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Roundup: Tomboy Flower Girl Outfits


Outfits even your Nana will love

by Lucy Bennett, Deputy Editor

Roundup: Tomboy Flower Girl Outfits | A Practical Wedding

Suits: Appaman Mod Suit in Mist | Photo: from PetitePARADE Kids Fashion Week by John Parra via Annex Magazine

Growing up, I was the constantly dirty, skinned-up and bruised girl in boy’s clothes just trying to have a little fun and maybe catch a couple lizards to stick in a jar. I also grew up with a mother who was adamant that I wear a dress for any occasion, whether that was a formal event, church, picture day, or going over to a relative’s house. These dresses were usually stiff affairs, all crinoline and lace that itched more than any clothing item should ever, ever itch. And don’t even get me started on Christmas dresses. They were, to put it lightly, a nightmarish torture contraption to my child brain, and not to be tolerated without at least an hour-long battle.

So when Meg asked if I’d like to head up a Tomboy Flower Girl Roundup, I jumped on it. Not because I was some kind of fashionable child genius who knew how to dress myself better than my parents, but I remember what I liked then, and what I wanted: comfort, mobility, and nothing itchy. I’m pretty sure that today’s tomboys want pretty much the same. I remember that the only time I would wear anything remotely dress-like was if it looked at least somewhat like a tutu, and then I would only wear it if I could wear leggings under it (and sneakers, or boots). I’d always liked how the older ballerinas in my dance school looked wearing leggings and tutus, twirling around without a care. Probably because they knew they weren’t accidentally flashing people every time they did a grand écart.

But every tomboy is different. Some girls just don’t want to wear pink, but dresses are fine; while others aren’t going to touch a dress with a ten foot pole, but will wear pink or lace or whatever you want. There are girls who want to dress exactly like their brothers, and girls who could care less what you put on them, so long as they can run, jump, climb, and move in every possible direction (like me). Of course it goes without saying that you can always pick up a suit from the boys department, if that’s what floats your flower girl’s boat. But for today, we’ve pulled together a few outfits that will, fingers crossed, keep your flower girl and your Nana happy alike. (These are obviously for inspiration. Your local Target, or Sears, or wherever you shop will carry similar looks at a variety of price points).

Roundup: Tomboy Flower Girl Outfits | A Practical Wedding

1. Girls’ Tissue Oxford Academy Shirt available at J. Crew ($29.50) 2. Washed Velvet Shorts available at Boden USA ($25.50) 3. Glitter Suede High Tops available at J. Crew ($118) 4. Leggings available at Boden USA ($18)Roundup: Tomboy Flower Girl Outfits | A Practical Wedding

1. Jeweled Collar Oxford Shirt available at J. Crew ($59.50) 2. Wool Blazer available at Boden USA ($68) 3. Sperry Top-Siders available at J. Crew ($75) 4. Corduroy Leggings available at Nordstrom ($135) 5. Slim Fit Twill Pants available at Nordstrom ($34)Roundup: Tomboy Flower Girl Outfits | A Practical Wedding

1. Schoolboy Blazer in Velvet available at J.Crew ($190) 2. Pretty Pointelle T-Shirt available at Boden USA ($14.40) 3. Foil Leggings available at Nordstrom ($21.44) 4. Silver/Glitter Ballet Flats available at H&M ($6.45)  Roundup: Tomboy Flower Girl Outfits | A Practical Wedding

1. Lace Cardigan available at The Children’s Place ($17.95) 2. Wow Tutu available at Boden USA ($60) 3. Short Suede Boots available at Boden USA ($70) 4. Kids Nylon Tricot Legging available at American Apparel ($21)

For my father’s remarriage, I was a flower girl, and I was given a tiny white wedding dress to wear that I turned my nose up at (at first). It had a train, but was shorter in the front, hitting me at the knees. Because of this (and my five-year-old sister’s fondness for flashing people) we got to wear white bike shorts under our dresses. I found this to be an acceptable compromise because then the crinoline didn’t itch my legs, saving my dad and stepmom an hour of fighting with me over why pretty dresses aren’t a tool of the devil. I took off my fancy white Mary Janes after the group pictures, and spent the rest of the day in sneakers. And skinned knees, of course. It was a good day.

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Lucy Bennett

Lucy is the Deputy Editor of APW and a freelance designer/writer hybrid. When not coming up with weird self-challenges, she can be found marathoning TV shows or playing board games. She lives in Atlanta with her husband, her moderately internet-famous pup, and two cats. She takes herself very seriously.

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  • Moe

    I’m a grown woman and I want to wear half the items here. So darn cute!!!

    The title photo reminds me of My Imaginary Well-Dressed Toddler on Pinterest: http://www.pinterest.com/tiffanywbwg/my-imaginary-well-dressed-toddler-daughter/

    Quinoa and Chevron would approve. :)

    • Rebekah

      That was exactly my first thought as well.

      • http://www.bakkenphoto.com Noelle

        While this post is genius on its own, my favorite takeaway is reading your comment and discovering the magic of Quinoa.

        • rys

          Quinoa is amazing!!!

