Today’s post by Melissa, about negotiating her relationship with her husband who has Asperger’s, was the most enlightening post for me on this week’s topic of how we show love. Since Melissa and her husband literally have brains that function differently, they’ve had to refine their communication styles (through, funnily enough, good communication) to find a way to properly show each other care. And somehow, this post summed up for me the work we should all be doing in our relationships, to learn to love each other better.
When I was dating my husband, I didn’t think too much about the fact that he’d been diagnosed with Asperger’s as a child. I started to think about it more once we were engaged. And since we’ve been married I’ve become fixated on finding resources (both books and websites) detailing the experiences of others in my situation.
I have to say, those websites and books have been depressing! I stopped reading and seeking out advice when most of it ended up being, “My husband has something wrong with him. He was diagnosed with Asperger’s, and now we’re getting a divorce.” I knew going into my marriage that I would have to take on the challenges but also the benefits that Asperger’s entails, and I wanted to learn all I could so I knew how to react and respond.
My husband has Asperger’s, but I am what is called an NT (neuro-typical, or more simply “person without Asperger’s or any other autism spectrum disorder”). This is a fact of our married life, but I’m trying to strike a balance. I don’t want my husband’s Asperger’s to define him or our marriage more than any other traits we possess, but I also want to take it into account when we’re talking about things that matter to us.
Asperger’s can vary from person to person, as it (and other similar conditions) falls on a spectrum that includes autism and other pervasive development disorders (PDDs). My husband has a relatively mild form of Asperger’s, and through years of therapeutic coaching, he has learned how to recognize and express certain social behaviors that might otherwise come naturally to others. Most of our friends wouldn’t know he even has it. And importantly, he refuses to be defined by it. As a result I’ve worked very hard to not allow it to define our marriage, while also recognizing the potential challenges Asperger’s might present to our relationship.
The biggest challenges, obviously, have to do with communication. The biggest issue is our respective communication styles. My husband is often unable to read my body language to know when I’m tired, or bored, or ecstatic. As someone who learned at a very early age to communicate many emotions without speaking, I had a difficult time with this in the beginning of our relationship. I wanted him to see what I was feeling, but he hadn’t quite learned that language yet. Surprisingly, this is now becoming a benefit to me since it’s forcing me to improve my own style of communication. No more soft sighs and crossing my arms—I’m now able to more easily and assertively express myself (something I’ve had challenges with my entire life!)
We both consider ourselves funny people, but it takes him a little longer to realize that when I’ve crossed my arms and sighed, it means that I’m tired of the playful back-and-forth teasing. Communication is a two way street, however, and I’m slowly learning to use my words to assertively express what I’m feeling right in that moment. Our philosophy has become one of “just tell me,” which is improving my communication both with my husband and with others.
In addition to not being able to easily read body language cues, my husband is also careful when expressing his own needs. He takes his time fleshing out thoughts in his head before the words exit his mouth. It means that he is always thoughtful about every word. I am not quite as thoughtful. I talk a lot, working through problems and concerns out loud. Even the most minor concerns. Especially when they are concerns that vanish in a matter of hours. My husband, on the other hand, has a more long-term approach. He works through potential concerns before bringing them up with me. I’ve had to realize that he doesn’t think out loud like I do, and when he talks I need to make sure I listen. Nothing frustrates him more than when we’re discussing a big life issue (career, families, etc.) and I end up talking over him or interrupting him without realizing it. Over the years, I’ve gotten better at catching myself when I start doing this, but when the conversation gets intense it can be tough to just close my mouth and listen.
My husband also likes to focus on one task at a time. He doesn’t like having to jump back and forth conversationally. When we’re discussing something, he prefers that we discuss it, resolve it, and move on. As a result, I’ve improved my own focus on what’s right in front of me at the moment.
As I’m writing this, I’m realizing that most of the challenges we’ve faced together over the years have actually allowed both of us to grow our communication styles and come closer together. Before I met my husband, I was a person who communicated non-verbally, in somewhat passive ways. Since we’ve been together, I’ve developed a stronger and more assertive way of communicating. I’ve learned how to phrase my wants and needs in a way that makes sense to someone who lives outside of my own head. And, importantly, I’m learning how to truly listen to someone else.
It can definitely be frustrating at times when my husband and I aren’t quite on the same wavelength. And we still have a lot to learn about the best ways to communicate with one another. But we’ve grown together and made it a priority to keep open and honest communication at the forefront of our marriage. So long as we keep our marriage in mind, and keep the other person in our thoughts, we will continue to grow and improve together in the decades to follow.
