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Lauren & Kamel | A Practical Wedding

Well, it’s finally here. Last year, Lauren joined APW as an intern shortly after she got engaged. In the last year, she’s shared her wedding planning journey with us. She grew and changed in the position, moving from intern to submissions editor, and at the same time she grew and changed through her wedding planning, and engagement. And now, finally, she’s a graduate. She’s gotten to the other side, and she learned the things that you can never really learn till you’re there. So today it’s an honor to see her graduate and share her words with you.

Lauren & Kamel | A Practical Wedding

A week before the wedding I thought I had it all figured out. If I had to do it over again I was confident with what I would ditch and what I would keep. I told my mom that a wedding was not worth it. It wasn’t. If I had to do it over again I would have had an ultra small wedding (parents, 3 best friends, ta-da), a dinner at a great restaurant and a honeymoon. Bam. No fancy dress, no hullabaloo.

Lauren & Kamel | A Practical Wedding

What I thought the week before the wedding was: how silly of me to believe I would regret not having aspects of the wedding I had imagined growing up—nothing happened the way I thought it would during engagement, and busting my butt for the reception and the favors and the details had not ended up making me feel awesome. The week before the wedding it made me feel like I just wanted it to be over. I didn’t feel at all the way I thought I would about the things I thought I would.

Lauren & Kamel | A Practical Wedding

And then, the morning of the wedding I woke with a surge of adrenaline that never ever went away. The girls and I went to Starbucks for breakfast and tea, then to our hair/makeup appointment at a salon. In the rain. Where the person with the key never showed up. The owner had to race over, forty minutes after our appointments were supposed to start. We rolled with it. Everything about a wedding has to do with rolling with it. This part of the day was where I felt the most calm. I was with my best friends, goofing off in a salon downtown in matching hoodies and pajamas. It was, oddly, the most normal thing I did.

Lauren & Kamel | A Practical Wedding

By the time the wedding rolled around I was overwhelmed with the immensity of it. I couldn’t breathe well sitting down so I leaned against the back of chairs like a plank. My anxiety was through the roof. When I was waiting to walk down the aisle with my dad, just us two behind a door while the rest of the wedding party filed in, he choked out, “I really love you,” and we both cried. I told him he couldn’t talk to me anymore, he couldn’t say another word because we were going to be a mess otherwise. He said ok. We held on to each other and I gripped kleenex.

Lauren & Kamel | A Practical Wedding

Walking down the aisle I only remember two things: knowing my dad had a hold of me, that there was no way I was going to stumble or mess up because he was there, and locking eyes on Kamel (who was beaming like a shooting star) at the other end of the church. I saw no one else. He waved at me, I waved back.

Lauren & Kamel | A Practical Wedding

When my dad had dropped me off at the front and Kamel and I had taken our spots, off to one side of the altar, facing the guests, the Deacon said his opening remarks and I knew I was going to pass out if I kept standing. I knew it. I looked to the front row where my parents and best friends were sitting and they all knew it too. They mouthed to me to breathe, to yawn, that it would be ok, that I could sit if I needed to. They used subtle hand gestures and I started to see black spots. I tried to make it through the welcome, but 3/4 of the way through I sat. Kamel sat too. I told him, “I don’t think I can do this.”

Lauren & Kamel | A Practical Wedding

As soon as the words came out of my mouth I knew it wasn’t the best thing to say at your wedding to your minutes-to-be-husband, and without any other explanation Kamel completely understood what I meant. It wasn’t that I couldn’t marry him, it was that I wasn’t going to be able to get through the bigness of it all, standing up in front of everyone I knew, in a tight and heavy dress, having the most emotionally intense moment of my life without hitting the ground. He gripped my hand and said, “Yes you can. I’ve got you.”

Lauren & Kamel | A Practical Wedding

We did the rest of the wedding sitting down (which isn’t pictured because there are so very many other good ones!), the Deacon was amazing and rolled with it, and I didn’t care what people thought or if it was weird. And afterwards, everyone told me they thought that was just how it was done.

Lauren & Kamel | A Practical Wedding

For the first hour of the reception I felt like the world was on fast forward and I wasn’t. I cried through my dad’s toast. I cried through Kamel’s dad’s toast. I laughed and felt warm and fuzzy during the girls’ toast. The food came too quickly and I couldn’t eat. I gulped a few mouthfuls of wine and tried to slow down, but I didn’t have time to finish any of it.

