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Roundup: Bold Drugstore Makeup


In case your colors aren't blush and bashful

by Maddie Eisenhart, Digital Director & Style Editor

Roundup: Bold Drugstore Makeup | A Practical Wedding

The wedding industry places a ton of emphasis on the visual details of your wedding. And in the past few years, the industry has even made some space for bolder choices there. Neon became a thing last year, gold centerpieces were all over the place, and I left no fewer than five weddings covered in glitter (which is obviously the best way to leave any party). This is great if you are the kind of person who likes to express themselves with decor. But if you’re not? If you’re, say, the kind of person who likes to use your body as a canvas and experiment with clothing and weird hair and makeup, the wedding industry has squat for you. I blame it on AwkwardFamilyPhotos.com and the Eighties (which most people who aren’t me regard as a decade full of fashion tragedy) for making “timeless” the primary objective for wedding style these days (and you know our feelings about that).

Plus there’s the pervasive messaging that you should look “pretty” on your wedding day, which usually means “safe” (and pink). But as I root deeper into my marriage, and subsequently into the core of who I am, the more I embrace a fuck it attitude and the more I think pretty can kiss my ass. When it came time for my wedding, I listened to all of the messaging about timelessness and vanilla-ed the hell out of myself. I grew my awesome faux hawk out, and wore natural makeup, and delicate earrings and looked very nice and very tasteful. But if I had it to do all over again? I’d lean hard into color, wear bright lipstick, big ass earrings and whatever crazy hair I had at the time (which is bleach blonde at the moment, and was lavender five seconds ago).

During Feminism month last year, Meg wrote about choosing your feminist battles. If I had to pick one, it would be to give women the space to stop having to answer to “pretty” and replace it with some other word that comes from inside, like: Badass. Or brave. Or exciting. Or expressive. That doesn’t mean you can’t wear any makeup or heels or dresses (though it’s fine if that’s the direction your feminism takes you in). Or that you can’t embrace timelessness if that feels authentic to who you are. But rather, that the impetus for how we express ourselves should come from a primal space within, without fear of how the general public might receive it. In short, it’s about embracing a little ugly… even on your wedding day.

With that in mind, today I’ve rounded up some of my favorite (affordable) bold makeup choices. Lipstick is obviously not exactly an obvious feminist statement, but for me, experimenting within the parameters of a safe space like makeup, and playing around with things that aren’t conventionally pretty, gives me the courage to make bolder feminist choices in other arenas. Plus, in the conversation about weddings, I’m consistently amazed at the response from people when you start challenging the constructs of bridal beauty. So here’s my middle finger to timelessness, tastefulness and prettiness—in shades of orange and purple and hot pink.

*Note: for many of you, challenging the constructs of bridal beauty might mean no makeup at all. Cheers to that. For me? It means shiny orange lip lacquer.

Roundup: Bold Drugstore Makeup | A Practical Wedding

ONE I am very picky about what goes on my lips (they’re really dry and always chapped, so for the longest time I swore off lipstick altogether). But these super bright lipsticks changed my tune this month. The colors are really pigmented, the texture of the lipstick is awesome and it wears really nicely for a long time before fading to a pretty stain. My favorite color is Hot Plum (if you’re looking to fulfill any ’90s fuchsia lipstick fantasies, this is the one for you too). Maybelline Color Sensational Vivids lipsticks ($5–$10)

Two Remember our favorite retro cat eye tutorial from last year? Well how about doing it for ten bucks? (Bonus: You can also buy this eyeliner in purple.) Maybelline Eye Studio Lasting Drama Gel Eyeliner ($10–$12)

Three It’s really hard to find sheer lipstick that doesn’t wear off in thirty seconds. But these sheer lipsticks are an awesome combination of saturated color (in really cool shades), with lip gloss shininess, but without any of the stickiness that comes with it (because, gross). For bold colors, I recommend Fiery Veil, Blushing Sequin, and Cardinal Plume. All of which currently reside in my purse. L’Oreal Colour Caresse by Colour Riche lipsticks ($5–$10)

