DIY & DIT
The traditional wedding idea perpetually floated by the bridal media is that your wedding is a great day, because it's the day that you get to be a bridal dictator of your own bridal island. Ick! Who wants that? So lets collectively just skip the bridal dictatorship idea, and move on to something a little more healthy. How about instead of Do It Yourself weddings, we have Do It Together weddings? And since weddings are all about weird acronyms, we can call it DIT.
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Everyone seemed excited and interested by my DIY flower dry run, so I thought I’d post wildly unprofessional tips, tricks, and thoughts on floral decorating.
- Don’t be scared. I’m not sure how we got so convinced that flowers were scary, but flowers are not scary. People have been doing flowers for weddings for thousands of years.
- Forget this “I’m an amateur, I should do something really simple, and not mix flowers” idea. Where did we even get that?
- Pin up pictures of arrangements you like and let them inspire your decorating.
- Mix textures, mix flowers, mix color. Be brave.
- Use crazy flowers! And herbs! And spiky things! And leaves! And twigs! And feathers!
- Too much of just the colors you love will be bland, use something different to make it pop (yellow or white for dark colors work really well)
- Work in pairs. One person will be your eyes while you are the worker bee. Then switch.
- Remember scale. Just because you can afford to have flowers the size of your head doesn’t mean you want to have flowers the size of your head. Or maybe you do. Just remember that flowers are heavy.
- Make your peace with the fact that your flowers will not be perfect, and that you’ll need to make them the day before (hot tip: if you paid for the flowers they wouldn’t be perfect either, but you would pretend that they were).
- Every time you make something, sit back and guess how much a florist would have charged you for it “$75!” you’ll say, “No, maybe $150!” Then applaud your cost savings (feel free to be wildly inaccurate with these numbers).
- Throw a flower decorating party the day before your wedding. Provide lots of wine and/or tea. You are not there to be the flower slave driver, you are the guest of honor, and are there to be spoiled. Remember that.
- On your wedding day, enthusiastically throw that bouquet in the air on the way out the door. Forget having a “tossing bouquet.” After all, if you want your wedding bouquet later, you can just make a new one!
I definitely have made sure not to buy into the WIC, but at the same time I don't think I can do the DIY route either. My new career is more travel intensive (and 8 weeks before our wedding it will be at its most intense period). I don't craft. I'm not a designer (I can barely sketch!) and I don't have friends or family who are designers or seamstresses. While I really like this post, I feel like the opposite of the WIC is the DIY movement. I guess I don't really feel part of either.
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Some moments from the weekend:
- I had lots of time as I sat hand addressing Save The Dates to think about our discussion about WIC vs DIY. Why do I DIY (or 'make stuff" as I call it in my head)? I realized sitting there that I make stuff because I want it to be mine, to be ours. I want something that's not a product someone marketing to us, but something we thought through and put together with our own hands. It was particularly nice to feel like we were sending something we'd thoughtfully created out to guests. It felt like sending them a little bit of us.
- Each time I walked into a fabric store someone would ask me "What project are you working on?" and I would flinch. I'm used to trying not to tell people that we're getting married in stores, because I hate that moment when it seems like dollar signs flash across their eyes. So, I sighed and said guardedly "we're shopping for fabric for my wedding dress." Each time there was a pause, and then shear un-guarded delight beamed from their face. "That's so wonderful!" they'd squeal, "Thats so exciting!" That reaction was reason enough to DIY. And if you ever go to Britex, look for Douglas on the silk and lace floor. He's my guy now. He told me, "When you find a fabric that speaks to you, that's your fabric. Just no point in looking after that." And he was right.