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One of the best parts of having written APW for almost four years (you guys! It will be APW's four-year-old birthday in two weeks, and to think I almost forgot about that!) has been watching the creative businesses of sponsors grow and thrive over the years. Emily Sterne Photography in Boston found APW really early. She was getting married and reading the site (you can check out her amazing wedding-graduate-in-the-pouring-rain post here), and then, years and years ago she joined us as an advertiser. It's been amazing getting to watch her build a business by working with all of you, and to see her images and artistic work blossom in startlingly lovely ways (like the first picture in the post, which has got to be one of the more emotional images I've seen this year).

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But what Emily Sterne Photography has always really really gotten about you guys is The Joy. She understands why you get married, and she sets out to document you just as you are. This seems obvious, a photographer wanting to document you as you are on your wedding day, but it's rarer than you would think. So many photographers are focused on taking pretty images: images that will get published on blogs, images of you looking all model-y by a couch in a field. And I am very serious about the fact that if you're going to hire a professional photographer to document your wedding day, you want someone who will capture you at your most raw and your most present. You want someone that will catch you looking joyful, overwhelmed, snotty and teary, and grinning your face off. You want someone to capture the essential humanness and truthfulness, which is such a serious talent set for an artist (and honestly why I think some photographers would rather focus on photographing you posing with props in the middle of nowhere... it's easier). And that's what Emily does. That's her gig.

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So, I wanted to let Emily talk a bit about why she does what she does because it helped me make sense out of A) Why her photos are so good, and B) Why I have such a problem with half the wedding photography trends out there. Oh! And! To top it all off, she's offering you a free engagement session. BAM! Here is Emily: Continue reading Emily Sterne Photography in Boston

Finally you guys. FINALLY. I get to introduce a project that we've been keeping a secret for five whole months. Do you know how hard that is? Seriously. It's hard. Last summer, I decided that I wanted to create How To content specifically for APW. I mean, to hell with poorly photographed How To posts with instructions I could barely read, let alone bring myself to care about. (Measure 8.5 inches and then cut with a slight jagged edge? Shut up.) To hell with projects that would clearly cost me a month's wages, and then take another full month to execute. (Glue painted bottle caps all over my living room walls as wallpaper? Shut up.) I wasn't having it.

I wanted to create some How To content for lazy girls like me: projects that looked pretty, were cheap, and resulted in items that were actually useful. So I teamed up with Elizabeth of Lowe House Creative and Emily of Emily Takes Photos, and along with APW staffer Kate, we retreated to Elizabeth's family's beach house outside of San Francisco for a few days, for what became known as the APW Craft Extravaganza. And I mean "craft" in the loosest possible sense. I am not, in any sense, a crafter (though I do know how to design and sew clothing from scratch, and how to knit, but those are practical skills I learned on my mom's knee).

Starting tomorrow, you can get details on how to make some easy (and actually useful) projects for your wedding, and also have fun doing it. Because we had fun. Proof is in the outtakes:

Continue reading Introducing APW How-To Posts!

APW + Say Media!

APW + Say Media

Back in December, I was sitting at the kitchen table while David was making dinner, and I asked (somewhat out of the blue, as I do), "Who do you think I know who knows someone at Say Media?" I explained that Jane Pratt's new site xoJane (unexpected Sassy reference... or it was unexpected until this morning's Tablet Mag article?) was run by a company called Say Media. Say is a digital media company who also does creative ad work for blogs. The company was created by a merger with Six Apart (the creators of TypePad, one of the earliest blogging tools). Long story short, I was fascinated by the idea of a media company that would be down with Jane Pratt's mix of sassy feminist controversy.

A week later, I got an email from Alt Summit that I was going to be on a panel with Sarah of Say Media. Two days later I got an email from Sarah saying she'd read APW while planning her wedding and loved the site.

The universe can be obvious sometimes.

But let me back up. Growing a business, or more specifically, growing a business ethically, is tough. It's so complicated that it deserves its own post (soon!). APW has grown in the last six months in ways that feel either awesome or terrifying, depending on the day. And the funny thing is, a growing business costs more to run. Everything from server costs to staff costs goes up as a business grows.

So! Over the course of the past year, it's become clear to me that it would be best for the business for APW to partner with an ad network. But I was picky. I refused to partner with anyone who saw us as "a wedding blog" and wanted to sell you a bunch of wedding stuff you didn't need. No. I also wanted to partner with people I liked, people that I felt would really listen to me, and people who respected what APW is all about. (I have high standards.) And after I met Sarah (and liked her) and had a long talk with her about Say Media (they got me), I decided APW and Say Media were a match. Hurrah!

