What a week for news, RIGHT? On Wednesday night, for the first time ever, the baby flat out refused to go to sleep at his normal bedtime. We finally brought him out to the living room (knowing when you’ve been beaten is a key part of my parenting philosophy), and it turned out the kid just wanted to watch the news. No joke. He stared intently at the screen, and occasionally turned to us and said, “Dat dat dat bbbbbbbb,” and then turned back to listen carefully to details of the VRA, DOMA, Prop 8, #StandWithWendy, and the Zimmerman trial.
As for me, I spent half of the week feeling like the kid was doing a better job articulating his feelings about the news than I was. On DOMA alone I vacillated between headspinningly overjoyed, and dealing with this totally unexpected near blinding rage that we didn’t have a Loving-esque decision. And that while Section 3 of DOMA was struck down, Section 2 of DOMA is still standing. Logical? Probably not. I know the timeline on a broader decision just shortened dramatically. But apparently that’s what happens when twenty years of your bottled up rage on an issue explodes at once. (Perhaps this is where I should recommend not slapping a happy face over your emotions for twenty years, even if you think it will help win hearts and minds?)
But mostly, this week was one for celebration, of heart stopping feminist moments, and of lots and lots to discuss. Plus, it was APW Pride week. Let’s get into it.
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Highlights of APW Pride Week
Intern Elisabeth’s partner K on how it’s Elisabeth’s wedding, but her legally binding clambake.
Matthew & Mathew! Adorable gay male wedding in a clock tower, FTW!
Open Thread: how we’re having good sex. Get it, girls.
Two ladies break down how they did it (with budget numbers) for their church social hall wedding. This is only the kind of wedding I’ve been talking about since… the dawn of time.
And finally, it may not technically be Pride related (though it is pretty Femme) our How-To on colorful oversized wedding bouquets is one of my favorite projects the APW staff has ever worked on.
One of my favorite articles about the week and speaking out as women, comes from The Cut. Though the last word on Justice Alito rolling his eyes at Ginsberg comes from the ladies at Jezebel who said, “YOU LEAVE RUTH BADER GINSBURG ALONE, SAMUEL ALITO!” and “YOU DO NOT GET TO TALK TO MY PRETEND GRANDMA IN THIS WAY. I WILL KICK YOUR ASS, SIR. I MEAN IT.”
This article on “What White People Don’t Understand About Rachel Jeantel” is required reading. Married to a litigator, I’ve seen my share of reluctant witnesses, but something about Rachel Jeantel’s spunk in an emotionally exhausting situation won my heart. Take that, Mr. Knock Knock Joke.
And speaking of race, dig into the gutting of the Voting Rights Act with this piece from Colorlines.
But let’s get down to DOMA and Prop 8. We know the Supreme Court did it for Bert & Ernie, so I’m probably going to save this New Yorker cover forever.
But then there was all the equality and love all over the internet. This mom’s touching open letter to her young son about Christianity and homosexuality sums up some of my theological arguments on why I think Christianity requires believers to be pro-gay. Fun fact! My parents published and taught on the theology of gay rights in the early ’90s, so catch me over coffee, any time you want to chat about that in detail.
Speaking of pride in my heritage, Snippets of Sarah shared this lesbian wedding. The venue is the Equality House right in front of Westboro Baptist Church. The Officiant, the executive director of the Association of Welcoming and Affirming Baptists, a.k.a. the church association of my childhood.
For those of you heading to San Francisco Pride this weekend, keep in mind this fabulous Columbus, OH Pride parade attendee’s response to an anti-gay protester.
We’ll be re-watching the moment when Senator Van de Putte threw down the gauntlet at the Texas Senate late on Monday night whenever we need a reminder to fight for what we believe in. #StandWithWendy indeed.
And whatever, let’s end this light. Kanye or Lucille Bluth? All I’m saying is that Maddie only got one wrong. She knows her Lucille.
I’m hoping ESB keeps up her new Where Do The Cool Girls Shop? series forever, because it’s already solving my problems.
And finally, just in time for the end of Pride week, I’m thrilled to announce that SoYourEnGAYged, the gay wedding planning site co-founded by long time APW Sponsor Kelly Prizel, is coming back from its year-long hiatus! BAM!