Soundtrack for reading: “Mountains” by Biffy Clyro
One sentence sum up of the wedding vibe: Love-filled inclusive holiday with a wedding thrown in for good measure.
Other cool stuff we should know about: Andy and I planned every detail of our wedding together. We live in South Africa and decided to get married in our neighbouring country of Mozambique, as we are both head over heels in love with it and have travelled there eight times in our seven years together. Initially having a destination/secular wedding was met with a great deal of opposition, but when the time came for everyone to pack their bags and make the five hour car trip and then one hour off-road trip, everyone was in love with our wedding nearly as much as us! Our wedding was a five-day holiday adventure with our dearest friends and family, which culminated in a celebration of our love and one hell of a party.
I wore a gorgeous purple dress I bought off Modcloth and had slightly modified (I won’t get into the resistance and hostility I was met with for this choice). Purple has always been my favourite colour so there really wasn’t another choice. We walked down our aisle together escorted by both sets of parents. That way, not only were we entering into marriage as a unified force, but we did it will all four of our parents by our side. Our officiant and my work colleague read from Plato’s Symposium (I am a full on Classics nerd, we even had a Latin blessing!) where Plato speaks about soul mates and how they come in all forms of gender combinations, and this was very important for us. We wrote our own vows, and Andy made a wine box, in which we put our vows, a great bottle of red wine, and dark chocolate, to open on our one-year anniversary, to repeat every year.
The day before our wedding and the morning of, everyone pitched in and helped to decorate our ceremony and reception area. The spirit of community warms me to the cockles every time I think about it! We really strove to be as inclusive with everything as possible—the way we arranged the ceremony and reception area is testament to this. We really wanted everyone to feel a part of this celebration and to be an active participant in it! Honestly, I could write a dissertation about how magical/fleeting and special our wedding was and how uniquely it represented us as a couple, but the warm fuzzy feeling and stupid grin we get every time we talk about it or look at our pictures are evidence enough. Our wedding was an amazing day for us. Afterwards, I was glad it was over, but I cherish every detail of it I can remember. It was definitely one of my favourite days.
Favorite thing about the wedding
Cheesey, but marrying my favourite person, sharing an amazing memory-filled holiday with all those we care about, and boogie-ing on the dance floor with our parents!