Lauren & Kamel | A Practical Wedding

We went from table to table and greeted everyone, and everyone was so happy, and I was so happy. I was the best version of myself I have ever been on my wedding day, the best host, the most gracious guest of honor, all of it. I watched words coming out of my mouth during conversations with people I didn’t really know and thought, “Wow, good job Lauren… way to rock that.” It was like an out of body experience.

Lauren & Kamel | A Practical Wedding

We danced like idiots, there was a conga line, we took photos, we kissed in public, there was so much well wishing I felt undeserving. It was the most emotionally exhausting experience of my entire life. By the end of the evening I was raw, all of my insides were showing, I had shed an exterior and grown a fresh, vulnerable, shiny new one.

Lauren & Kamel | A Practical Wedding

The day after the wedding we raced to the airport at 9:30 in the morning and I realized: there is no “what would I do if I did it again,” because it doesn’t exist. What had just happened—the crazy, the touching, the frustrating, the wonderful—was my wedding. That was it. It happened, and it was ours. It happened around me and to me, and I am so grateful for the journey.

Lauren & Kamel | A Practical Wedding

Coming out the other side I see that it could have never happened any other way. I am a better person because of my wedding. Because it was hard, and touching, and thoughtful, because it brought to light some negative things about people, but also the really fabulous things about people. And ultimately it marked the beginning of my new family, and that will always be worth it.

Lauren & Kamel | A Practical Wedding

The Info— Photography: Lauren Carroll (Wedding and Other Stuff) with Joann Arruda / Necklace: Virigina Geiger / Earrings: Little White Chapel (via APW) / Yellow Bracelet: Women For Women by Kate Spade (Mine came from Africa) / Hair&Makeup: Swink Style Bar / Boutonnieres: Olas Dream World / Bridesmaid Hair Accessories: Sweet Grass Mill / Bridal Hair Flowers: Percy Handmade

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  • http://www.jehara.blogspot.com jehara

    “I was the best version of myself.”

    Yes to this.

    Also, your photos are stunning. Beautiful pictures, beautiful words.

  • http://webecomeus.wordpress.com Caitlin

    Of course he understood exactly what you meant! I loved that sweet part of this post– that Kamel’s a keeper. :)

    Also: “ultimately it marked the beginning of my new family, and that will always be worth it.” Thanks for this. As bits of our wedding occasionally run through my head (more than a year later), and sometimes I think about how things could have been different, this is good to keep in mind.

    ps. The PRETTY. So. Much. Pretty.

  • http://www.safarimama.blog.com Manya

    Hi Wedding Sister! I have been so looking forward to your post! (And because I am 10 time zones ahead of you, I get to comment first!). I love it all–but this is my favourite part:

    “there is no “what would I do if I did it again,” because it doesn’t exist. What had just happened—the crazy, the touching, the frustrating, the wonderful—was my wedding. That was it. It happened, and it was ours.”

    This is so true. I find myself sometimes thinking about, how if I had loosened my bodice a bit, maybe my flip-flopped toes wouldn’t have been sticking out like they did, or if I had remembered to give the sound guy the ceremony he would have gotten the music cues right… but this is one of those very very few special things that is completely, singularly your–and all the more beautiful for it’s unique, fluttery, magical, light-headed coming.

    Congratulations Lauren and Kamel! (And by the way, I love The Dress. You look stunning.)

    • http://betterinrealife.com Lauren

      Thank you for this. :)

    • http://www.lilpets.wordpress.com Sandy

      I agree! With everything, but especially the dress! After hearing so much about it, I was wonderfully surprised with its awesomeness!

      Congrats, Lauren and Kamel!

  • http://poppiesandicecream.blogspot.com Amanda

    Oh Lauren, I was waiting for your graduate post ever since you announced it was coming… So happy for you guys. And as always, you describe it so well. This: “And then, the morning of the wedding I woke with a surge of adrenaline that never ever went away.”
    and this “I was the best version of myself I have ever been on my wedding day, the best host, the most gracious guest of honor, all of it” and this : “there was so much well wishing I felt undeserving.”
    You both looked gorgeus. Loved all the yellow and green. So fresh and happy. And yay to the start of your new family :)

  • SeptBride

    Your dress is GORGEOUS!!!

  • http://nickandnoragettingmarried.wordpress.com Annie

    Oh my lord, between the moment with Lauren’s dad and Kamel saying “Yes you can. I’ve got you,” I really got choked up over this post–but in a really happy way! I think this post comes closest to what I hope my wedding will be like and what kind of mood my fiance and I bring to it. Really well written; best wishes to Lauren and Kamel!

