfect wedding toast formula:
- Part 1: I love you both so much.
- Part 2: A lovely anecdote about the couple’s relationship and how awesome they are. (Try to stay away from something just about about the bride or groom, but about them as a couple. Talking about primarily the bride or groom within the context of their relationship and their love can be lovely, too, if that’s your relationship to the couple.) This should be the bulk of your speech.
- Part 3: I hope you are always as happy, joyous, and in love as that moment. OR This proves how madly in love you two are. May you continue to be an inspiration to us all. Etc.
- Part 4. (Actually make the toast.) Everyone drinks!
Keep it short and sweet, and it will be a home-run every time.
And now because we go the extra mile for you, a sample wedding toast, written by out very own Columns Editor, Alyssa.
Stacey and James,
I love you both so much. Stacey, not only for you being one of my best friends, but for being there for me when being my friend didn’t just involve late night Wal-Mart runs and hours of watching 80’s movies. We’ve grown up together and I am so very grateful that we did not grow apart. And James, I love you, too, for not only being such an incredible partner for my Stacey, but for being a great friend to me also. I know you didn’t expect that dating Stacey would include helping her flaky friend after she locked her keys in the car three times in one month, but you are a doll and a gentleman for doing so with a smile and only laughing at me a little.
However, what I love most about the two of you is how you are together. I’ve never seen two people that fit so well in each other’s lives; it’s hard to imagine a time when you weren’t “Stacey and James”. It may seem to some like you two were just meant to be and that fate put you together, but I think to look at it that way diminishes how amazing your relationship really is. Having been there from the beginning, I know that what appeared to be seamless was the effort of two people who truly loved one another and were determined to make their relationship work. They didn’t just magically fit into each other’s lives, they rearranged their lives to make room. They changed priorities, made time for one another and learned to love each other’s little quirks… like James’s not-so-secret love of male R&B vocalists. But nothing shows this as much as Stacey, James and the hockey debacle. You see, when they started dating, James noticed that Stacey had a framed Gretsky jersey in her living room. And, deciding to play it cool, James started asking Stacey if she wanted to go to local hockey games and watching the latest game on TV just so he’d have something to talk about to Stacey the next time they chatted. Stacey, oblivious to all of this, thought James really liked hockey so she enlisted my brother to teach her more about the game. Because, you see, Stacey never watched hockey. The jersey belonged to her Uncle Mike, and Aunt Laura gave it to her as a reminder of him and how he’s watching over her. Meanwhile, both of these guys are pretending to know more about hockey than they actually do and were starring in their own sports-themed comedy of errors. Eventually, they figured it out… and by eventually I mean seven months later. However, once these two worked on their communication skills, they had a new favorite hobby to do together… and further proof that Uncle Mike really is watching over Stacey. AND, he’s bound and determined that she marry a hockey lover!
And it only goes to show not only how goofy these two are for each other, but how much they truly are committed to being in each other’s lives. Your love makes us smile, makes us tear up with joy and makes us believe in the kind of love cynics would make you feel is impossible. Thank you for being an inspiration and my friends.
To Stacey and James! (everybody drinks)
And that, ladies and gentleman? That’s how it’s done. Now seriously. Do us all a favor and don’t mention strippers, mmmkaaayyy?
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