FOUR Okay, so maybe you’re not ready to experiment with your face. But you still want… something a little out there. APW writing intern and resident beauty expert Rachel swears that these press-on nails last forever (well, about a week, which is forever if you ever tried to wear Lee press-on nails as a teenager). Also, they make a leopard print French manicure. Is all I’m saying. Broadway Nails Impress Press-On Manicure ($5–$10)

FIVE This is a bit of a cheat, because it’s from Amazon and not the drugstore (but really, isn’t Amazon basically the drugstore of the internet?). Before I dyed my hair purple, I loved playing around with these hair chalks. You just rub them over dry hair and ta-da! Instant color. They come out with water, so you can mess around with a bunch of different looks without having to make any kind of commitment.  And while a little on the expensive side, one package will last forever. Kevin Murphy Color Bug ($22) (Side note: there is now a gold color bug, which sounds super super awesome, right? Word on the street—from Meg’s awesome stylist—is: they suck. Just an FYI.)

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Maddie Eisenhart

Maddie is the Managing Editor of A Practical Wedding. She’s been writing stories about boys and crushes since she was old enough to form shapes into words, but received her formal training (and a BS) in the art of talking from NYU in 2008. In her spare time, she takes pictures of people in love. Maddie lives on a pony farm in the Bay Area with her husband Michael, her Mastiff named Juno, and her roommate named Joe.

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  • BreckW

    I freaking love drugstore lipstick–I seriously have 6 or so in my purse right now. Like Maddie said, the Maybelline Vivids are crazy pigmented and so fun to play around with. I have the Shocking Coral (awesome) and am tempted to try out the Brazen Berry (purple lips!). I also have a few of the L’Oreal Colour Riche ones which are definitely a bit more sheer, but they also feel really moisturizing. I would also recommend the Revlon Kissable Balm/Stain–it’s super long-lasting, comes in fun colors, and looks like a big, moisturizing crayon.

    Also, looks like #2 and 3 are switched in the descriptions.

    • BreckW

      Also, not necessarily boldly-colored makeup, but I personally love the bold brow trend that’s taken hold lately. After letting mine grow in like crazy for a month or so then selectively tweezing, they’re pretty nice and full, so I just use clear mascara to keep everything in place. Though I have heard the Milani Brow Fix Kit is a pretty good drugstore option for shaping/filling in/etc.

      • Maddie Eisenhart

        Bold brows are my new obsession. I’ve possibly gone a little overboard on them, actually. :) But it’s fun! It makes you look really different, and I like being able to change things up for just a day and wash it off at night.

      • Jess

        I wish I could get in on the bold brow trend. I’ve always rocked the “as full as my brows can be while still cleaned up a little bit” but mine are super-blonde so I can’t color them in too much without them no longer matching my hair. Maybe I just need to go for it anyway and see if I can make brown eyebrows look ok.

        • BreckW

          I think the blonde-hair-darker-brows combo looks stunning. See Michelle Williams, below:

          http://www.gypsyjunkies.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/michelle-williams-louis-vuitton-2-crop.jpg

          • http://www.thehousealwayswinsblog.com/ Rachel Wilkerson

            Agreed! I love this look!

          • Jess

            I guess maybe I feel weird because both my hair and eyebrows are naturally this color? I’ll try it out with a brown eyeliner I have, because if it doesn’t work… the worst I do is wash it off!

        • Meg Keene

          My brows don’t match my hair anyway. My natural color of hair is a little lighter than it is now, and my eyebrows are really dark. I mean, it’s normal, I think.

        • Maddie Eisenhart

          I find bold brows easier to pull off with my light hair, surprisingly. With my dark hair it felt like I was crowding my face. But with blond, I’m all about bigger & darker. Selfie evidence:

          (Bold and bolder)

          http://instagram.com/p/jVPyd1kXZ-/
          http://instagram.com/p/jiMhQlEXUz/

          • http://www.smittenchickens.com/ Sarah Hoppes

            You are such a rockstar!