Editor’s note: For additional resources and information on Asperger’s Syndrome, Melissa recommends checking out aane.org, experienceproject.com, or faas.org (clicking on any of those links will take you directly to their page on Asperger’s Syndrome).
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Perhaps this is because I’ve flirted with the autism spectrum (tested for aspergers as a kid, but I wasn’t diagnosed), but this seems like the kind of thing that all couples, no matter their neural pathways, should really work on. Active communication is so much better. It just gets everything out onto the table at once and then you can really try to figure out what issues really need to be worked on.
July 12, 2012 4:55 am
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Possibly my favorite apw post ever. This seems like great advice for any couple. I know I do some of the same things, like always expecting my husband to read my moods which he finds frustrating. You’ve definitely inspired me to work on my communication skills.
July 12, 2012 5:12 am
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Yep, and it doesn’t just apply to marriage either. I went on a management training course once, and asked the coach, ‘There’s a guy at the office who just always stands a bit too close to me, what can I do?’. And she said, ‘Well, have you told him? He’s not a mind reader’.
And she was so right. Often when we are uncomfortable, tired, or just feeling sad, we expect the other person to know. Actually, just coming out and saying it ensures they do.
(The guy was quite embarrassed for a few days, but he never stood too close again! I had written him off as a creep, turns out we just had different ideas of the acceptable amount of personal space required).
July 12, 2012 5:39 am
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“He/She isn’t a mindreader.” My best friend and I have made this a mantra in our lives, when we hit the wall. I am constantly trying to read nonverbal “clues” like, “oh, is so-and-so maybe mad at me because she did this” and it drives me crazy. At some point in our lives, we have to step up and say, “I’m upset because of this.”
I’m not trying to say nonverbal communication isn’t valid, but this post underscored for me how we just have to SAY IT. Thank you, Melissa, for this. I love it so much. It’s something every adult relationship should work on!
July 12, 2012 6:32 am
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Check out the book Journal of Best Practices! My guy and I read it after hearing about it on NPR and it was super interesting. It’s the story of a man whose marriage is crumbling when he gets diagnosed with Aspergers. He then works to overcome the differences between himself and his wife to have a much better marriage and be a much better dad. It sounds like your husband is in much better shape socially-speaking, but the book was a great perspective on how relationships between NT’s and folks with Autism-spectrum disorders can have fulfilling, happy marriages.
July 12, 2012 5:47 am
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I was going to reference that! I haven’t read the book, but the Boy and I listened to the NPR story together and discussed it. Here’s the link if anyone is interested: http://www.npr.org/2012/02/03/146342668/best-practices-learning-to-live-with-aspergers
July 12, 2012 6:04 am
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YES!! Journal of Best Practices is a fabulous book. Glad someone recommended it before me.
July 12, 2012 6:41 am
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The husband and I actually listened to this on NPR together and found it very enlightening!
July 12, 2012 7:00 am
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From this comment and ones below it seems like APW <3s NPR.
July 12, 2012 8:44 am
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My fiance and I also have very different communication and personality styles. We’re not quite as polarized as aspergers and NT, but we regularly discuss and realize how much stronger our communication struggles make our relationship in the long run. It’s not always easy to embrace that gift when we’re in the middle of a long, tedius and stressful fight, knowing it that we’re probably after the same goal but still rehashing one, simple point for hours and hours because we can’t understand one another. However, by time we finally fall into bed or finish the argument, we both feel stronger in the relationship. It really reminds both of us how committed we are to understanding each other and to our relationship. Cheers to you and to putting in that work, every single day.
July 12, 2012 6:30 am
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Very glad to see this post. My brother has Asperger’s as well, and I tend to worry that he might never find a long term relationship. Like Melissa’s husband, my brother isn’t too far on the spectrum, and over the last few years has been far more aware of his own social behaviors and how he can interact with other people. This post gives me a lot of hope that he can find someone who will understand his differences and be willing to work on communication, like Melissa and her husband have.
July 12, 2012 6:32 am
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My mother-in-law has told me that she was never sure if my husband would find a life partner either. Best of luck to your brother.
July 12, 2012 6:59 am
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I also have a younger brother with Asperger’s, and this post just made me so happy. Thank you to Melissa for writing it.