          Also I was the kid who thought I hated dresses and skirts when, in reality, I hated the stockings/hose/tights (always itchy, yuck) my mom made me wear with such dresses and skirts. It was a huge revelation that without hose, I love dresses. Just putting that out there in case you’ve got a flower girl who might not mind a dress if she can wear it sans hose/tights/stockings, which I think/hope are considered less necessary these days…

  • Sarah

    As a someone who did not want to look like a girly girl as a child (but developed a weird live of pink as an adult! ) I think these are fantastic options. Also, do they make those glitter hightop sneakers in adult sizes??!

    • Keakealani

      This may be slightly off topic, but I’m so glad there’s more than one of us! I would have called myself a tomboy growing up, but I’m pretty dang girly now that I’m older (although I still have a fondness for gaming and probably wear makeup less than twice a year). And to me, those sparkly sneakers are totally my kind of tomboy – it’s not that I mind sparkles and lace, so much as the itchiness/impracticality that often comes with it. If you can keep the sparkles but make it practical, I’m all for it!

  • Jessica B

    Crinoline is the worst! They do so much with fabrics nowadays, why do they still insist on putting tulle and crinoline in every little girl dress? Girls aren’t living dolls! They’re humans with real nerve endings! /rant

    This is a fabulous round up. The middle-school tomboy me would approve, the girly girl toddler me would also approve (though she would vote for more tutus).

  • http://www.etsy.com/shop/DIYIDo Laura Lee

    Oh my goodness, too stinkin’ cute. And it only seems fair that now that letting giving bridesmaids a lot more free reign in their dresses a thing, flower girls should be able to break the mini-bride mold and be their own person as well.

  • Emmy

    I’m 29 and I actually own those shiny hot pink leggings from American Apparel. Now I just need that tutu skirt, velvet blazer, and glitter high tops. :)

  • Meghan

    I love these! As a tomboy planning her wedding, I am fine with dresses but do NOT want to look like a doll/princess…you should do a tomboy bride roundup for us older folks!!!

  • lady brett

    oh, being a flower girl was the *worst thing that had ever happened to me* when i was tiny (as things are at that age). to be fair, i think i hated being ogled by a million people as much as the jewel-toned princess dresses. of course, i was also the kind of tomboy who didn’t stop fighting about dress clothes until my mom conceded that as long as i wore my *new* chucks, i could wear chucks to church, so it may have been partly my fault =)

  • alpelican

    Wait, but where can I find the suits and sneakers in the top photo?! Adorbs.

    • http://www.appaman.com Katie @ Appaman

      Hi Alpelican!

      The grey suits in the top pic are from Appaman’s Fine Tailoring collection. Specifically, it is the Mod Suit in Mist. You can find it on Appaman.com (http://www.appaman.com/boys/fine-tailoring/) or at a variety of other retailers. (Those are categorized under the Boys section, but there are a some blazers in the Girls category as well)

      All of us at Appaman HQ love that photo from Petite Parade, so naturally, we are psyched that it’s featured on APW. Those girls know how to rock a suit!

    • http://www.appaman.com Katie @ Appaman

      Oh! And the shoes are Keds: http://youtu.be/VvrERbPKRHw?t=1m25s

  • http://www.missgiggles.com/blog Giggles

    Love! I probably would’ve stepped away from my t-shirt & jeans uniform for the first 20 years of my life if I’d known this was another alternative aside from a dress.

    I grew up only wearing a dress to church. I was in my 20s before I started wearing them for days other than Sundays. And even now I’m having to remind myself on a regular basis that my 4-month-old can wear dresses for days other than Sunday as well. Especially because the onsies with the skirt attached are cute, practical, and comfy.

    • http://andshelovesyou.com Lucy

      I’m still growing out of the tshirt and jeans uniform, after being forced into a skirt and button down as our high school uniform. But hey, I own two maxi skirts now, so that’s something. ;)

      • http://www.missgiggles.com/blog Giggles

        I don’t think I’ve completely outgrown it. I’m wearing a “Chuck” Nerd-Herd t-shirt with a pair of jeans today. I’m just more open to other possibilities now. :)

    • Megs

      What is practical about a onesie with an attached skirt on a baby. That’s stupid.

      • http://www.missgiggles.com/blog Giggles

        Have you ever put a dress on a baby? If it’s just a dress you have to put a onsie on under it because the dress is going to end up bunched around your baby’s underarms leaving everything chest down exposed as well as having the dress be all kinds of awkward in the way while it’s bunched up, and making it hard to see how cute the dress is. If the skirt is attached to the onsie everything stays where it is supposed to and you don’t need to put multiple layers on the baby.

  • http://www.squidoo.com/invitation-templates-free-com Diana

    Love the suits, soo classy! Great post, thanks! :)

  • http://asweetstart.com Maria | A Sweet Start

    One of the best and most original posts I’ve seen on any wedding website. Well done! I’d love to see a post like this for woman who don’t want to wear a bridal gown.

  • http://dearmeblog.com Emily

    Gah, Short-haired Mini Emily who hated pink and thought ruffles were itchy would have DIIIIIEEED to wear the “I Just Want To Wear Boy Clothes” outfit! Thank you for putting this together; hopefully there are still Mini Emilys out there somewhere who get to wear the clothes they really love because of this.