          • Caitlin_DD

            Oh my gosh, is that gray hair I see?! I’ve wanted to try this for ages. You look SO good!

          • Maddie Eisenhart

            It was more white blond when it started (the bottom pic), but I think silver hair is super hot. The top pic is more true to life now.

          • Caitlin_DD

            Love ‘em both!

      • Caroline

        I kind of love being unconventional with my brows. I found that combing them made a big difference in how presentable I look, but other than that I don’t do squat to my brows, and love it.

    • Meg Keene

      Maddie’s sold me on drug store lipstick of late. And just… lipstick. Plus she keeps giving me ones that she doesn’t use much because they are $6, and she does not care. So now I own lipstick!

      • BreckW

        There was a CVS in the same shopping center as the TJ’s I used to shop at, and I found myself going in there and treating myself to $6 lipstick (and/or $4 nail polish) every time I had a bad day. Then I started doing it when I had had a good day, too. And then (15 lipsticks later) I had to face the facts that I was completely addicted to drugstore makeup and go on a little shopping freeze…

        • http://cuvikingadventures.blogspot.ca/ Jenny/Adventures Along the Way

          I’ve been treating myself to nail polish in the last 6 months. I had to stop myself yesterday from buying yet another color (only slightly different from ones I have already)….

    • Sonny

      I have the Maybelline Vivids in the Hot Plum color featured in the post and would definitely recommend it! Not so into the Colour Riche but maybe it’s just the shade I got… are there any you would recommend?

      These
      bright drugstore lipsticks recommendations are awesome because it’s
      stuff that you might not wear enough to be comfortable spending $20 bucks on (no matter
      how awesome the OCC lip tars look).

      • BreckW

        For the Colour Riche I have Velvety Fuschia (a bright pink) and Cardinal Plume (a true, cool-ish red). I really like the Velvety Fuschia for when I want a hint of bright color but don’t want to go all our (for that I use the Vivids). The Cardinal Plume is a good stepping stone for someone who wants to try out a bold red lip but doesn’t want to commit to something that intense. I use them both more like tinted lip balms than full on lipstick–sheer color that isn’t drying. And you’re totally right about how awesome bright drugstore lipsticks are–I finally invested in a very nice, high quality YSL lipstick in a more classic color, but I love being able to mix it up with my $6 Vivids (soon to include Hot Plum!).

  • vegankitchendiaries

    Just google image searched ‘Kevin Murphy Color Bug’. WOAH.

    • Meg Keene

      JESUS H. I have one that I haven’t used. (I think I bought it and failed to give it to Maddie??) and clearly I need an excuse to go crazy on my currently pretty light ends.

    • Lily

      But does it get all over stuff? I feel like I would be rubbing purple ickiness out of the backs and shoulders of all of my sweaters for weeks. Maybe this isn’t for the long-haired ladies?

      • Maddie Eisenhart

        It gets all over my hands when I apply it, but I have short hair, so I can’t speak there. That said, hairspray really helps set the color. (Maybe practice with an updo or braids or something less smooshy first?)

      • http://www.smittenchickens.com/ Sarah Hoppes

        When I used it on a photo shoot, the color did wear off on the old t-shirts they were wearing while they did their makeup, but with a shot from a hair dryer, it didn’t rub off on any of their clothing. (We were fanatic about that, because most of it was rented.)

        How the pink and purple looked on brunette hair:
        http://smittenchickens.com/blog/debbie-does-deathmetal-zombie-girl-band-indie-horror-comic-book-cosplay/

        • Maddie Eisenhart

          You’re a rock star. :)

      • Meg Keene

        No it doesn’t. I wore a little at one book reading, it doesn’t get anywhere.

  • Moe

    Excellent choices. EOS lip balm has been a life saver for my dry chapped lips.

