Earlier today, Meg wrote a post about the elusive “timeless” wedding (and how it’s probably not a real thing if you think about it hard enough). The conversation that led us to publish that post opened us up to an even bigger conversation about the nature of risk and weddings. More than anywhere else, I see cautionary tales thrown at couples planning weddings. If you wear that, your wedding might end up on Awkward Family Photos in ten years. (To which I say as if. We all know the internet isn’t even going to exist in ten years. All the memes will be be Bluetoothed straight to our brains.) Don’t you want to grow your hair out for your wedding, Maddie? You don’t want to regret having it short, do you? Starting out our marriages this way, mitigating risk instead of embracing adventure, seems so contradictory to the essence of marriage, that I’m surprised we haven’t talked about it here more. Which is why next month, we’re tackling:
Too often in weddings (and life) we’re told to play it safe. That our decisions, both big and small, will haunt us forever. In August, we’re exploring the art of risk taking. Let’s see just how far it gets us.
As you consider what to submit, here is a quick reminder of some helpful tips and tricks when submitting your story:
- First, while we are always in the market for personal essays, don’t forget you can always frame your story around a Wedding Graduate post or a Wordless Wedding. And please, send us your Reclaiming Wife stories! It’s wedding season, so our content is going to be a bit more nuptial-heavy, but we still want to hear your thoughts on relationships, marriage, feminism, careers, and everything else in between.
- Next, one of the primary characteristics we look for in submissions each month is a connection to a universal idea. We’re all writing from our personal experiences here, but if you can take that experience and make it something that other people are going to relate to, then we’ve got magic. But that doesn’t mean every post needs to have a big moral or overarching theme. Sometimes the most universal stories are the simplest ones.
- As always, our themes are meant to serve as a guideline for submissions, but they aren’t rigid. Do with them what you will! For example, if next month’s theme is “Risk” but you really need to talk about how stability is the most important quality you’re looking for in a partner, then we want to hear what you have to say. We’re always after diversity of experience here, so the most important thing is that you write something that is authentic to you (particularly if it’s a perspective we haven’t heard from in a while or at all).
- Also, when you’re submitting for the monthly theme, we don’t want you to feel as though you have to frame your story around the theme itself (i.e., “It’s important to take risks because…”). Heck, you don’t even have to include the name of the theme in your writing at all. Just write what you would normally write, and we’ll figure out if it’s a good fit for the month, or if maybe it would be a better fit for later in the year.
- Lastly, if you have something you just have to get out there into the world, but it doesn’t fit with the theme for the next month, please send it in anyway. Our top priority is always strong content, regardless of the topic.