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Romantically, Legally Wed


With all our best women beside us

Blair, Medical Assistant & Meg, Business Manager, Artist

Photographer: Shawnee Custalow

One sentence sum-up of the wedding vibe: It was exactly what we dreamed of—romantic, beautiful, memorable, and heartfelt, a quintessential San Francisco wedding that honored our quiet and private personalities and our deep bond.

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For our wedding we knew we wanted to marry privately/“elope.” We thought about traditional weddings or larger ceremonies, but that just isn’t us. We are very quiet, very private people and to not honor that we knew would feel contrived to us and diminish what our marriage was all about. We did, however, want the most important women in our lives to be witness to our union. So we had our mothers and Meg’s sister come share in on our occasion. And we asked our dear friend Shawnee to come be our photographer. Shawnee is incredibly talented, and we wanted to have photographs of this day to share with others and to cherish forever. Also Shawnee attending the ceremony felt especially evocative, since the day that Meg and I had met four years prior we had spent the evening at Shawnee’s birthday party.

We wanted a quintessential San Francisco wedding, and so we wed at San Francisco City Hall, which is a magnificent location; the architecture, history, and grandeur of it all is just breathtaking. We managed to have all details of our wedding be either vintage, handmade, and/or local. Our rings (engagement and wedding) are all vintage circa 1930s. Blair’s dress was handmade by a local woman. The lace shawl was hand knit and crocheted by Meg, a piece that will be a keepsake forever. Meg’s outfit was all vintage, from her shoes to her shirt. Meg’s sister made her earrings. We did our own hair, makeup, and nails. We bought our flowers and our cake from a local florist and bakery the afternoon before the wedding. Blair’s mother wrapped the bouquets in lace. We made our own doily cake topper and doily “just married” banner. We had vintage floral handkerchiefs, and we wrapped our guests’ kerchiefs around handwritten love letters from us. Afterward we walked to lunch at Absinthe Brassier and Bar and then we went our separate way to spend an evening eating wedding cake, drinking champagne, and exchanging our personalized vows at an old downtown San Francisco bed and breakfast. The next morning we met up with everyone again to have a tea party at San Francisco’s Lovejoy’s Tea Room. All in all it was exactly what we dreamed of.

Favorite Thing About The Wedding

We were married on our fourth anniversary. The dignity that we felt to be able to legally be married after four years, well, the magnitude of that cannot be overstated.


The Info:

Photographer: Shawnee Custalow | Location: San Francisco, CA | Venue: San Francisco City Hall | Dress, Handkerchiefs, and Meg’s Shirt: Etsy | Blair’s Shawl: Handmade by Meg | Meg’s Earrings: Made by her sister | Rings: Lang Antiques | Cake Topper and Just Married Banner: Made by Blair | Flowers: Flowers of the Valley, Noe Valley San Francisco | Cake: Noe Valley Bakery

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  • http://karenmadrone.wordpress.com/ Karen

    Your pictures are beautiful, but your words even more so. Thank you for sharing your wedding with us.

  • Laura C

    That pink dress! Want!

  • Jessica

    I love everything about this wedding, especially the way you two look at each other!

  • vegankitchendiaries

    Wow! These pics! Very fine wedding attire indeed on both brides, I might add…

    PS. That origami xmas tree (or WHATEVER that is) is absolutely EVERYTHING!!

    • Laura

      Yeah, what is that? Gorgeous!

  • Emma Klues

    Lovely! I especially enjoy how joyful the officiant/judge/lady looks :)

    • Winny the Elephant

      That stuck out to me too, I wonder if she knew the couple? Or she just loves her job!

  • Bsquillo

    Oh. My. Gawd. The pink dress. And the lavender bouquet. And the rings. And everything. There is so much joy in these pictures! Congratulations!

  • laddibugg

    Love Blair’s dress and Meg’s fingernails (seriously, that color is super pretty!). And I adore the seated pic on the steps.

  • http://cafeaubride.blogspot.com/ Catherine

    ohmygosh. best thing i’ve ever seen. and i want them to adopt me. perfect!!! that dress….that…everythinggggg

  • Lian

    Love everything, but for some reason especially love the bouquets! Congratulations!

  • Alyssa M

    This was SOO pretty, Just everything about it. Shawnee is an amazing photographer, she captured your love so beautifully!

  • DanEllie

    The shawl is AMAZING!

  • LydiaB

    That dress!! Those rings!! You guys!! This is beautiful and the photography just captures it so well. I don’t know you but these photos have made me so happy.

    Congratulations!!!

  • Caroline

    I’m a serious lurker but I had to come on here and say, WOOOOWWWWW I love your wedding! The photos! The outfits! And I turned on your theme song and the chorus kicked in right when I scrolled down to those two ceremony photos of holding hands and kissing…..and it was seriously one of the highlights of my day. GOOSEBUMPS!

  • ForestGrl

    What a beautiful wedding! That lace shawl is INCREDIBLE.

    Have to say I’m having a giggle over the “Absinthe Brassier and Bar.” Funniest autocorrect/typo I’ve seen in a while. :)