    • http://betterinrealife.com Lauren

      To be honest, I totally cried while writing this. I hadn’t really, really, really relived it until I sat down to write.

  • Lakelady

    BEST WEDDING GRAD POST EVER!

    You seriously gave me chills. I want to Exactly this 500,000,000,000 times. You said everything I felt/have been feeling.

    And you looked.absolutely.stunning!

    • Chris Bergstrom

      Yes, THIS to the whole post.

  • http://justneedthisspace.wordpress.com d-day

    raahhhh it’s Lauren & Kamel day! I can’t get over the awesome. you were so stunning.

    that part about you needing to sit, and Kamel understanding perfectly, and nobody knowing anything was up at all, is such a great wedding magic story. of course he knew what you meant, he’s Kamel, he’s your lobster. and thank goodness, 99% of the time, guests never know when something isn’t quite how you planned. of course the bride and groom sit through this part, obviously.

    Also, “Everything about a wedding has to do with rolling with it.” yes.

    • http://webecomeus.wordpress.com Caitlin

      you can actually see old lobster couples walking around their tank, you know, holding claws… :)

      • Rizubunny

        Awwwwwww…he’s her lobster!! :)

        • http://betterinrealife.com Lauren

          hahahahahahahaha

  • http://oversized-cliches.blogspot.com Zan

    Lauren! You did it! Hooray!!! :)

    Of course, we all knew you would — and we all knew you’d write an amazing grad post to boot. Of course.

    Thanks for sharing with us lady, this and everything that came before.

    Oh, and you’re both a-freaking-dorable. Love!

  • http://www.thefamiliarwilderness.com Erin

    Love this love this love this. So much goodness, Lauren, and so glad to hear, after everything that happened before the big day, that your wedding was filled with so much awesome for both of you. YAY!

  • http://lezgethitched.blogspot.com Diana

    Everything about this is just gorgeous.

    Thinking about this week’s discussion of getting married young, the only downside for me so far has been that I’m the first of my friends to get married. I’ve only attended one wedding as an adult, so I feel inexperienced and unprepared sometimes.These grad posts (especially ones this well-written) feel like a hybrid poetry anthology/textbook/coffee chat with friends. I love it! Congratulations to you and Kamel!

    • http://betterinrealife.com Lauren

      I was the first of my friends to get married too. That part can be hard because everyone is kind of running around like a chicken with their head cut off. No one knows what they are supposed to do. But it’s also good because there isn’t any precedent. You can do whatever you want and no one is going to say, “she totally stole that idea from me!” ;)

      • http://www.dearwedding.wordpress.com andee

        I was the first of my friends too and it was tough and scary. I like your point about there not being a precedent though; I hadn’t thought of it in that light! Nice.

      • Kristin in OR

        Amazing post! Thank you Lauren! I rarely cry during posts but the moment with your dad just choked me up.

        On the flip side, it can be a beautiful thing to be the first of your friends to get married. I have seen and experienced weddings where everyone is well seasoned and sometimes what can happen is people feeling like “oh it’s just another wedding” or “this is my 50th wedding this summer”. And then the excitement isn’t there, the raw energy isn’t there, the jazz isn’t there.

  • http://laurenmcglynnphotography.com Lauren

    A beautiful post. It brought a wee tear to my eye. You look just stunning Lauren. Congratulations!

  • Abby C.

    Yay! It’s Lauren’s grad post!

    Thanks for being so brutally honest and detailed about what you were feeling that day – I think it helps us recognize how broad the spectrum of emotions can be on your wedding day, and also lets us know that it’s totally ok to feel however you feel.

    Also, Kamel is a total sweetie!

  • http://workoflove.wordpress.com Shaelyn

    This post was awesome, and it got to the heart of a lot of what I felt on my wedding day. A week before, I thought weddings were absolutely Not Worth It. But now? HA! I wouldn’t have changed a thing about the way we got married.

    Thank you for sharing! And congratulations — not just on having had a beautiful wedding, but for beginning a beautiful marriage1

    • Anon

      I’m two weeks before and totally feeling like omg its not “worth” the money, the stress, the emotional roller-coaster and it feels terrifying because it is too late to go back and undo it…. I can’t tell you how comforting it is to hear these words from ladies on “the other side”….

      • http://betterinrealife.com Lauren

        Oh completely! I was literally like “blahblah, oh whatever, let’s just grit our teeth and move through it…” And it shocked me.

