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Moe & Ken’s Unplanned Las Vegas Elopement


* Moe, Administrative Assistant for Grant-Making Organization & Ken, Teacher *

Moe & Kens Unplanned Las Vegas Elopement | A Practical Wedding

I’ve always been a spontaneous kind of girl. Plans that change on the fly, unexpected developments, surprises, either good or bad, have never really swayed me. Staying flexible has allowed me to roll with life’s punches. So to many of my friends it was no surprise when I returned from Las Vegas married.

I went for a weekend birthday celebration on the tightest of budgets. The hotel was already paid for. It was just me and my boyfriend, who had just completed his Master’s degree. We returned after the graduation ceremony to discover that his roommate had emptied the apartment of half its contents because he was moving out. The roommate didn’t want to worry my boyfriend, so he waited to spring the big news on him until after graduation. Gee, thanks! He was left in a lurch without a roommate and no permanent job. He had to give up the apartment eventually and move in temporarily with his mother across town.

Moe & Kens Unplanned Las Vegas Elopement | A Practical Wedding

My streak of unemployment had ended with a new job that paid below what I was used to making, but I was still thankful. At home, tension was growing in my family over what should be done about my elderly mother. I left my apartment, steady job, and independent life to move in with her. Taking care of her had become a larger burden than I could handle, and my boyfriend had seen me pushed to my breaking point.

Moe & Kens Unplanned Las Vegas Elopement | A Practical Wedding

I can’t think of any worse conditions to get married in, but we did. While in Las Vegas Ken won about $200 playing poker. Rational people would have used it for gas money to drive home. But not us! The more we talked about everything the more we realized that we just wanted to be together even if it meant starting with absolutely nothing. We had no place to live. He had no steady employment. We had no rings, but we found two copper bands at a souvenir shop while rushing to the chapel. I didn’t even have a white dress with me.

Moe & Kens Unplanned Las Vegas Elopement | A Practical Wedding

Getting married at that moment meant we would have the support of our conservative families. Neither of us wanted to live together without being married. We wanted to be married, I wanted a wedding, but the money, jobs, and right circumstances may never come. So why not start now? I knew that I didn’t want to live another day without this man being my husband. White dress, fancy party, catered meal, lush flowers, towering cake be damned. I was going for it!

After our chapel ceremony we called our parents first, then family, and about a week later made the big cyber-announcement on Facebook. (You know it doesn’t really count until it’s on Facebook, right?) By the way, our parents on both sides all married in Las Vegas too. Maybe it’s in our genes.Moe & Kens Unplanned Las Vegas Elopement | A Practical Wedding

We came home to family that was surprised and happy for us, and we have begun planning a family wedding in April. For me, I need that public validation of our commitment, and the very vain glamour girl inside me needs to have a day in a white dress. It will happen, but it was more important that I didn’t spend another day waiting for my new life to begin.

It took us about a month to be able to move in together. It meant selling any valuable possessions we had and organizing a huge yard sale. I had the contents of my old apartment but sold everything so we could get the new place. Friends stepped in to help in any way they could by helping us move and donating furniture. The best housewarming gift I got was a gift basket with small odds and ends that included two sets of utensils. We started out without even a fork to our names!

Moe & Kens Unplanned Las Vegas Elopement | A Practical Wedding

I repeatedly tell my husband that because we chose to get married that the universe has given us its blessing. His employment situation improved with a long-term teaching assignment. Our new life is simple and humble. Even though we live on a small budget, all the bills and rent get paid. We eat well. We clip coupons. In the first four months of marriage we’ve managed to furnish our home by visiting thrift shops and estate sales.

Moe & Kens Unplanned Las Vegas Elopement | A Practical Wedding

Only looking back now do I realize how love inspired us to take huge risks just to be together. I would have done it all over again in a heartbeat to be where I am now. A few weeks into living at our new apartment we sat on our sofa watching TV with our dog. (The Chihuahua is as much his now as she is mine.) I began to cry. I told my husband, “I’m so happy; this is all I’ve ever wanted.”

Moe & Kens Unplanned Las Vegas Elopement | A Practical Wedding

We’re planning a wedding with the help of friends and families on the smallest budget. I call it “The Little Wedding That Could.” I planned out the details of the wedding down to the last penny, and based on my calculations my husband set up a savings plan to have it all paid for. We’re planning a big backyard Mexican fiesta with a karaoke DJ and a taco man.

Moe & Kens Unplanned Las Vegas Elopement | A Practical Wedding

I don’t know if doings things any other way would have been better. I know that most people have an idea in their heads about how things “should” work out. Sometimes life doesn’t unfold that way though. My fabulous white dress is still on its way, but more than anything I have my husband. Together we are creating a life that has made me immensely happy, even if it didn’t have all the material things.

The Info—Photographer: Moe / Location: Las Vegas, Nevada / Venue: Chapel of Bliss

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  • Kristen

    This is seriously one of the most romantic stories I’ve read here. Congratulations Moe – you did take a big risk and how wonderful it paid off and that you’re happy!

  • Sarah

    I love this so much. Thank you for sharing this moment of love, trust and joy with us, in all it’s imperfection and beauty. So generous.

  • moe

    Is it possible to blush, smile and cry all at once? Oh yes it is! That was one year ago today. Not only are we getting by, we’re beginning to thrive now. Love conquers all!