  • LikelyLaura

    While I have not tried the color bugs (pink hair is not authentic to me – in fact I’m antsy just thinking about it), I have to say that Kevin Murphy products are the BEST EVER. They are all my salon uses, and my hair styling horizons have expanded exponentially since finding them. The Anti-Gravity spray is my favorite!

  • Kayjayoh

    “(Side note: there is now a gold color bug, which sounds super super awesome, right? Word on the street—from Meg’s awesome stylist—is: they suck. Just an FYI.)”

    So to clarify, it is specifically the gold ones that suck?

    • Maddie Eisenhart

      Yeah, just the gold. The other ones are AWESOME. (Also, I normally have super dark hair, and the hot pink showed up on it really brightly.)

      • Caroline

        Good to know! I basically gave up on temporary coloring of my hair years ago since nothing showed in my dark brown hair, but maybe I’ll try these.

    • Meg Keene

      The other ones are awesome. The gold just makes your hair kinda… sheeny? If you’re into that. Google image search it and you’ll see.

  • http://www.thehousealwayswinsblog.com/ Rachel Wilkerson

    The press-on nails are SO good, you guys!! I swear by them, especially if you don’t have time to get a manicure. (Which is me…all the time.) Also, another way to get bold nails that I really love is the Shop NCLA nail wraps! Here’s me rocking a Lisa-Frank-inspired style on my birthday last year.

    • BreckW

      So cute. And now I feel that there needs to be more Lisa-Frank-inspired things in my life.

  • Kayjayoh

    My favorite lipsticks have all by drugstore colors: “black orchid” by Wet and Wild, for when I’m feeling gothy, a beautiful deep red by Olay (discontinued, but I got two tubes) for when I’m feeling classic, and Burt’s Bees lipshimmer in “Fig” for when I just want a hint of color.

    I don’t look good in light lip colors, so I either wear serious dark shades, or gloss.

  • Karen

    This makes my day! I was thinking about what to do with my hands (bless my partner, she thinks they’re beautiful just as they are) and then you posted this! Ha! I don’t have to take the time to paint them and I don’t have to go to a salon. This is a lifesaver!

  • Granola

    One of my “things I would do differently” about my wedding (I’m taking a page from Meg’s book and not calling it a regret” is to have done my nails with a bold or dark color instead of the french manicure I got. I really wanted something dramatic instead of “classic” but I’d never really gotten a manicure, so I didn’t have a lot of conviction. But there was totally the pressure to just pick the safe, pretty choice.

    • Jess

      Good to know – As a kid, I told my mom when I was in my cousin’s wedding that I wanted to have bright red nails when I was married (literally, the only thing I ever pictured in about my wedding growing up) and she said that it would look funny in the pictures. I might stick to my guns on that one and pick a color I like.

      • Granola

        I think if you like it, that’s all that matters. It will all look good. It may not all look the same *kind* of good, if that makes sense, but I think that’s OK. “Classic” does not equal “good” and “trendy” does not equal bad.

        • Jess

          True! “Your wedding isn’t timeless” right? I just like nail polish, I think, and so… why not!?

      • Ariel

        I think red nails would look great. My favorite red is ‘really red’ by Essie (I may or may not have a nail polish problem).

        • Jess

          I do have a nail polish problem, and now I’m going to go find this color and buy it.

          I’d love to get into the decals because I can’t wear nail polish at work, but can on the weekend and it seems so much easier to put on nails on a Friday and not wait for them to dry… but I can’t cut straight at all and I worry.

          • Ariel

            The decals aren’t that bad… I just stretch them over my nails and then either use a nail on my other hand or a file to get rid of excess. No fancy cutting required :-)

            I’m currently wearing ‘go gold’ in the new Sally Hansen satin glam collection and I love it. It may be my wedding polish. Shimmer gold that dries matte.