  • carrie

    Yay, congrats Lauren and Kamel! In reading it, I had nearly the same experience 24 hours later, as I got married on the 17th. A beautiful post, a beautiful day. You are gorgeous in your dress and in your joy. Congrats again!

  • http://tolombia.blogspot.com Tolombia

    Mazel tov! There is so much love in this, I could feel it from miles away. And so beautifully written. And such beautiful photos. And people. !

  • http://youngsandinlove.blogspot.com valery

    “By the end of the evening I was raw, all of my insides were showing.”

    This line says it so well. A few conversations I’ve had with people about the end of our night and I kept referring to how I felt as “raw sober” while everyone else felt fuzzy drunk. It was surreal.
    Great post. Congratulations. Everything looks wonderful and of course the post is being bookmarked. :)

  • http://dullmoments.wordpress.com laurabalaurah

    It’s posts like these that remind me why I’m a wedding convert– because they have the capacity to change us, to make us stronger, to stretch our hearts. Beautiful words, Lauren! And, beautiful wedding!

  • http://www.lovelyatyourside.com LovelyOlivia

    “Everything about a wedding has to do with rolling with it. ”

    YES. Or as my motto was, “toast with whatcha got!”

    Beautiful post, Lauren!!

    • meg

      “toast with whatcha got!”

      Love it.

  • http://arduousblog.blogspot.com ruchi

    Wow. What an incredible grad post.

    I mean…

    Wow.

  • http://bettencourtchase.blogspot.com Helen

    Ahhh. This is amazing, Lauren. Also? He was ‘beaming like a shooting star’? Perfect.

    I wish you and Kamel all the joy and good things and cupcakes in the world. <3

  • April

    Gorgeous, just gorgeous!!! And I *TOTALLY* understand what you mean when you said: “By the end of the evening I was raw, all of my insides were showing…” YES. THIS. I totally had that feeling as well and remember it even now, how it overwhelmed me, how bone-tired I was and just a puddle of mush but with a heart so full it was ready to burst with love.

    Oh, and by the way? You and your husband are gorgeous. LOVE your dress! And how did I miss that you got married in Seattle!?!? That’s my hometown! YEAH, PacNW! :-)

    • http://betterinrealife.com Lauren

      Mine too, lady. Love it!

    • FawMo

      YAY Seattle!

      And secretly we ordered rain to keep the beautiful Seattle summers under lockdown a little bit longer.

  • Maggie

    “Coming out the other side I see that it could have never happened any other way.”

    That’s exactly how I felt and feel. Enjoyed finally getting to read this and seeing the beautiful photos!

  • Erin

    Congratulations, Lauren! When your pictures came up on the Whitmeyer Photography blog (Sarah shot my wedding), I was like “OMG, I think that’s THE Lauren and Kamel!” Turns out I was right. :) It looks like it was a wonderful day!

  • http://www.newlyla.blogspot.com Ashley

    “By the end of the evening I was raw, all of my insides were showing, I had shed an exterior and grown a fresh, vulnerable, shiny new one.”

    THIS. I love this.

    And congratulations! What a beautiful and touching wedding story!

  • http://greyandshiny.wordpress.com/ Nina

    This is one of the best grad posts I’ve read because it so honestly describes how the wedding felt: “It was the most emotionally exhausting experience of my entire life. By the end of the evening I was raw, all of my insides were showing, I had shed an exterior and grown a fresh, vulnerable, shiny new one.”

    I too wondered by the end whether the wedding really was worth it, and I couldn’t tell you if I would do it again, but it was beautiful and I would never regret it.

  • http://akc09.livejournal.com Annie in LA

    Eeegh, choking up. This is awesome.

    We’re less than a week out (what?? when did that happen?), and it’s so great to, like others said, hear these thoughts from the other side. That no matter what happens at your wedding (and I am doing a LOT of “what if?” “will this happen?” “will it be like this?” right now), it’s YOURS.

    Also, my inner-7-year-old-girl won’t stop tugging at my sleeve and yelling “She looks like a movie star!”

  • http://onwardfulltilt.blogspot.com Caitlin

    I was so excited to see this post title in my reader!

    Lauren, this is beautiful, I knew it would be. I loved every line of it and so many parts had me choked up. And I just need to say that you look absolutely stunning. Gorgeous. These photos are amazing.

    And this, “By the end of the evening I was raw, all of my insides were showing, I had shed an exterior and grown a fresh, vulnerable, shiny new one.” Yes. Perfect.

  • http://www.craigathenawedding.blogspot.com athena

    Dear me, Lauren, you are so phenomenally beautiful, and your words about being “the most gracious host” suit the way you looked perfectly: so graceful, so emotional, and so full of love.