    • Maddie

      <3.

    • Catherine McK

      Happy Anniversary! So excited to see part 1 of your story!

    • jashshea

      Oh! Made my comment below before adding up that it was you guys! Love this.

    • Jen

      Thank you for sharing this beautiful story with us!!

    • http://irvingplace.net Kayjayoh

      Happy Anniversary!

    • http://writemeg.com Megan

      This made me so happy and teary-eyed. Congratulations! Very romantic and fantastic, and so happy to see it’s you, Moe!

    • Shiri

      Aw, Moe, it’s you!! Congrats! I love it.

    • http://www.smittenchickens.com SarahHoppes

      CONGRATS AND HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!

  • jashshea

    This is awesome & super romantic. And you two couldn’t be cuter! Best of luck!

  • Corrie

    I think stories like this one – where the couple seemingly can’t afford a wedding but makes one happen anyway – are my favorites. Congrats!

  • Future Mrs. D.

    Happy Anniversary, Moe Betta Blues! <3

  • Mari

    Love this story! You guys are absolutely awesome. And everyone is right — what a romantic tale!

  • Sarah NCtoPA

    I noticed a recurring theme on this site is the debate on getting “wily ducks” in a room before getting engaged or married. I love this story–you guys get the chance to build your lives together. My husband and I married this summer after dating several years. We’re still not where we want to be geographically or professionally, but being married with all its benefits makes me feel better about our future endeavors.

    • Claire

      I also thought of the “wiley ducks”! I love how Moe and her husband decided not to wait until they had all their ducks in a row, and comitted to wrangle them together starting right now. It reminds me how, just a few generations ago, people often married young, and poor and just starting out. My parents and grandparents (on both sides) all built their lives together after marriage rather than building the life they wanted individually and then looking for someone to share it with once it was all “right”. I find that romantic.

      Congratulations!

    • moe

      Thanks! Love those wily ducks!!

      We had ducks all over the place, and even now things are still wily. Getting married enabled us to herd the ducks together as a team. It is all romantic but the lean times have been challenging and scary too. Being married does indeed help, hope it works out for you too. :)

  • http://cloverandlace.com Helen

    Yes, exactly this. Congratulations a zillion times. :)

  • Judith

    I don’t even know you, but I feel super proud of you and this story. You are an inspiration on how to embrace love in the face of uncertainty and cash money concerns. Congratulations.

  • Tamar

    “The more we talked about everything the more we realized that we just wanted to be together even if it meant starting with absolutely nothing.”

    So beautiful!! You two are the kind of people that all those wild, romantic fairy tales are based off of!

  • marbella

    so lovely! and your rings are absolutely gorgeous!

  • Emily

    “…it was more important that I didn’t spend another day waiting for my new life to begin.”

    That completely choked me up. What a love story! Congrats on one year!

  • http://www.meanestlook.com Sara

    Congratulations! Wonderful story. XOXO

  • http://cuvikingadventures.blogspot.ca/ Jenny- Adventures Along the Way

    “I know that most people have an idea in their heads about how things ‘should’ work out. Sometimes life doesn’t unfold that way though.”

    Isn’t this the truth? I have a very hard time with this one…

  • http://partialto.tumblr.com LIZ (SINCE 1982)

    Moe, you are FLAWLESS. I love that the two of you came to the realization that it was time to be married and then just MADE IT HAPPEN. IN A WEEKEND. LIKE A BOSS. (Bosses?)

    The detail that you started out without even silverware really resonated with me – my gent and I reminisce every so often about how we used to sit, eat, and sleep on the floor before we could afford furniture to go on top of the rent. But we had bookshelves! Priorities!

    Tangentially, I feel like copper is super underrated and your gorgeous rings are going in my mental file of evidence toward that point.

    Congratulations on your first year of marriage and best wishes for all those to come!

  • Lauren

    Moe, I have been waiting to read this wedding grad post for so long! Nothing but the best for you two. :)

  • http://www.ronmphoto.com Ron

    Congrats! Did you do any photos at the neon boneyard?

    • moe

      No, we didn’t realy have time. We drove home after getting married, we did have a great Thai lunch first. :)

  • http://www.metacafe.com/watch/10434461/mensusa_trendy_wedding_suits_for_men/ William James

    huge congratulations and what a lovely dress!

  • EB

    This is so sweet and romantic! One of my favorite weddings on this site. :)

  • http://www.marriageexperts.in wedding experts

    Congrats and Happy anniversary from wedding experts. thanks for writing such a nice blog.

  • Erica

    I feel like I’ve been there since the beginning! Love this! Reminds me of them “good ol’ days.”

  • http://everything.learackley.com Lea

    I honestly feel that there is no wedding more perfect than this one. It is wholly focused on what really matters. I’ll find it hard, after seeing this, to stress about chairs or shoes for my upcoming wedding. I think I’ll just feel damn lucky I’m marrying this man ‘o’ mine.

    Thanks, and best wishes!

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  • http://www.littlevegaswedding.com Kelly {Little Vegas Wedding}

    In awe. I had a Vegas wedding (posted about on APW, even) and blog about Vegas weddings every day but this one really got me. This is the real deal, folks.

  • http://www.kkshoes.biz kkshoes

    so sweet!