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Y’all. Sometimes it’s not worth getting complicated. We’ve talked many times on APW about how important it is to have someone else in charge of the logistics of your wedding day… someone who is NOT you (or your mama). Sometimes you have a friend do that, sometimes you hire someone. (And honestly, if you can make it work? Hire someone. Then go pour yourself a glass of wine as a reward.) But the trick to hiring a wedding planner is, in a word, sanity. You want someone who is awesome and skilled, but you also want someone who’s not upselling you on chairs and trying to get you to have goldfish in your centerpieces. (I’ve for sure been at the dead-goldfish-centerpiece party, and it’s… troubling.) If you’re in Southern California, as of today, your lady is Allie at Pop The Champagne. Allie is an APWer, a wedding graduate, and has worked with lots of you guys (and you love her).

Lemmie break this down for you. Allie’s DOC rates start at $550 (I know. $550 AMERICAN DOLLARS. This is crazy-time amazing pricing.) DOC+ rates start at $900. And here is where it gets almost absurd. Her full planning prices (that is, yes, hiring someone to plan that baby for you) start at $1,995. I can guarantee you that these rates are not going to last, and you should book Allie probably yesterday. But lets get down to brass tacks.

What does Allie do anyway and why is she so awesome? She:

  • Breaks down wedding planning into bite-size chunks, giving you monthly to-do lists and easy to understand tasks.
  • Takes the heat when you want something different than your mom… just blame it on the wedding planner. She can take it.
  • Works with other amazing vendors to piece together a day that is unique and special—staying on time and on budget.
  • Spends hours on research and emails back and forth with vendors so you can spend your time doing more important things like studying for finals, or Karaoke at the bar.
  • Knows when to root you on with your wacky ideas and when to reel you in when you get complicated for no reason.
  • Will remind you that every fancy centerpiece, photobooth, and signature cocktail in the world don’t compare for a second to the awesomeness of being married at the end of the day. That is all that matters.
  • Will organize the shit out of your wedding day to make sure it runs like a well-oiled matrimony machine.

And then there is Allie’s philosophy. I’m going to let her preach it:

I have spent my whole career working in hospitality and events, but when planning my own wedding in 2010, I fell in love… not necessarily with the business and crazy WIC vendors that try to talk you into things you don’t believe in… but the actual weddings. I will never judge you for crazy ideas or tiny budgets. I will be totally honest and simplify things when possible. I love the craziness of the wedding day most of all and have been known to take a shot with the bride and shake my thang on the dance floor.

As a former APW bride I think I have a unique perspective when it comes to working with APW readers—I get it. I understand your challenges and am on your team. My business philosophy is simple, whether I am helping plan from day one or just there doing day-of coordination, I want to make things as easy on the couple as possible. Every couple is different with the places they need help—some with organization, some with decor and ideas, some don’t have the slightest how the heck weddings work. It is my job to step in and fill the gaps. I am not an event designer, but I love to make things beautiful, and I know how to make it happen. With the magic of the World Wide Web and the almighty Pinterest I have found a lot of couples will show me a picture or a board and be all… “Like this.” So, I can do that! I keep the couple on track, on time and on budget—and keep them having fun. It’s supposed to be fun ya’ll!

I cannot wait to jump in and be a part of it all, and my pricing reflects that. My pricing for day-of coordination is especially competitive because I believe it is something that every wedding needs—especially the budget or DIY types. (Editors note: the more DIY your wedding, the more you need someone-who-is-not-you to be in charge the day of. For. Serious.) I am straightforward with pricing and packages on my website because I want to make things easy, and I feel like the “every wedding is different so please contact me for a quote” thing is bullshit. When you are researching and looking at different sites, you want answers.

Continue reading Pop The Champagne Events: Chill Wedding Planning In SoCal

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Last week we talked (and talked and talked) about the last few months of wedding planning and the unexpected stresses that can come up in the final push to the finish line. For me, this stress was bridesmaid dresses. I wanted so much to be a laid-back bride, so I rejected the idea of telling my friends what to wear, but that didn’t stop me from pinning paint swatch after paint swatch into my wedding notebook (this was before Pinterest, clearly) and sending them countless color palettes that I’d created using the collage tool in Picasa and sort of trying to coordinate their looks while also telling them I didn’t care what everything looked like. It turns out I did care about bridesmaid dresses, I just wanted them to be inexpensive and easy to obtain for my bridesmaids while also being stylish and, well, somewhat coordinated (and maybe something they’d wear again? We can dream, right?)