      • Meg Keene
      • NicoleT

        Red nails are fabulous! I always feel very powerful when I wear that color. That being said, my favorite nail polishes are all sparkle. There can never be enough glitter for my nails (and eyes and lips and…). If you want to splurge a bit, check out Sephora’s Formula X line. It’s beautiful, comes in sparkly and not sparkly, and dries *so quickly*. Highly recommend!

        • http://cuvikingadventures.blogspot.ca/ Jenny/Adventures Along the Way

          Okay, that does it! I am going to go paint my nails red! :)

    • http://writemeg.com/ Meg

      That’s how I feel about my sister’s wedding. I went with a safe, predictable, barely-even-there color as the MOH and wrinkle my nose when I see my nails in pictures. It’s a silly thing, really, but I should have gone bold. I had bright red nails at my own wedding and loved them!

    • Chiara M

      This is totally my plan. I haven’t told anyone yet, but I’m going to do something crazy with my nails. It feels so rebellious, but I’m a little bit of a rebellious person. Crazy makeup isn’t me, but crazy nails, I could live with that.

    • Meg Keene

      DAMN IT. I wanted to do this, and I was talked out of it. I mean, the color was already on and I was talked out of it by family. Don’t. Start. I should never have listened.

    • Caitlin_DD

      This! I’m dreaming of shimmering royal blue or navy for myself. How are painted nails every not classy anyway?

    • Sarah

      I’m a little late to the party here, but wanted to share this because I think these would be AMAZING wedding nails- http://instagram.com/p/gyz0sCBQI0/
      Yes, also not drug store bought but these ladies do pretty great, affordable nails if there are any other Aussie APW readers out there living in Melbourne :-)
      I also like the idea of having blue nails for your something blue- http://www.pinterest.com/pin/146085581634725607/

  • http://www.devabydefinition.com/ Deva C.

    I am on the hunt for a new eyeliner so this? Perfect timing. I’m also really obsessed with lipstick right now and… well, I may go a little makeup-crazy at Ulta next week..

  • ART

    I was overjoyed to discover that I love the Wet n Wild eyeliner pencil (99c). Last time I ran out of my other brand that costs 8x as much, the drugstore was out of that one so I got the 99c version thinking it would tide me over for a few days until I found the “good” one, but it’s actually worked really well, and it’s lasting forever. I am not a multiple-colors-of-eyeliner person, but for dirt cheap I might experiment for wedding purposes! It’s not gel, though, so I’m sure it wouldn’t do the cat eye thing (or nearly as well, anyway)

  • http://writemeg.com/ Meg

    I was hell-bent on finding a truly smudge-proof, bold (BOLD) red lipstick for my wedding day — and what I found was actually a lip stain/stick/gloss thing that is awesome. I, one Meg from Maryland, can certify that L’Oreal’s Infallible Never Fail Lipcolour Compact is it. Trust me and my weakened wallet from sampling at least seven different types of red lipsticks/stains in the weeks leading up to my wedding. It’s $12 at drugstores and did not get all over my groom, which was my chief concern. Also, it stayed on all day and looked beautiful. All sorts of colors. Recommend, recommend, recommend.

    • Jess

      I, Jess from Wisconsin, Second L’Oreal’s Infallible Never Fail Lipcolour Compact being it.

      I got hot pink to try it out, but now I want to find red!

    • Ariel

      Agreed! I have that in red (I don’t remember the exact name of the color). It’s so good!

    • ItsyBit

      Thanks for the tip! The smudge-proof factor is huge for me, too. Quick question though- I stumbled across a post (here) that suggested a very careful application involving exfoliation & serious moisturizing, etc. Do you find that you have to do it in steps like this? I’m sort of new to lip color so I have no idea if that’s normal or more intense due to how long lasting it is.

      • http://writemeg.com/ Meg

        I don’t moisturize or exfoliate before applying in any special way, but would recommend a very careful application with as steady a hand as you can muster. The stain sets rather quickly, though you do have some time to correct goofs if you get outside the lip line. I use a tiny swipe of foundation to even out any inconsistencies. You will want to have the gloss stick (the other half of that compact) with you all day, because you’ll want to reapply it! I don’t find it super drying, but I definitely reach for it throughout the day.