  • http://www.weddingvowshare.com Andi

    Oh I LOVE this! Was so glad I jumped on here this morning and saw this. I definitely was one of those girls that never wanted to wear a dress, and if I did – pink was out, as were ruffles! When I saw the title as well I could think was: J.CREW! And there you have it, cute clothes from j.crew :) I love the idea in putting the flower girls in something is comfortable, but also sweet and fun. Those glitter sneakers are awesome (and also wish they came in my size). I also recently saw in someone’s wedding blog post that they had their flower girls in just simple skirts and t-shirt, but really playful tights. Love, love, love! Thanks for posting!

  • ANNON

    I’m going to be the outlier on this one… and say I feel none of the outfits in the actual roundup (except the very first image with the article title) would be “formal” enough to keep my older relatives happy for a flower girl … though for any other occassion they would be great (Christmas and church included). My wedding was pretty formal, but if my flowergirl had been a tomboy I think the little suits in the first pic would have been great. It would have to depend on the wedding style and on the participants I suppose.

    • Jason

      I agree totally. Masculine or feminine …..at least dress up for the event, geez.

  • http://www.thelittlepip.com Rachel

    I love the idea of flowergirls being able to wear things other than dresses, and my daughter already those Boden shorts! I love some of the outfits (although I do take Annon’s point that some of the options are quite casual, so for a more formal occasion they aren’t going to work as well). However, I have to add, I really don’t like the word “tomboy” – I always correct people when they try to use it as a word in relation to my daughter. She doesn’t need a label; she just is. Surely these are just options for girls who don’t want to wear dresses. Why label it further?

    • karin gately

      I agree with your opposition to the word “tomboy”. I was, and both of my daughters were, athletic, outdoorsy girls. But I always hated it when people called me or my girls “tomboys”. I feel like it implies a girl who wishes she were a boy and that is definitely not the case for me or for my girls. We all LOVE being female! We just like being active, athletic, outdoorsy, casual and that’s how we dress for the most part. Things that I guess some people think are “boyish” – but they’re not! So I am sending out the idea of getting rid of the word “tomboy”?

      • mama of 9

        Oh get over yourselves already surely we are not so fragile we cannot bear hearing “Tomboy”
        I loved it when that word was applied to me cause I knew folks saw my bravery and daring self. Give this namby PC complaining a break.

      • Megs

        If we’re tying the word ‘tomboy’ with what you’re dancing around, which I assume is ‘transgender’. I don’t associate the two, do most people? I think gender is narrow and confining, and the idea girls can’t wear masculine/boys/whatever clothing is part of that, and it’s stupid. But why the defensiveness of ‘but we love being female!’. All expressions of the self are fine.

        • karin gately

          Actually, I wasn’t even thinking about transgender. I’m just not sure why if a human is outdoorsy, or athletic, or just plain not what (most) people expect a girl to be like she then has to be something akin to a boy – a “tomboy”. Merriam Webster defines tomboy as: ” : a girl who enjoys things that people think are more suited to boys”. Why can’t she just be an outdoorsy, athletic, not traditionally “girlie” GIRL? Why does that make them “like a boy”? Neither my daughters or I, nor many other not-traditionally “girlie” girls I’ve known consider ourselves to be “boyish” nor have we ever wanted to be a boy. I wasn’t being defensive – just trying to explain my position. Really not a big deal – and I really don’t feel like it’s worth the what seems pretty snarky remarks. This was the first time I ever commented here and pretty likely the last.

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  • http://www.firstlight-photography.com Mitzi Smith

    SUPER cute. I have pinned this to my Pinterest 2014 wedding trend board (http://www.pinterest.com/mitziandkier/boards/)
    . Excellent article :) Glad I saw this today!

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  • http://www.flowergirlworld.com Lynelle Woolley

    This is such a great post! At Flower Girl World, we believe there are all types of flower girls with different personalities and talents. Here’s to the tomboy in all of us!

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  • Anon

    So cute!

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  • Shao

    I love these outfits! I was a big tomboy and I still am. I’d kill for a nice, three piece women’s tailored suit without the shoulder pads and fitting for a woman. If the bride is willing to allow the Flower Girl to be comfortable and express herself, then why not. I do agree with the one Annon poster; the first picture with the full suits would probably be the best for a church wedding, but if it’s an outdoor or non-formal setting, then all the outfits would be perfect!

  • rosearbor

    Looking at the trio in bow ties and grey suits was all I needed to conclude that this is not really about a cute “tomboy” look. It is about gender-blurring. The brainwashed multitudes can say “Oh lighten up” all they want — there’s an agenda here, and it is not one that likes heterosexuality.

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  • Black N Bianco

    Love those looks! They are so cute!

  • Erin

    Ooh, I love that idea! I know a girl who was a groomswoman for her brother, and she got to wear a bad-ass tux. The monochromatic look would work particularly well, I think :) (Oh, and I’m coveting that second outfit, with the polka dots and the gemmed collar. So pretty!)