reclaiming wife

Sass

I got this excellent email from the now happily married Jessica two weeks ago. I couldn't let such a good thank you note to all of you, about what we crack on about every day, lie unpublished. So, All The Things, consider yourself on notice:

My wedding is a week from today. I was running around today feeling consumed by WIC-promoted Consumerism... thinking, Oh My God, I need to buy a new dress for my rehearsal dinner and new shoes and we should buy everyone in the wedding party more stuff to thank them and what about a cute hanger, don't I need a cute hanger for my dress?! And, and, and....

Anyway, all of a sudden I had a moment of clarity. I turned to my fiancé, who was looking (rightfully) frightened, god bless him, and said, "We don't need All The Things." We already have All The Things that matter.

We hugged and went home. We're about to enjoy a nice bottle of wine.

All in all, my fiancé, our bank account, and I thank you, Team Practical.

P.S. When I emailed Jessica to ask if her wedding survived no cute hanger, she said, "It sure did.  As did the filthy dress (thanks to amazing second line through NOLA's French quarter). It's funny how the joy is the only detail that matters..." Wedding Graduate post coming soon.

Photo from the APW Flickr stream by Emily Takes Photos

On Wedding Friendors

This morning, Carrie talked about Friendors, and discovering that her friends were, in fact, capable of awesomeness, even if they were not indie graphic designer composer wedding dress designers. So I had to share this bit of amazingness from reader Jamie, that I found when going through wedding budgets you guys sent in:

I went to a bridal fair and shmarmy wedding planner guy asked "Can you REALLY trust your friends?"

And I said, "Uh, yes, that's why they're my friends."

Fin.

... Or why you should ask your fiance's opinion on wedding decisions.

I just remembered a slightly intoxicated conversation I had with David and our friend Rachel about indie wedding trends. I feel like I should say up front... I was tipsy, David was not. David said this is the most exact transcription of a conversation I've ever posted. It really was this ridiculous.

Me: You know... indie wedding trends. They get as trendy as regular wedding trends.
Rachel: Indie wedding trends?
Me: Yeah. Like Mason Jars and Bunting.
David: Bunting?
Me: Ok. Um. How do I describe this? You know those little plastic triangle flags on a string they hang at used car lots?
Rachel: That's bunting? Continue reading On Not Taking Wedding Trends Too Seriously (Even Indie Ones)

On A Lighter Note…

Um, you need to go read the rest of this...

Lady in bridal shop: What kind of dress do you think you’d like?
Me: Not long or white, not strapless or halter… bright color, knee-length full skirt, no veil?
Lady in bridal shop: Yeah, we don’t have anything like that. Why don’t you let me bring you some things I think you might like?
Me: Sure, you’ve known me for 30 seconds now, that seems foolproof.

...Right now. Seriously. Go.

From Que Sera Sera, the site you are about to go visit.

Reading the comments on the last post, and being amused by the people who think *I* am ambivalent about marriage (Um. Not ambivalent. Opinionated. See this blog.)

Anyway, I was reminded of a conversation I had with an old friend when we got engaged.

Me: David and I got engaged! Yayyyyy!!!
Her: Oh. That's nice. I don't believe in marriage.
Me: ..........
Me: Um. It's not fairies. You don't have to DO it, but it does exist.

The Season.
"Engagement season: it's like hunting season, with slightly more tulle." - Elizabeth

Which reminds me. You've all read, or at least seen Oscar Wilde's An Ideal Husband*, yes? Of course you have. So apparently, we're in 'the season.' I'm glad to see we've progressed so far in the last 100 years. Though, when we were planning our engagement, I did warn David that if I didn't feel the proposal was up to snuff, I'd go wait by the 'usual palm tree' for him to try again. I'm pushy, even when I'm feeling traditional.
Continue reading The Season.