So, I'm thrilled to announce, that starting tomorrow, you will start seeing Say Media ads on the site. It will work like this: Continue reading APW + Say Media!

Hi Guys!

I'm super super super excited to announce the winner of the Amtrak Honeymoon Giveaway. Because it was important that the drawing be totally objective, I let David do the honors. He used random.org to pick the winner, and he wouldn't let me look at anything till it was all selected. The winner (who I'm so excited for) is Natalie Novick, who left a comment saying:

Oh it would be so wonderful to win this! We are planning a super budget wedding and this would just be the icing on the cake. I took my first Amtrak trip a few weeks ago and I’m hooked!

Can we all join in a collective scream of delight for her?? EEEEEEEEE!!!! (Followed by lots of clapping.) Perfect, perfect, perfect. Natalie, I'll email you and we'll work it out. And now you pretty much have to be a wedding graduate, amiright?

YAY!

Meg

This week, now that I'm finally home from the tour and well rested, is the week of shifts in the APW staff. On Tuesday we brought on the APW Writing Interns for 2012, and all was joyful. Today is a little sadder because my very first hire ever for APW, Alyssa, is leaving us as the writer of Ask Team Practical today. She's not leaving-leaving. She promised me she'd stay on as APW Emeritus Staff, haunt the halls like Moaning Myrtle, occasionally moderate, and send us funny emails. But she is leaving us as our Friday columnist. I'm not supposed to be crying today because Alyssa tells me that if I cry, then she'll cry, and then everyone will be crying. But I'm not going to lie. I cried a little.

But! I only cried a little because I'm so excited about the new writer of Ask Team Practical: Liz! The thing about Liz is that she and Alyssa started at APW in a semi-official capacity at exactly the same time. They were co-moderators when I went to Italy, but back then, Liz was pregnant, and I was bringing on a writer on a volunteer basis, and I know that you ALWAYS pay pregnant ladies (my mamma raised me right). So, ever since then, I've been desperate to hire Liz to join the APW team. And now, in a funny moment of symmetry, Alyssa is pregnant, and it's time to pass the baton. So, without further ado, I bring you the ladies themselves:

From Alyssa:

If you were expecting a tearful goodbye, you’ll have to mosey on elsewhere. Oh, there were tears, but they were tears in response to change, no matter how good. There were also tears because I happen to be a giant bawl-baby and lose it over the slightest things anyway. And I’m not leaving in a flounce and I haven’t been fired, so there’s no good internetz-drama to be had either. My apologies if either disappointment ruined your day.

I’m leaving ATP because I’m currently scaling down a big part of my life just to make room for work, school, and baby so I can be present in each one and try my best not to suck at any of them. And actually, this started because of work and school. Baby just wandered into the picture, as they are wont to do, and suddenly made sh*t get very real. And as fun as it wold have been to juggle everything on my plate and prove to the world that I am, in fact, amazing, I’m going re-prioritize rather than hang on and be generally mediocre. Which is completely different than the specific mediocrity I normally produce. (HA! See what I did there? I insulted myself before y’all could. I’m wily, like a duck.)

So, this is basically just a changing of the guard because, um...I don’t plan on going anywhere. I may not write Ask Team Practical anymore, but that doesn’t mean I won’t be a part of the site. I started as a reader and, like all the other readers, I’m built into the bones of this place and just because I’m not a weekly feature doesn’t mean I’m not around. I promised Maddie I’d be the Moaning Myrtle of APW, wandering the hallways and popping in occasionally to be annoying, helpful, or sometimes both. Plus, Meg is letting me stay blue in the comments, so I’ll have to comment just to see that occasionally because it’s SO PRETTY.

Also? YOU GUYS GET LIZ. I’d be jealous, but I’ve already had Liz for a while. Know who advice columnists go to for advice? Liz. She’s funny, cool-headed, points out all those little nuances that you forget in your panic-induced haze of “OMG,OMG,OMG,OMG; FML,FML,FML...” and will offer to do bodily harm to people who make you cry but is so nice you know she’d never ACTUALLY set someone on fire for you. (Maybe.) Liz is not new around these parts and she’s had her hand in so much of the site that it already feels like she’s been staff for a while. Her maturity and wisdom, plus her ability to make me giggle, make me incredibly happy to be leaving ATP in her hands. Hell, I might even write in with my own questions.

So whatever this is, this ain’t goodbye. It’s a “See ya’ll later”, “Peace out,” and “So long and thanks for all the fish.” And it’s also a “Welcome Liz!,” “Yay for change,” and a big “Allons-y!” into ATP 2.0 tomorrow. I’ll see y’all in the comments!