Looking back, it’s so easy to see how much easier this process would have been with Little Borrowed Dress, purveyor of stylish, affordable, bridesmaid dresses that you can rent and then return for only $50-$75! In fact, Little Borrowed Dress is such a no brainer for me that it’s hard for me to understand how it took this long for someone to come up with the idea.

So here’s how Little Borrowed Dress works: Continue reading Rent Your Bridesmaid Dresses with Little Borrowed Dress!

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Screen shot from a Minted video promoting their designers 

Minted is one of my favorite places to buy paper goods. There, I said it. I’m not currently in the market for wedding invitations (though luckily, lots of you are), but New Year’s cards are one of my important traditions, and I use Minted every single year. Their save the dates, invitations, cards, and baby announcements are impeccably curated (and lots of the save the dates and holiday cards let you use pictures, which I love). But they also happen to be a San Francisco company who’s very involved in the creative community here—and I like supporting local small businesses.

But with Minted, it goes a step further. All of Minted’s designs are created exclusively for Minted by their community of independent designers. Just like APW, Minted is a community that’s built around valuing independent artists. One of their team recently explained to me how their process works. Every time I buy a holiday card, or you buy a wedding invitation, an email is sent directly to the designer that created it, telling them a little about who you are, and letting them know that a (generous) portion of the profit of the sale will be added to their next check. This lets designers do work they love, without worrying about doing all the marketing and printing themselves. Beyond that, Minted’s prices are great. For invitations, they’ve recently expanded their offerings to include letterpress (high five!), but also offer you the options of their luxurious Signature Paper, 100% Recycled Matte Paper, Luxe Museum Board (triple the thickness of their Signature Paper), or gorgeous Pearlescent Paper.

Today, in true APW style, I’m thrilled to get to highlight two Minted designers. Maddie and I interviewed Laura Condouris and Trista Sydloski-Tesch, and we are delighted to share a little bit of their stories.

Photos clockwise from top right: Laura at work, Watercolor Frame Invitation, Mantilla Spanish Lace Invitation

During a reception, my favorite moment is dancing to old R& B or hip-hop, and, even better, watching the older family members dance.

My artistic philosophy is, in a word, honesty. Being yourself, being playful and not taking yourself too seriously, honing your individual style and not riding the coattails of others, or mindlessly following trends

As a calligrapher, I do most of my work at my dining room table, since it’s the only place where there’s enough space to spread out the dozens of envelopes that need to dry before they get stacked up together. Though I definitely feel more at peace and “together” when it’s not total chaos, there are often little half-finished bits and bobs piled everywhere at the end of the day.

I try to imagine a look or a color scheme a couple might be going for—something that’s a bit different than what’s already out there.  Once I get what might be a strong idea, I’ll start with a few sketches for the layout, and get out my pens or paintbrushes to work on something to scan or reproduce in Illustrator.

I think 20s/prohibition-era style is going to be huge this year after the release of the new film version of The Great Gatsby. So maybe I’ll do something art deco-inspired?

I really like my invitation Mantilla Spanish Lace, because I’m so into hand-drawn patterns. I wanted to do an invitation that incorporated lace, but that wasn’t too “girly” and was more modern. I was inspired by the beautiful edging on the mantilla veil that I wore in my own wedding.

I honestly think Minted customers have very good taste. Coming to Minted allows them to find and support an artist whose style fits their own.

I’m a full-time calligrapher and designer, but I’ve recently started doing stand-up comedy, which is incredibly nerve-racking.  Being totally dependent on the audience’s reaction is completely terrifying, but it’s also exhilarating when you get a big laugh!

 

 

Photos clockwise from top left: Trista at work, Ballard Nautical Invitation, Whimsical Kelp Invitation

My philosophy is to create beautiful and original work that’s inspired by the past, but modern in its sensibilities and is a bit edgy. I like to create things that are unexpected, a bit rock and roll, and a bit like, “I do it because I can.” I love flourishes, being dramatic, and telling a story with my work.