    My favourite part is the moment with your Dad while you waited to walk down the aisle- I had a similar moment with my Mom! I also, like everyone else, love the moment when you needed to sit and Kamel understood you. You are a marvellous writer and you totally made me cry. Love it!

  • http://engineerbaker.blogspot.com Caitlin

    I love just how much more touching and special this was after getting a glimpse into the wedding planning process for you as an “undergrad.” And I’m so happy to see someone who doesn’t say “if I did it all over again, I wouldn’t do half of what I did.” Kudos times a million for owning it. It looks gorgeous, heartfelt, and full of awesome. So happy for you & Kamel.

  • http://theblogwhisperer.tumblr.com Heather G

    Savored every word of this post, Lauren.

    I love the way you wrote about your wedding–I felt like I got what you were feeling.

    I also LOVED your dress. You look SOOOO beautiful.

  • Erin

    I agree with all of the above! All of us on here collectively loving and celebrating the beauty of your day and screaming out loud “YES!” to your poignant and eloquent comments regarding the emotions of and discoveries from your wedding day.

    Thank you for sharing your words and journey with all of us. The parallel between your Dad being your rock down the aisle and then Kamel taking over at the altar bought tears to my eyes (I already know this will be toughest part of our wedding day; my Dad and I are going to be a mess!) and I think every bride past, present, and future needs to read:
    “It was the most emotionally exhausting experience of my entire life. By the end of the evening I was raw, all of my insides were showing, I had shed an exterior and grown a fresh, vulnerable, shiny new one.

    Read more: http://apracticalwedding.com/2011/10/wedding-graduates-lauren-kamel/#ixzz1Zvv93YZh

    Followed by:

    “And ultimately it marked the beginning of my new family, and that will always be worth it.”

    Read more: http://apracticalwedding.com/2011/10/wedding-graduates-lauren-kamel/#ixzz1ZvxKSqKd

  • J

    Thank you for sharing this. I love this part, and it is similar to how I felt after my wedding :

    “Because it was hard, and touching, and thoughtful, because it brought to light some negative things about people, but also the really fabulous things about people. And ultimately it marked the beginning of my new family, and that will always be worth it”

    I’ve tried to forget some of the negative it brought out in people (why does that always happen?), but there was also the fabulous. There was some truly, amazing, fabulous pouring out of people before, during, and after my wedding, and that’s what I’ve got to hold on to. The negative… there will always be that. The positive and fab is the important part. And yes, cheers to the beginning of your new family! I’m a few days from my one year anniversary… amazing how quickly it passed and how the wedding seems so long ago, but not at the same time. Thanks, again!

  • Kamel Perez Mon

    It was one of the happiest day of my life being the father of the groom! But what gives me more honor, more pride is the beautiful people that now I call family!

    Yours words Lauren, made me walked the day again, step by step, tears included!

    Love you!

    • http://www.safarimama.blog.com Manya

      Oh, Man. Kamel’s DAD!
      Lauren, your father-in-law just got on APW and said he loves you.
      Now I’m crying, because dads are great, and I love and miss mine.

      • http://betterinrealife.com Lauren

        That’s pretty much the bestest. :)

  • FawMo

    This is just so beautiful. Maybe it’s because I know the characters, or went to high school there too, or just genuinely love weddings no matter the stripe, but I was deeply touched by this post. What a whirlwind of emotion! I’m sitting here at my desk with a stomach flipped over from anxiety and a heart full of warm thoughts and hopes for you both.

    You radiate joy and happiness and deserve all the good things coming to you.

  • http://cobaltandblue.blogspot.com ML

    so, so beautiful. so happy for you two!

  • http://fianceesarehumanstoo.tumblr.com/ fianceesarehumanstoo

    Lauren, that picture of you two standing while every one else raises their hands to pray for you? FANTASTIC. And, just, a Moment. With a capital M!

  • http://www.bluscelebrations.com bec

    This: “Everything about a wedding has to do with rolling with it.” Yes!

    Whatever happens on your wedding day, these are what makes up your story and what makes your day so unique and special. Congratulations on your beautiful, emotional wedding and cheers to your new family!!

  • http://www.koruwedding.blogspot.com/ Koru Kate

    Fab post, loved your description of seeing Kamel at the end of the aisle “beaming like a shooting star.” I was instantly brought back to walking down the aisle & spotting my grinning/crying Groom. Congrats & best wishes!

