One sentence sum up of the wedding vibe: A loving, supportive gathering of our community and families, all rolled into a really good time!
The Info—Photography: Little Bat Photography (APW Sponsor) / Venue: Saratoga Foothill Club / Flowers: Done ourselves with the help of family and friends, from San Francisco Flower Mart / Dessert: Homemade Italian wedding cookies and kiffles made by Beth’s mom and aunt / Beth’s Dress: David’s Bridal / Beth’s Shoes: Toms / Spencer’s Suit: Express / Spencer’s Shoes: Aldo / Beth’s Rings: Mansoor & Gore and DeNovo Fine Jewelry / Spencer’s Rings: Shaya Durbin
Other cool stuff we should know about: Our wedding was a really special gathering of our families and closest friends, who come from all different places and walks of life, and who were all there to celebrate our union. Beth is a very crafty person, and together we made the save the dates, invitations, programs, place cards, favor cards, and flag bunting that hung over the cake table. While we were elbow deep in DIY madness, we often turned to each other and said, “Why are we putting ourselves through this? We should just buy our invitations!” But in the end, it was so special to have those elements in the wedding that we spent so much time and energy on.
One aspect of the wedding that we put a lot of energy toward was making it an inclusive ceremony. Spencer is transgender and we both identify as queer, so being visible and supportive of same sex marriage were important aspects of our wedding. The ceremony itself was very inclusive of diversity, and Spencer’s father read part of the Goodridge v. Department of Public Health majority opinion. In lieu of wedding favors, we made a donation to Outlet, a local LGBTQ youth organization where Spencer volunteers regularly.
A special part of the wedding was seeing how much our families and friends really meshed—they all had so much fun dancing and getting to know each other, and we heard so many comments like, “We need to get together again!” Overall, it was just one really big, special party that we will treasure forever.
Favorite thing about the wedding: Beth: The energy—the feeling of “presence” that I was able to have throughout the day, and how I was able to take it all in as it was happening. I enjoyed every moment and just kept thinking what a special day it was. It meant so much to have all my friends and family in one place celebrating this huge life event with me.
Spencer: The ceremony—I was tearing up before I could even make it down the aisle, but everything about it was perfect. The officiant’s words could not have been more beautiful and the connectedness that I felt to all the family there supporting us was incredible. Having both of our fathers speak, the music, just everything fit in even more incredibly than I ever could have imagined.