When I think about the wedding industry’s relationship with risk, it always reminds me of this exchange from How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days:
LANA JONG: Congratulations. This shows me you’re ready to be unleashed. From now on, feel free to write about anything.
LANA JONG: Wherever the wind blows you.
ANDIE: Even politics?
LANA JONG: Well, the wind’s not going to blow you there.
ANDIE: What about religion, poverty, economics?
LANA JONG: This wind is really more of a light breeze.
In short, the wedding industry loves it when we play it safe. Hypocritically, there are hundreds and hundreds of ways we’re asked to spend money so that we can have a “unique” and “personal” wedding, while we’re simultaneously threatened that too much editorializing of the approved status quo will look tacky and outdated and will possibly even offend your guests.
Now, for those of you who prefer classically inspired aesthetics at a wedding, this isn’t so much of an issue. But as someone whose biggest creative outlet is my own form, I found the whole wedding process stifling. Every time I wanted to take a risk and do something ballsy with my hair or dress, I got a hundred messages in my face saying, “DON’T OR YOU WILL REGRET IT.” Or worse, “That’s great, but what if we just tone it down a bit?” Now, four years down the road, the only thing I do regret is not being truer to myself.
So this week we wanted to give you permission step outside the box and into something daring by rounding up some of our favorite risky wedding dresses. But before you accuse me of being a hypocrite, I know these are all (mostly) white. Wearing a colorful wedding dress is a gutsy move in and of itself, so we figured that choice deserves its very own roundup. (If you have a colorful wedding dress you love, leave us a link in the comments. We’d love to create that roundup from a mix of your style and ours.)
And if you’re wearing a risky wedding dress, or wore a risky wedding dress at your wedding, here’s the place where I give you permission to brag about it. Because we’re totally in your corner on this one.
Chiffon Cutout Plunging Neckline Gown from Tadashi Shoji ($668)
Badgley Mischka Sequined Cowl-Back Gown from Neiman Marcus ($620)
Issa Printed Silk Halterneck Gown from Net-A-Porter ($14o0)
A.B.S. by Allen Schwartz Embellished One-Shoulder Evening Gown from Lord & Taylor ($590)
Helena Sleeveless Jumpsuit from BCBG* ($248)
‘La Reina’ Off Shoulder Peplum Gown* from Nordstrom ($690)
Juliet Cowl-Back Exposed Corset Gown from BCBG ($648)
Guipure Lace Shift Dress from Reiss ($360)
“Natalie” Plus-Size Matte Jersey Jumpsuit with Sash Belt from Monif C ($178)
Editor’s Note: I tried my damndest to find a place to buy that rad plus-size wedding dress in the title image to no avail. For those with a little more time and dedication, the dress is from Cymbeline‘s 2012 Bridal Collection. We also tried really hard to find more plus-size wedding dresses for this roundup, but since the wedding industry sucks, our efforts were not rewarded. That said, if you’ve got a good plus-size resource for us, leave it in the comments! We’re always on the lookout for more.
*Asterisks next to a dress description denote dresses that were available when this post was created, but are no longer available from the retailers listed. That said, if they are not re-stocked soon, both are currently available on eBay.