  • http://Www.armyamy.wordpress.com Amy*

    Beautiful wedding and beautiful post! My wedding was two years ago, and what you said still resonates with me! Congrats and best wishes!*

  • http://pinchofthis.wordpress.com Jen

    ok. I’ve spent all day clicking here, reading, reading the comments, tearing up, then clicking over to your site so I can look at the pretty pictures and read more and then finding myself tongue tied to comment. So I leave it, come back and still…I just can’t get over the joy in these photos and in the words enough to find my words.

  • ElisabethJoanne

    “We went from table to table and greeted everyone, and everyone was so happy, and I was so happy. I was the best version of myself I have ever been on my wedding day, the best host, the most gracious guest of honor, all of it. I watched words coming out of my mouth during conversations with people I didn’t really know and thought, “Wow, good job Lauren… way to rock that.” It was like an out of body experience.”

    I have observed this in a bride and groom as a guest at a wedding. I was still dealing with a painful break-up (He called off the engagement suddenly and without explanation.), and I ran out of the reception hall when some well-meaning old-timers tried to get me involved in the bouquet toss. But when the bride and groom were so gracious to me, despite my not being quite in the right mood and causing a small scene, I thought that maybe, just maybe, I could let romance into my life again.

    • Pippa

      Oh Elisabeth Joanne honey my heart goes out to you. I too had my former fiance call off our engagement suddenly and without warning… I cannot fathom having the bravery to attend a wedding celebration after such a shattering event. That alone speaks volumes about you! You have more courage than you know!

  • ElisabethJoanne

    P.S. Congratulations! on getting people to sit in the FRONT in a Catholic church! I go to so many Catholic weddings that feel empty because the church is so much bigger than the congregation, but people don’t sit in front. It’s a tiny thing, but no one should feel lonely in church or on anyone’s wedding day.

  • http://www.linseykitchens.com Linsey

    Oh, the black spots–those freaking harbingers!
    And the yellow dresses are adorable!

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  • Moz

    Great grad post. I love that you had to sit down, some of us just get overwhelmed.

    Congrats on your marriage, both of you!

  • http://www.christytylerphotography.com Christy

    AHH! I’m crying through this entire post! You & your dad before walking down the aisle, Kamel telling you, “You can do this. I’ve got you.”, the best version of yourself, all of it! AH! Lauren I am SO over-the-moon happy for you two! And goodness lady – you are BEAUTIFUL!!!!! So much love. xoxo

    • http://www.christytylerphotography.com Christy

      Also – love the fun dancing pic of Maris & Alex! :)

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  • http://www.bridesanstulle.com Sharon

    Yay, Kamel and Lauren! This post makes me so unbelievably happy, because you guys so deserved a beautiful, genuine, joy-filled wedding. I’m so glad that the experience was transformational. I’m so glad you’ve shared it with us.

    (Also, hot damn, woman, that dress! You in that dress!)

  • http://abasketcase.blogspot.com Basketcase

    Wow.

    Can I just copy and paste most of this and pretend it was my wedding grad post?? Just with different photos??

    The whole week-before-this-isnt-worth-this-sh*t, the cr*a-Dad-stop-making-me-cry.

    Awesome post Lauren, as always

  • http://dylanandsarah.com Sarah T

    Yes, the whole week before thing. Thank you for putting that into words. That’s EXACTLY how I felt, up until the night before when the two of us were up until 4:30am, together.

    I’m so happy our wedding went the way it did. Would I have changed some things? Yes, even now (like actually giving my awesome DJ a no-play list like he wanted). Can I change it now? No! So I’m getting over it and sticking to what matters, which is that we got married, and everyone had a great time, including us.

  • Kate

    I’m so glad I read this because I am definitely in the thick of “Is this worth it?” I actually had that exact same thought that I want to change everything and just go to the courthouse and to a nice restaurant after. I spent all weekend trying to decide if I should send out my save-the-date cards or chuck them. This gives me hope that it might be worth it after all.

  • http://www.sadiesadiemarriedlady.com Sadie

    Wowsers.

    So, my fella and I had decided to do parents/siblings/and super-BFFs ONLY. That WAS the plan. And then the guest list exploded and now it’s 100 people and OMG what am I gonna do and blah blah blah. And even though the wedding is still almost 7 months away, I keep having that thought… the screw it all and go back to plan A thought. But we can’t, we’ve come too far, and we’re past the point of no return (save the dates, you know). And this post? This post made me happy about that decision, because there’s always room for more love and more happiness and more US.