*****

From Liz:

I might be the saddest to see Alyssa go. I don’t want to make this a competition or anything, but if it were, I would win. I even offered the girl a retainer to stay on as my personal consultant. But she made some excuse about having a life and a baby or something?

It’s pretty clear that I won’t be able to replace Alyssa. Really, I won’t. But that’s fine because I’ve been told that I won’t need to fill her shoes (fabulous, really, considering I don’t look so great in cowboy boots). So instead of trying to be The New Alyssa, I’m just going to be Liz. Whereas Alyssa would offer BBQ scented hugs, kindly meant “sweeties” and “darlins,” and loads and loads of funny, I’ll be bringing the smackdown and the Teacher Voice (ask anyone from the DC book talk).

I’ve been milling around APW since Meg was a newlywed. During that stretch, I’ve spouted off more opinions than should’ve been allowed (Meg is very generous). Opinions on being a wedding graduate, on DIY wedding food, on  married sexytimes, on woman-being lessons, and on babies and marriage. I’ve also been lucky enough to guest moderate while Meg takes the rare vacation. But, let’s be honest. If you recognize me, it’s probably not for any of those reasons. You probably recognize me as the mom who brought her moon-faced baby son into a Brooklyn bar for the NYC book talk.

This whole thing is sort of bittersweet. Alyssa promises she’ll be around (SHE BETTER), but I’ll certainly miss her sweet and frank Friday posts. At the same time, I’m so so excited to be able to contribute to an awesome community.

*****

And with that, I'll let you say your "Goodbye for nows" to Alyssa, and "Hello and welcome homes" to Liz. Let's do this up right. Pretend I snuck booze into the punch, and there is stale cake, and we're having a not-going-away-forever party for Alyssa. Here is my toast:

Alyssa, you were my number one reader back when you were Lysachelle in the comments, and I thought that was your name. You made me laugh when people were making me cry. And as the first staff member of APW ever (other than me), you made me see that it was ok to ask for help. Better than ok, really. That asking for help is what made this project great instead of just good. Thank you for that, and even though you handpicked the best non-replacement in the whole world, we'll still miss you. Cheers to you, and tiny cheers for the tiny baby too!

Now have some punch, y'all.

I have a deep love of people who are willing to look at the way the world works, see something they don't like, and change it. Making change, and making things happen is really hard, so I adore the people who will just look at a problem, and say, "Whatever. I'm doing this thing." Leah and Mark photography out of Atlanta are totally two of those people. In fact, this post came about because, when I emailed Mark about suddenly really needing to plan an Atlanta book tour stop, he said, "Give me an hour," and then, "Ok. I'll plan it." I mean who does that? Awesome people, that's who.

So, in exchange for that enormous favor, I wanted to post about a huge project Leah and Mark are working on. Basically, they wanted to produce a giveaway of a wedding, for a deserving couple. They told me, "We know that there are many people out there who are unable to have a wedding for many varied reasons. Now although we can’t possibly help everyone – we can help someone – and a few months ago we decided that we would give two people in love a full Wedding." So they partnered with 11Alive, their local NBC affiliate to make it happen. But the thing is, all the other mainstream ON TV wedding giveaways were for straight people only. And Leah and Mark knew that had to change. So, they made it happen. In fact, they said, "We had also approached Georgia's largest bridal show to be a part of this, except we had to turn them away when they wanted it explicitly stated in the contract that we would not accept same-sex couples from entering. Aw f*ck that." F*ck that indeed. So, "We went and found our own vendors that wanted to work with us. We didn't specifically target 'gay friendly' businesses because this wedding is more about supporting all marriage. Period. Straight. Gay. Awesome. Whatever. And yes—we know we’re in Georgia and we know the laws about marriage, but we’re doing this anyway. (Heck—only about a month ago could we FINALLY buy alcohol on Sunday in this state.)" So they partnered with Wedding Day Hooray, the indie wedding fair helping to throw the APW Book Tour in Atlanta, along with Equally Wed, the awesome same sex wedding magazine, to make this happen.

So! First, just YES. All of us need to be doing this work every single day, if you ask me. Second of all. What do you need to do to enter? Ok! Details:

  • The contest is limited to people living in the Atlanta area because everything happens within the span of three months, so they need you THERE and available.
  • Enter at 11Alive, and read all the details there. (Note: This contest is not being run by APW!)
  • Read even more about it at LeahandMark.com
And. Think about what you can do in your day to day life to be an LGBTQ ally. Yeah, you're probably not going to throw a massive free wedding, but I guarantee you that you can do something.