July 12, 2012 11:44 am
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I wish that some with Asperger’s admitted to it. I’ve been on way too many dates where I’ve come home and been like “that dude was a creepy f*ck” only when relating the date, my fiance will say “no that sounds Aspy to me”. And it does! But people often don’t admit to it easily, and it makes it difficult to adjust to that.
Good luck and it sounds like you guys are on the right track communication-wise. :-P
July 12, 2012 6:33 am
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Well, there are a lot of people who aren’t diagnosed who have aspergers and a lot of people who are not on the autism spectrum, but have characteristics often associated with autism.
For a while I thought I might have aspergers as I was/am very socially awkward. Turns out I had been tested in kindergarten and I wasn’t on the autism spectrum, but I showed a lot of the same characteristics. The way I approach relationships is different to someone on the autism spectrum (I’m hyper sensitive to other’s feelings, etc so it’s information overload and I get stressed and shut down), but the external result is still the same.
So everyone you meet that’s a bit off may not have aspergers, but may have aspergers-like tendencies. For example, if you read the INTJ description (Myers Briggs typology indicator and what I test as), it sounds a lot like someone with aspergers, but most INTJ’s are neurotypical. (Although if memory serves me right, people who have aspergers are more likely to be INTJ than the general population.)
So, I guess just try to give everyone a bit of a break!
July 12, 2012 7:06 am
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I was going to make the same point as Kestrel. My husband is also an INTJ and presents to a lot of people as someone who has characteristics of someone with aspergers. While it may or may not be true (he does not want to be tested at this point in his life because he doesn’t feel it would change anything), I know people that are put off by things that he does, but they don’t actually communicate that to him, which can be just as troublesome.
July 12, 2012 8:43 am
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I think it’s also important to remember that although you might have taken it well, there’s a lot of people who might not have. So telling someone you have Asperger’s on a first date would be fairly nerve wracking. In Melissa’s post she stresses how her husband refuses to be defined by his diagnosis. Telling someone immediately upon meeting them that you have Asperger’s, runs the risk of making your date all about your diagnosis. I would assume that most of those people you went out with wanted you to be into them for who they are. Does that make sense? I’m just trying to show the other side of the coin. I work with children and youth with all kinds of disabilities (including asperger’s) and I know for most of them the number one thing they want is to be accepted and by telling someone your diagnosis you run the risk of pity over acceptance.
July 12, 2012 3:48 pm
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Hmm, my husband has Asperger’s and I am NT, and we DEFINITELY have communication issues. I don’t think it’s so much an issue of not assertively expressing ourselves. I am a rather blunt, candid person, which I think makes me a lot easier for my husband to deal with than his previous girlfriends. I feel like we are each expressing ourselves, but still not “getting” what the other person means. Like, I will think I made myself very clear, but he will still read something into it that is totally different from my intention.
I’m trying to convince him that couples therapy could help us work on these things, sort of “preventive maintenance” for our relationship. But he doesn’t think there’s any problem or that therapy would help. So I guess it is on me.
July 12, 2012 7:37 am
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Although my fiance does not have Asperger’s, like many couples we’ve had our fair share of communication issues. We had a major crisis in our lives this past winter and I went to counselling by my self because I felt so overwhelmed and unable to cope. I found that it was actually very enlightening to talk about our issues and my feelings with a neutral (and professional!) third party. It helped me recognize how I was feeling and handling situations and what things were in my control vs. out of my control. I would greatly encourage you to seek counseling independently, even though joint counseling can also be extremely helpful (don’t give up on that option for the future!). Also, for ANYONE looking to improve their communication skills in their relationship, or anywhere, I highly recommend the book “Crucial Conversations”, by Patterson, Grenny, McMillan, and Switzler. It has made me, and continues to make me, a better fiance, daughter, friend, employee, etc.
July 12, 2012 11:17 am
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My mom did her Masters Thesis on PDD and “the spectrum” as she calls it. She’s an early childhood educator, so the chatter I heard on the topic was always about how best to engage the student, educate around their different needs, etc. And yet – I’d never really thought about what happens when those students grow up and form relationships. Very interesting read, Melissa. Good advice for all.
July 12, 2012 7:54 am
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Yeah, a lot of people think of ASD as it applies to children and we forget they grow up. There’s a lot of concern and annoyance at this on autism spaces on the web- people get very frustrated when “awareness” don’t seem aware of adults on the spectrum…
July 12, 2012 8:05 am
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So true! I’m a 30 year old and most of the resources and discussions all seem to be focused on spectrum kids and what their parents can do. I’ve hunted for resources teaching me how to take care of myself!
