You know what the best possible time to switch your highly trafficked website’s hosting is? Tuesday morning. Just kidding, it’s TOTALLY NOT. But it’s what we did this week. Long story short, our hosting company has sucked for a long time. They haven’t been able to handle our traffic load, sold us upgrades to manage it (that didn’t manage it), and had terrible customer service. But we ignored the issue, because we’re about to relaunch the site, so we’d be fixing it in a few short weeks anyway. But then on Monday, things fell apart to the point that it was taking sixty seconds to load the site, and our hosting company told us it wasn’t their problem. You know what I have no patience for? Shitty customer service. (I’m looking at you, hipster waiters.) So we walked. The rest of the week has, of course, been dealing with the complex headaches of a hosting transfer. (Huh, these posts duplicated. Huh, these posts unpublished. Huh, these pictures are missing. Huh, this plug-in is now lines of error code.) But everything is now very close to being fixed. That means we’re even much closer to the new site, coming at you Monday, November 11th!
In the meantime, we’re off to David’s ten-year college reunion for the weekend. And now, it’s your Friday open thread, hop on it!
Highlights of APW This Week
Everything you need to know about rehearsal dinners (including the fact that you totally don’t have to have one).
The Feminist egalitarian parenting Open Thread is still going strong, so jump on it!
How do you walk down the aisle as a feminist? Any way you want.
“Wherein I Properly Thank The Nasty Internet Commenters” is such a smart commentary on what you learn as a woman attacked on the internet (hint: you win, the trolls lose), and also an articulate exploration of our relationship with beauty while wedding planning. (Hint: You can see the adorable proposal video that spawned the troll attack here.)
Our server issues didn’t stop you guys from pulling together tons of tips and tricks for teaching your partner how to do stuff.
We hope you didn’t miss Class of 1980’s amazing Sixties/Seventies playlist! At first I thought it would be like a snoozy oldies station, but I should have known better. It’s badass.
You don’t have to like Once Upon a Time, but it’s nice to see a show continuing to push forward with depictions of LGBT characters.
We all have one: that meal we make when we’re beholden to no one but ourselves for dinner. A Cup of Jo has been asking food bloggers what they make when they’re eating alone, and this entry by Dinner: A Love Story highlights my favorite easy dish: Cacio e Pepe (which I prefer to eat in Rome, but we can’t win them all).
From reader Nicole: A student provides some insight into how expectations for men and women differ and how much setting examples for our daughters really does matter.
Why is endometriosis called “the career woman’s disease”? Stuff Mom Never Told You explores why this condition is still so misunderstood by doctors everywhere.
From reader Rachel: Recent Booker Prize winner Eleanor Catton’s interview with The Guardian, and her observations on how female writers are often seen as less serious thinkers than men.
“And do I think that men (and women) who recoil in horror at the idea of a man consensually adopting his wife’s name have some *issues* with misogyny? YUP. They simply must. It is pure math.”
And finally, did you know that whiskey tastes different depending on where you are? Neat! Which, conveniently, is also how I like my whiskey.