Back when I was pregnant, I wrote about how the things I’d learned during wedding planning came in handy during pregnancy. All those lessons about boundaries, asking for help, presenting your vision clearly, and dealing with people who are unsupportive? All those lessons apply to baby-having too. At the time my joke was that I’m glad I got married before I got knocked up (but not like THAT). These days, I see the argument for the other way around: something about the mix of hormones and mild sleep deprivation means that these days, I mostly just do my own thing without even stopping to worry about what Other People might think. Having a kid hasn’t made me sensitive to other people offering opinions (like I was told it would be); it’s made me cheerful(ly oblivious). You think I should dress my kid in monster truck shirts? No thanks! You think I should give him teething tablets? Why are you so SMART all of a sudden? Thusly, today’s anonymous post reminds us of the power of baby drool for invitation licking and the struggles and joys of balancing baby and wedding. Cute struggles. Mostly.
A while ago Meg joked about how glad she was that she planned her wedding BEFORE she got knocked up, and not the other way around. Silly Meg.
You see, planning a wedding when you’ve got a baby, toddler, small child, angst-ridden teenager, or a child that won’t leave home, is a breeze. I don’t have much experience with the older kids, so I’ll just keep my advice to the tiny people. Let me run down a quick list of pro tips in case anyone is in the throes of planning and can use the hints.
Tip #1: Put your kid to work.
Okay, babies are pretty worthless when it comes to wedding planning. But they are useful as paperweights, and their slobber is great for sealing envelopes. Who needs that wax seal when you’ve got infant mouth goo? Toddlers, on the other hand are super helpful. They can help organize all your lists and planning supplies. If they think something is a bad idea they’ll put it in the toilet. Or someplace where you will never find it. Trust their judgment.
Tip#2: Your wedding is about entertainment. For your baby.
Do you really want to deal with a temper tantrum at your wedding? No. So your job is to make sure that your baby has a good time at your wedding. Rent a bouncy castle if you need to. Same goes for wedding fare. Hot dogs, anyone? Or consider getting married on a weekday and dropping darling child off at daycare.
Tip #3: Lots of wine.
This is very important. Lots of wine during the planning process and at the wedding. Only way to get through it. Mmmm.
Tip #4: Wear a beautiful white dress.
Bawhahahhahahahahhahahahha. That was mean, I know. But seriously, go ahead and wear one. Just don’t get all bent out of shape when your little one tears it or wipes their snotty nose on it, or puts an awesome dirty handprint on it.
Tip #5: Get lots of rest during the planning process.
I like to go to bed immediately after my toddler. So we both sleep from about 8:30pm to 5:30am. OMFG it is so wonderful. Me time. My fiancé likes to watch TV after I go to bed early. I checked our DVR once to find some Sesame Street for the child, and it was full of recordings of True Blood. This discovery made me really reconsider things marriage-wise. But it was getting close to 8:30, so I just went to bed instead. Continue reading Planning A Wedding With A Baby