July 12, 2012 10:23 am
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When I was married, I had a niece who was severely autistic. One of my cousins has a son who was on the spectrum, but mild enough to grow out of it.
I have watched autism spectrum disorders grow into an epidemic with utter dismay and really hope scientists figure it out soon. I’m not one of those who thinks that it was just under-diagnosed in previous decades. I’ve seen autism up close and know it was truly rare when I was growing up.
Until this post, I never thought about the impact this epidemic was going to have on marriages. It’s true that the information is always directed at childhood issues.
We’re going to be hearing about this more and more. My heart goes out to those affected because it really is difficult for them to pick up on social cues without formal training. Thank you Melissa to opening our eyes about what it means for GROWNUPS with spectrum challenges.
July 12, 2012 1:49 pm
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So many of the children diagnosed with ASD in the 80s are adults now and navigating the world, but you’re right, there definitely aren’t enough people talking about it.
July 12, 2012 4:53 pm
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Aine I think children would be less life threatening the when the become adults with autism. I tried so hard with every drop of my loving heart to make it work…but he refused to believe he had aspergers and in the end we were at each others throats. He slept with a lot of women he met online behind my hack..and accused me of horrid things….even saw me at the dame time he’s with his present victim.
May 4, 2013 7:29 am
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Great read, thanks for sharing Melissa. Definitely advice that even people who are both NT can relate to– because nobody is a mind reader, and communication is so important, but it is hard work, and for those with passive tendancies it is so much more comfortable to be passive sometimes!!! Kudos to you for working past it.
There was a radio segment on This American Life about a husband whose wife figured out he had Asperger’s a few years into the marriage- and it turns out he did. Their story and how they worked through it and came out stronger is inspiring. Here is a link to that segment http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/458/play-the-part?act=2
July 12, 2012 8:27 am
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Great This American Life episode on the subject: http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/458/play-the-part?act=2
July 12, 2012 8:29 am
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Lovely post. One of my favorites thus far!
July 12, 2012 8:54 am
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Thanks for this post! My husband hasn’t ever been diagnosed, and if he’s even on the spectrum it would be a mild form of Asperger’s. We have some of these same issues though! He hates it when I talk over him and I have a hard time realizing when I’m doing it because in my family of origin talking over and jumping in is a way to show we’re engaged and excited by the discussion. Perhaps it’s not polite, but it’s what I grew up with and hard to adjust now. Thanks for everything you’ve written though, because we need this help too!
July 12, 2012 8:55 am
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I’m extremely easily distracted and my husband also likes to focus on a single issue at a time. It’s something I never really thought was a problem until I started working with clients and realized that sometimes they don’t realize that I’ve jumped to a different incident that I’m asking about or made a connection in my head. I have to take a step back and connect the dots for my clients and the court. I find that working on this in one area of my life has improved my marriage, so this post resonated a lot with me. I like to believe that if my husband and I keep working on our communication, it can also improve other areas of my life.
July 12, 2012 9:51 am
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I like that you wen t a different direction from the people saying “there’s something wrong with my husband.”
I find that AS has its challenges, but it also has its benefits. I value the way it has shaped how I see the world.
July 12, 2012 10:22 am
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Agreed completely. I definitely don’t see it as a “disability” in our lives.
July 12, 2012 4:51 pm
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My ex had aspergers and this rings all kinds of true for me. It was not the reason we broke up. In fact it was one of the things that enhanced our relationship in some of the ways you describe. When I could express what I was feeling properly and clearly he understood it in some ways better than others as he just heard what I said and was very sweet about it, I think he even ended up understanding my depression (eventually when we learned to deal with it).
It also led to a very odd break up. A month after we broke up, we met up and he said all the things most people would have said during the break up and I listened. He had to think carefully about what he said and how he said it and I had to respect that. Lots of people still don’t understand that.
I hope I have mostly learned form it, though I still sometimes fail to communicate with my husband as I should. This reminds me to do that, and is a wonderful lesson. Thank you for your post.
July 12, 2012 10:52 am
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This article was also super-helpful to me. Both my partner and I both test high for Aspergers on those silly internet quizzes, and we have each had friends say they think we have Aspy traits, but neither of us have been diagnosed.