It’s usually over the top, involves things that are handcrafted and handmade, always has texture in some way, and has an edge. My thing as a designer is my work is definitely feminine but has a hardness to it.

I’m conflicted in aesthetics as a designer. Here are some examples of my varied interests: my favorite shows are Sons of Anarchy and Sailor Moon. I was a metal head in high school that also happened to be a varsity cheerleader. If I could look a certain way every day I would wear a full lace gown à la Jane Austen but be completely covered in tattoos like Kat Von D. I’m kind of obsessed with the idea of a beautiful but hardcore woman, and I think the duality of tough and soft, feminine and masculine shows in my design work. Continue reading Minted: Wedding Invitations by Independent Designers

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Even outside of our superpartnership with them, I’ve always held a special fondness in my heart for TurtleLove.com. Partly because they are based in my hometown in Maine (founder Adrianne actually lives just a few miles away from my family), but mostly because they are committed to supporting independent artists, so I always feel really good after I buy something from TurtleLove.com knowing that my money is going toward artists making a living with their art.

These days, with their awesome selection of hip handcrafted necklaces, TurtleLove.com is my go-to for things like Mother’s Day Gifts, the graduation present for my sister I really ought to buy since she’s graduating next week, and sometimes for presents I really just want to buy myself (cough Gondola Earrings cough).

But today I want to rewind and take it back to what made me fall in love with TurtleLove.com to begin with when they first joined APW as sponsors a zillion years ago: indie, artisan, and vintage engagement rings that are beautiful, ethical, and affordable. So today we bring you five engagement rings under $1K from TurtleLove.com. This doesn’t even begin to represent all of the amazing, varied, and equally affordable styles these guys have in their inventory, so I encourage you to hop on over to their site and see for yourself. It’s possible there’s something there for everyone (even me, with my Liberace tastes).

 

Maddie
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One of the benefits of having a wedding photographer who has already gotten married is that they tend to have good perspective on the things that matter most at weddings. But then there are photographers like Vivian Chen Photography in San Francisco, who not only got married recently, but had one of those nightmare wedding experiences (like ending up in the hospital on her wedding day) that gives her a whole new level of badass perspective (and calm-bringing). If I’ve learned anything from photographing weddings myself, it’s that inevitably something will go wrong at some point in the day. And you want someone with the chops to handle it, and maybe make it a little better. And, well, Vivian is up to her ears in chops.

I fell a little bit in love with Vivian Chen Photography last year when Viv wrote a grad post about how she rolled with the punches from the ER on her wedding day. Well, it turns out that experience gave Vivian a renewed sense of purpose in this industry. With 150 weddings under her belt, Vivian is committed to being the person you can trust to keep things relaxed on your wedding day. But it’s not just that Vivian Chen Photography brings the serenity to your wedding. Vivian’s jaw-dropping images look exactly like her philosophy: powerful, while maintaining a light, airy vibe.

Vivian explained her philosophy (and a little of why she loves working with you guys):

The most important part about what I do, besides taking beautiful photographs, is making sure my couples are comfortable and at ease. This begins even before I pick up my camera. Wedding planning can be a daunting process (having done it myself recently, I feel your pain), and I always make myself available to answer any questions about the process and what to expect. There’s a lot of moving parts that have to come together when planning a wedding and if my six years in wedding industry can help, I’m there. Communication is key to having a great wedding photography experience.

I love learning about my couples: how they first met, their shared interests, their shared differences and what makes them just right for each other. Knowing more about who they are helps me photograph authentically. It’s essential for me to bring that awareness to when my couples are in front of the lens. I strive to capture genuine moments, nothing fake or overly posed. The best way to achieve that is to be tuned in to my couples. If a couple is camera shy, I don’t force them to pose in any way that makes them feel awkward because that discomfort is going to show in the photos. Having fun with our shoots and allowing my couples to feel like they can truly be who they are is what I strive for at the end of the day. As I like to say, “Reality can be just as fabulous as fantasy.”