        • ItsyBit

          Awesome, thanks!

    • Allieoop

      Save your wallet! I’ve found that lots of drugstores accept returns on makeup, even if you’ve tried it already. This has been a life-saver for me as I’ve tried to figure out that works with my extra sensitive skin. Usually you just need to follow the store’s regular return policy (within 30 days, with receipt, or whatever). Experiment away!

  • Granola

    I wish I could find the article online, but I read in a women’s mag about how neon and brightly colored makeup was a personal-as-political act, because usually the idea is that make up should look like it isn’t there. So brightly colored makeup forces everyone else to recognize the artifice instead of the “fiction” of “natural makeup.” I think weddings amplify that pressure – pushing women to be “classic and pretty” and safe.

    • Maddie Eisenhart

      YES. This is exactly what I was trying to say, except you’ve summed it up more succinctly and articulately. :) If you find the article, pass it on!

    • Caroline

      I so want to read that article. I take makeup as political in both directions. I wear less makeup than is the social norm (read, none) most of the time but sometimes, when I’m just want to play and go all out, I rock the so-red-it’s-a-little-garish red lipstick. The kind that always worried my mother some and she really disapproved of. You know what I’m wearing for the wedding? My glasses, maybe falsies, and bright red lipstick. And probably not much other makeup. Because fuck wearing hidden makeup to make an imperfect self look better. I may have self-image issues, but I also like myself and my face just fine.

      (And just to be clear, if you do like regular makeup, that’s awesome too, more power to you for claiming the value of classic femininity. Because there is way too much noise saying feminine is bad/lesser, and fuck that shit.)

    • http://www.thehousealwayswinsblog.com/ Rachel Wilkerson

      Was it in Allure? And was sort of framed around the make up “The Hunger Games”? Because if so, I have been looking for that article online for a few months because it was SO good.

      • Granola

        Aha! Yes, that was probably it! There was definitely a Hunger Games reference. I read it in passing at a salon and couldn’t remember the title. Also, 35 minutes of Google Fu hasn’t turned it up, so I’m reasonably sure that it’s not online :-(

      • http://brokensaucer.blogspot.com/ sera

        Let us know when you find it….

  • Helen

    I’m desperate for some advice about what to wear to our wedding in the tropics. I’ve got fairly clear skin so don’t need a full-face-of but would like a little overlay to even things out. What out there won’t just slide off in a second? Any suggestions? All the info I can find seems to be from people peddling their own brands, so not that convincing.

    • http://thevanillabride.blogspot.com/ Sonarisa

      Urban Decay makes a make-up setting spray that actually works for me. If you’re not wearing blush or foundation/concealer though it might not be worth it.

      Hourglass also makes an amazing primer that keeps my makeup on all day, even in humidity.

      • Helen

        Sounds perfectly awesome. I shall do some Googling and hope for delivery to the antipodies (I’m in New Zealand)

      • emilyg25

        Yep, I used the UD makeup setting spray and mattifying powder for my wedding in the Mid-Atlantic US in August (not unlike the tropics) and they both worked really, really well. I still use the setting spray a lot for just eye shadow.

    • Jess

      I got a sample of CC cream a bit ago that I’m mixing with my moisturizer, and it’s actually been holding up pretty well after a full day at work/in a hot environment being active, especially with a bit of powder. I have kind of oily skin on my forehead, so a lot of make-up tends to melt off my face. I just bought some of Revlon’s Photo Ready BB Cream and am trying that out next.

      BB/CC creams don’t come in a lot of shades and tend to have SPF if either of those are concerns for you.

      • Helen

        Sounds brilliant – and Revlon’s such an affordable brand, I might just buy a bunch and work out what which one’s best when i get there. Was the CC cream by Revlon too?

        • Jess

          The CC I had was a Smashbox sample from a free Sephora kit at Christmastime. So far (two days in) the Revlon one actually stays a little longer and covers a little better!

