by Maddie Eisenhart, Managing Editor
Last year I wrote a post for you guys about Michael and I deciding to live with a roommate as a married couple. Since writing that post, I’ve been spending a lot of time thinking about the role our friendships play in weddings and marriage. On the one hand, maintaining friendships as an adult in a partnered relationship is something that takes (worthwhile) effort, and if I don’t prioritize them, those relationships can fall to the wayside. On the other hand, my friendships are even more important to me now than they were before I got married, and one of the quickest ways Michael and I have improved the health of our marriage this year has been creating a stronger community around it. So with this in mind, we thought we’d dedicate next month to:
Balancing our relationships with friendships takes practice, so in July we’ll be discussing the ways weddings and marriage teach us about this other (but equally important) way we love each other. (Because weddings and marriage can bring out the best and worst in our friendships, amiright?)
As you consider what to submit, here is a quick reminder of some helpful tips and tricks when submitting your story:
- First, one of the primary characteristics we look for in submissions each month is a connection to a universal idea. We’re all writing from our personal experiences here, but if you can take that experience and make it something that other people are going to relate to, then we’ve got magic. But that doesn’t mean every post needs to have a big moral or overarching theme. Sometimes the most universal stories are the simplest ones.
- Second, as always, our themes are meant to serve as a guideline for submissions, but they aren’t rigid. Do with them what you will! For example, if next month’s theme is “Friendship” but you really need to talk about being a lone wolf planning a wedding, then we want to hear what you have to say. We’re always after diversity of experience here, so the most important thing is that you write something that is authentic to you (particularly if it’s a perspective we haven’t heard from in a while or at all).
- Also, when you’re submitting for the monthly theme, we don’t want you to feel as though you have to frame your story around the theme itself (i.e., “Friendship is important because…”). Heck, you don’t even have to include the name of the theme in your writing at all. Just write what you would normally write, and we’ll figure out if it’s a good fit for the month, or if maybe it would be a better fit for later in the year.
- Lastly, if you have something you just have to get out there into the world, but it doesn’t fit with the theme for the next month, please send it in anyway. Our top priority is always strong content, regardless of the topic.