As much as I wish February were about the art of the selfie (because I would run that shit), next month’s theme is a bit more nuanced. In February, we’re celebrating the self-full, and the self-reflective. And yes the selfie: because is it self-absorbed vanity, or is it something more complex? The New York Times described it as “a primal human urge to stand outside of ourselves and look at ourselves.” Just think about that for a minute.
But back to the self-full: For all that the media tells us that brides are a bunch of self-absorbed rage monsters, it’s really easy to lose track of who YOU are during wedding planning, and certainly during marriage. So next month we’ll be talking body image, sense of self, personal goals, and how we’re bringing (more) of ourselves to our relationships and weddings. Though maybe I will also work on being less embarrassed about the growing file of selfies currently in my phone’s memory bank (sometimes you want to record a good hair day. I, personally, choose to record all the good hair days).
Essays: If you want to submit an essay on the theme of #Selfies (or anything else), you can do so right here.
As always, don’t forget to send us your weddings. For those of you who are new here, we accept real weddings in one of three formats, all sourced from readers:
HOW WE DID IT: This is the feature we’re looking to expand most this year. Because let’s be real: it’s the logistical and financial aspects of how other people planned their weddings that you really want to dig your teeth into. Go here to fill out our How We Did It submission and tell us all the gory details.
Wedding Graduates: If you’ve got a story to tell about your wedding (like about how you planned with an emotionally absent parent, or how you actually kind of hated your wedding), head over here and submit a wedding graduate post. The focus here is on your words, but we like to back them up with you looking hot in your pictures. (You look hot in your pictures.)
Wordless Wedding: This feature is for when you don’t have a lot to say about your wedding, but maybe you think it needs to be shared anyway. Wordless weddings are short on words, big on pictures, and chock full of awesome. Submit your Wordless Wedding right here.
And now, as ever, here are the tips and tricks for submitting your story to APW and getting it published:
- While we don’t exactly have any requirements for post length, essays between 600–1800 words are usually the ones that make it to the front page. Exceptions are always made, so don’t let those numbers keep you from writing what you need to write. If something is too long or too short, but we love the concept, we’ll help you edit it into something we can publish.
- One of the primary characteristics we look for in submissions each month is a connection to a universal idea. We’re all writing from our personal experiences here, but if you can take that experience and make it something that other people are going to relate to, then we’ve got magic. But that doesn’t mean every post needs to have a big moral or overarching theme. Sometimes the most universal stories are the simplest ones.
- As always, our themes are meant to serve as a guideline for submissions, but they aren’t rigid. Do with them what you will! For example, if next month’s theme is “#Selfies,” but you really need to talk about how your community is lifting you up during wedding planning, then we want to hear what you have to say. We’re always after diversity of experience, so the most important thing is that you write something that is authentic to you (particularly if it’s a perspective we haven’t heard from in a while or at all).
- Also, when you’re submitting for the monthly theme, we don’t want you to feel as though you have to frame your story around the theme itself (i.e., “I’m planning on being more self-aware in 2014 by…”). Heck, you don’t even have to include the name of the theme in your writing at all. Just write what you would normally write, and we’ll figure out if it’s a good fit for the month, or if maybe it would be a better fit for a future month.
- Lastly, if you have something you just have to get out there into the world, but it doesn’t fit with the theme for the next month, please send it in anyway. Our top priority is always strong content, regardless of the topic.
And that’s it! So if you have a story to share about what you’ve learned, send it in already!
Cheers and happy writing,
City Hall selfie from my personal collection