    • BreckW

      I’ve heard the Make Up Forever primer and finishing powder are excellent for this kind of thing. They sell them both at Sephora, so if you have one nearby you can go test them out before buying.

      • Helen

        Thanks so so much!

        • laddibugg

          Ask for a tutorial on how to use it, and take pics if you can. If you are too heavy handed your face may show up white in pictures (regardless of your skin tone)

      • Jess

        I love Make Up Forever. That’s my fancy stuff that I use when I go out.

  • http://www.smittenchickens.com/ Sarah Hoppes

    These awesome ladies are rocking the color bug chalks, FYI.

  • DressUp

    I really loved this post. It actually hits kind of close to home, because sometimes I feel like I’m in a feminist dispute with my husband over my clothing and makeup. That’s going to sound worse than it is — basically, we have very different tastes/opinions about not only what looks good, but what “looking good” is for: for him, you look good for other people, and for me, you look good for yourself and then other people after.

    So on the one hand, he’s cajoled me to wear thongs and lingerie, because he thinks it’s sexy when I find them uncomfortable (well, used to — I’ve finally found some comfortable ones) and was really bothered by the idea of wearing something that I found uncomfortable for his sake. My husband loves and respects me, but it felt like it tiptoed a little too close to objectification that he wanted me to wear something that he knew gave me discomfort because it gave him pleasure.

    Then on the other hand, though he comes from a country that’s pretty intense about egalitarian gender roles when it comes to the household, childcare, etc., they overwhelmingly prefer neutral colors and the kind of makeup that looks like it’s not there (or only accentuates what is there, a.k.a. a LOT of mascara). Whereas I’ve grown up loving bright and flashy and colorful. So whenever I put something bright and flashy on and feel gorgeous and glamorous, he’s like “Eh” — not literally, but in attitude. I only get real compliments from him when I happen to dress/make myself up in a way that’s in line with his tastes.

    Mostly I don’t mind, because I happen to have good body image (I say “happen” because I have no idea why or how) and if I like how something looks on me, then usually that’s enough for me. But it would feel nice if once in a while I felt like he thought I looked good when I do too. And then I have to follow that up with feeling conflicted as a feminist about caring/wanting him to think I’m “pretty”…

    So, yeah, this post was kind of on point for me today. I totally want to wear bright pink lipstick for my wedding now.

    • Price of Tea

      I feel you on this! 99% of the time I dress the way I like and the way that makes me feel good– comfortable and reasonably attractive. However, I know my husband likes it when I dress more traditionally feminine and…sexy? revealing? This used to make me feel really torn between feeling objectified and wanting to be attractive to my husband. As I’ve gotten a bit older though, I think I’ve started to own the traditionally sexy style of dressing more. Like even though it’s kind of uncomfortable and it’s not how I would choose to dress if I were spending the day alone, I do like the feeling of power it gives me knowing I’m particularly attractive to my husband (and presumably other straight men).

      I have NO idea what that says about my feminism, and I’m still pretty conflicted about my feelings on the issue. But there they are.

  • NicoleT

    I’ve already decided to do rainbow eyeliner for my wedding, but this post and comments just gave me the urge to put sparkles in my hair as well. I’m a sparkly kind of girl (my fiancé always half-jokes that he always has glitter somewhere on him because of me) and I want to celebrate that!

  • http://evangelicalexpat.wordpress.com/ dj_pomegranate

    I am giving this post ALL THE THUMBS UP!

    I did hot pink nails and lip at my wedding and those little splashes of neon are honestly some of my favorite parts of the photos from that day. The color is just exactly how I was feeling that day: blindingly bright, enormously happy, and a little bit out of control.

    Also if you’re looking for a bold lipstick that will stay, I had good luck with Buxom. I did my mom’s No-Fail Lipstick technique: powder, lipstick, blot, powder, lipstick, blot. The color lasted all the way through the buffet AND the dance party.