Although my partner sees himself as insightful in terms of people and emotions, and probably is more so than I am, he learned in his family of origin to state needs clearly and not expect people to guess them, and to not try to guess other people’s needs since you might be wrong. While I learned in my family of origin that it’s “impolite” to state things too clearly and everyone was supposed to always be guessing others’ needs. (Which didn’t (and still doesn’t) work that well, since no one in my family of origin is good at interpreting/guessing people’s needs based on non-verbal or subtle clues.) It drives my partner crazy when I try to guess what he needs instead of asking, since I’m usually wrong, and I sometimes don’t get my needs met because I don’t state them when I should.
So the reminder to find ways of communicating that work for your partner, not get mad that they’re not understanding you, is super useful to me.
July 12, 2012 11:09 am
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As someone hoping to have children in the relatively near future, I have thought a lot recently about the dramatic rise in percentage of children diagnosed as being somewhere within the autism spectrum. Honestly, it scares me a lot. Given the huge rise in cases, I have to anticipate that either I or one of my very dear friends will have a child who faces one of these conditions. And, coming from that mindset, all I could think about when I read this post is how amazingly happy it makes me that your husband found you. Imagining having my own child with an autism condition made me realize how much I would hope that they would find a loving and supportive partner. I can’t really speak for parents who currently have children with these conditions, since for me right now this is only a nagging fear of what one day may come to be, but I imagine that your post not only gives hope (and tools!) to the spouses of those dealing with autism conditions, it also really provides a lot of hope and hapiness to parents who wish for bright happy futures for their children as well.
July 12, 2012 3:10 pm
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Thank you. Your comment means a lot to me. My husband and I also face some of the same fears as you since Asperger’s can be linked to genetics. So if that’s the case, I hope that our marriage can be a great example for our future children.
July 12, 2012 4:50 pm
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My children (3 years old twins) were assessed earlier this year and found to have what could be considered as inconsistent autistic characteristics, possibly due to our life circumstances (multilingual family, lack of socialization). So, not enough for a diagnosis but enough to alert us. They started occupational and speech therapy, the whole family switched to one common language (English) and we started seeing a parental counsellor. They have been progressing very fast and seem to be getting out of the worrying area, even though we probably still have months of therapy ahead of us (none of which is covered by our insurance).
It has been hard, no doubts about it, but at the same time all of this has been a blessing because it has given us much more awareness and mindfulness as parents, and because it has improved the way we communicate with our children and with each other and has made us more careful of every message we deliver. Apart from the therapies themselves, two books have been extremely helpful: Play to talk, by James McDonald and Pam Stoika, and It takes two to talk, by Jan Pepper and Elaine Weitzman. I thought I would mention them in case they can be of use to any parent looking for help in this journey.
July 13, 2012 12:22 pm
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That sweet and shows humanity also as aspergers syndrome person also need love,care,relationship.And all reading this blog should learn something.
July 13, 2012 1:41 am
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More information and support is definitely needed for the public re NT-AS and marriage/relationships.
We thank the editor for including FAAAS’ website, although it was listed incorrectly. http://www.faaas.org is the correct link.
FAAAS (Families of Adults Affected by Asperger’s Syndrome)
July 13, 2012 10:03 am
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Thank you for this post! I don’t have Asperger’s, nor does my fiance, but we do have very different communication styles and we don’t always “click” on an emotional level. Thank you for the reassurance that we can have a strong relationship regardless.
July 13, 2012 12:13 pm
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Thank you for a most informative article regarding the truth of the difficulties in communication between those with AS and those without. This is one of the causes of many stressful conflicts between spouses.
There are no real solutions, as stated; because of differing brains, but attempts can be made to ease some of the difficulties with education and validation of the truth of the situation. Careful decision making about any consequences must be included.
Thank you again for assisting to shed light on this hidden distressing way of life. Judith
July 13, 2012 2:43 pm
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I have Asperger’s. After I was diagnosed and could tell people what was going on with me, why I didn’t understand, I pretty much adopted the “tell me what you mean” rule.
I read those same resources the author read (or at least very similar ones) back when I was first trying to date; I knew I wanted to get married someday. It hurts so much to be told you’re defective. It’s also incredibly easy to internalize. Especially when so many people are so unwilling to listen when you tell them that you have a disorder and to please follow the “tell me what you mean” rule and they’re perfectly happy to conclude that you are, in fact, deliberately being annoying/disobedient/stupid/an asshole.