But where Vivian’s skills (abundant as they may be) really shine is in small and intimate weddings (like her own, no surprise), which she has holds special passion for. Because here’s the thing. Plenty of photographers can take a well-decorated space filled with lots of stuff and make it look awesome. But it takes a special level of talent to strip that all away and capture the raw emotion, the people and the moments that are front and center at more minimal weddings.

Viv explains:

A big part of what I love about the APW community is that it connects me with couples that are just like me: laid-back, easy going and looking to enjoy themselves on their wedding day. Sharing the day with your friends and family is what I believe to be the core of weddings. That’s the main reason why I love shooting small and intimate weddings because they are often more relaxed and focused on everyone celebrating together. It’s not about the material things, it’s about the human connections. I’m a people person and love getting know the families but my calm and quiet nature allows me to seamlessly slip into the background and photograph the day unfolding naturally. I have a keen eye for shooting the small candid moments that other people might miss. I love shooting emotions and capturing the feeling of the day, not just the pretty details. Continue reading Vivian Chen: No-stress San Francisco Wedding Photography

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Today is something of a full circle moment for me. One of the first weddings I ever featured on APW, five years ago now (FIVE YEARS AGO OMG), was a sweet simple wedding shot by a wedding photographer who was just getting started: Emily Takes Photos. I said in that post, “If I could only have one lofty goal for this website, it would be that I would help make small and simple weddings fashionable again.” When I wrote it, it was honestly me just saying the craziest thing I could think of, but it’s turned out to be somewhat prescient. Except the “I” became a “we” with the amazing APW staff, and one of those people in the “we” turned out to be Emily, of Emily Takes Photos.

Now, if that wasn’t full circle enough, as of today, Emily has decided to shift her business model a bit, and refocus on exactly where she started: small and simple weddings. Today, in honor of Emily’s birthday (HAPPY BIRTHDAY EMILY, I will get drunk with you tonight!) she’s announcing that Emily Takes Photos is going to focus more on San Francisco City Hall weddings.

For the uninitiated, San Francisco City Hall is one of the most beautiful places you can get married in the United States, and you can do it for just $174. I’ve seen a lot of beautiful buildings all over the world in the past few years, and San Francisco City Hall still takes my breath away, in a very literal, visceral way, every time I walk into it. It’s where we got our marriage license and contemplated equality, and it is inexorably tied to the marriage equality movement in the United States, which makes it all the more special for me. APWers come here to get married from all over the country, and funnily enough, the first San Francisco City Hall wedding we ever featured on APW was shot by Emily (as was yesterday’s city hall wedding). So, I’m thrilled that Emily is now providing one-stop shopping for San Francisco elopement photography (not to mention her experienced hand guiding you through the whole process if you throw caution to the wind and book a plane ticket out here to get hitched). That, and her work is stunning. You can see her full wedding gallery here, and her city hall gallery here. So, without further ado, Emily herself.

Meg

Dear APW,

I am in love with San Francisco City Hall. For starters, the building is magnificent, with gorgeous detailing all over the place. The light is pretty much perfect all the time in there. There are a ton of fun places to shoot inside the building (and outside, too!), which means you can get a lot of awesome photos in a short time. That alone would be enough reason to want to shoot there, but there’s something about the weddings that happen there that holds a place in my heart.

I love the simplicity of city hall weddings, whether it’s just you, your partner, and a judge, or a bigger group with all your loved ones. The whole process of getting married there seems so unfussy to me, which I think puts more focus on the actual marriage, as opposed to the wedding itself. They feel as how I’d imagine my grandparents‘ or great-grandparents‘ weddings felt: simple, but filled with love and giddy excitement. Even the judges get giddy. I’ve been told by a couple judges that after days of hearing depressing court cases, performing marriage ceremonies is one of the best parts of their jobs. I especially love when there are lots of couples getting married, one right after the other, as I think the excitement in the building multiplies exponentially! Seriously, take a Friday afternoon and walk around there. Have a seat outside the County Clerk’s office and watch as all the couples file in and out, grinning like crazy, waiting to be married (extra fun for spotting wedding outfits!) Continue reading San Francisco City Hall Elopement Photographer: Emily Takes Photos