I’m incredibly lucky that I eventually found a man who gets it and wants to spend his life with me. The author’s husband is lucky that he has someone who will take him for who he is.
July 13, 2012 8:21 pm
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I loved this article — it was a mirror image of my relationship with my aspie groom to be …. It is really hard but like anything else being committed to the relationship is the first step to success – and you may really have to change your definition of success…I loved the way she understands her husband — but it must be said Aspies husbands come with wonderful blessings too! Because these things don’t come naturally he has become an astute anthropologist in the workings of human relationships – My hubby to be is like a very sweet ( and hot) alien studying human spousal relationships in the wild….It really helps he had a loving mother who recognized his condition and really gave him a balanced look on life and like the author said a great sense of humor is a must.
July 19, 2012 10:35 am
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He has already betrayed u Christine…I’m sorry.
May 4, 2013 8:02 am
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Wow – can we say bitter party of one?
May 6, 2013 12:39 pm
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Thanks for a great read. I can relate to this because of my fiancé’s OCD. Most people would never know he has it (his manifests itself in the form of mental compulsions/obsessions as opposed to physical) but it really throws a different dynamic into the relationship regardless. Communication has to be much more intentional. Interestingly, like others have mentioned, that has been a massive benefit! I’ve never had such a healthy relationship and most of that is due to his extremely thoughtful and intentional communication style and nature.
The genetics thing and whether to have children or not is interesting…I kind of feel like we ALL have things we wouldn’t want to get passed down….whether that’s addictions (like my family), or mental health issues or cancer. If we do have kids, it will be disappointing if they have OCD because I know what a struggle it is to go through, but on the other hand, I can’t imagine a world without my guy and I’d so rather he was here with his OCD than not here!! And we can’t all stop having kids!
July 24, 2012 4:30 pm
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Although a great post for those in relationships with Aspies who are willing to do some of the work that comes with ANY relationship….not so great for those of us married to Aspies who continue to ignore their aspieness AND the relationship. I was my exes “special interest” while we were dating and he treated me like a queen, promised me the moon and stars, most importantly, promised me he would work on communication. Once we got married, any difficult conversations were off the table and I was placed on a shelf. Half of our six year marriage was sexless. I couldn’t take it any more, I begged to work on it but all I got were empty promises. Not all aspies are the same. Just be careful.
February 3, 2013 8:06 pm
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THANK YOU for this post! I am an NT woman deeply in love with my mildly AS husband. It is precisely his Aspy traits that I cherish. Like the author and her husband, I believe our differences have made both of us better people, especially in our communication skills. My husband means every carefully considered word he says, and I trust him completely. He is incapable of even white-lying (so I have to be prepared whenever I ask him, “How do I look?” ;-) ), and he will always give an honest answer (though never a rude one). His actions are also in absolute alignment with his words. I just adore him and consider myself lucky. :-)
April 6, 2013 2:02 am
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Thank you so much for such a positive way to put wanting to be with your husband despite his aspergers…I have read neumerous sites where it says…”watch your love life dwindle” and “I think its time for a divorce” I love my husband so much there is no one quite like him. Granted there are days I just want to pull my hair out, but in the end I am so happy hes there. I am so grateful there is someone out there who wants to keep trying to keep marriage working and communication open!! I have joined a self esteem and boundaries class, as well as an assertiveness class to help in the areas of communication.
much love THANK YOU
April 17, 2013 10:53 am
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I am happy to report that my wife and I are now happily back together. I have to say it was effortlessly done! Within 72 hours, My wife is back in my life. My wife left me a year ago.with my two kids The longer she’s gone, the more I see what a jerk I was. At first, I blamed her for leaving. I told her she was ‘wrong’. In fact, I slapped Scripture on her, trying to guilt-induce her any way I could. My anger make me only to pushed her farther away. I can’t believe the way I acted. My wife gave me chance after chance, and I ignored her. I contacted Dr Best and within a few minutes of speaking with him, I realized that Dr Best was the one person whom I could completely trust. I just wanted to thank you for all your help! and I will always be using Dr.Best for further work in the future because he really put smile on my family again. We are now blissfully celebrating our Birthdays together. Thank you so much!!! For those who might also want to give him a try. Email him on bestlovespell@gmail.com or find him on Facebook at best temple. you will never regret ever contacting him i wish all that will contact him best of luck
June 1, 2013 2:35 am
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