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One of the many unexpectedly wonderful things about the APW book tour (and there are so many) has been that I've gotten the chance to meet a tons of APW sponsors on the road that I never would have otherwise met. One of the ladies who made the biggest impression on me was Emilia Jane, of Emilia Jane Photography, who I met over a bottle of wine in my few hour train change in Chicago. As all of you know, there is nothing I love more than a person who can make me laugh (and I have high standards for hilarity). And it turns out that Emilia Jane is one of those people. She's warm and kind, but also in possession of a razor sharp wit, powered by a keen eye for observation. And, if you ask me, that's probably exactly what makes her an excellent photographer (who even takes photos with a sense of humor).

And what an excellent photographer she is. The theme for the month seems to be APW photographers who are on fire, and whose work has leapt to staggering heights in the last year while working with y'all. In that vein, I bring you Emilia Jane. Looking at Emilia Jane's portfolio is just plain exciting. Her work is personal and emotional, but she also mixes in fashion photography images, with quirky soul. It's the personality of an APW photographer, mixed with a Vogue-like flair. And who doesn't want that (particularly when it comes packaged with hilarity).

Plus, her wedding photography is staggeringly affordable, with wedding packages starting at just $2,000 and special rates for elopements (something she totally has a soft spot for). Plus! She gives a free engagement session (and the files!) to all her APW couples. Rad. Oh, and did I mention? Emilia Jane started out as a Team Practical bride, using APW to plan her wedding, and then joined us as a sponsor. Somehow, that's always the best kind of partnership. So today I'm super excited to just let Emilia chat a bit about what she's learned growing her business and why she loves you guys in particular. Trust me, it's really really good stuff:

When I first started my business I thought the pictures were the most important thing. Don't get me wrong, having amazing pictures is crucial. But it's just the first step. I want to work with people who not only love my pictures but also like me for me. So I had to figure out how to fix this problem of being a simple commodity, a wedding photographer. This year I have completely re-branded and poured my personality into my website and blog. I worked with great designers (from 315 and Super Runaway), and I am so happy with the final product. Both places feel so much more like ME! And they've enabled me to connect so much better with potential clients. Now I can ask real questions about their wedding on the contact page, not just name/date/info! The other most impactful change for me has been blogging Monday through Friday. I used to only blog when I had pretty new pictures from a session. Now I don't just blog about that, but I blog about real life! My latest obsessions, cocktail recipes, books I'm reading, goals, etc. (Editors note: this is seriously good stuff, whether you're looking for a photographer or not.) There are few things I love more than sitting down to a new client meet-up and having them say, I feel like I know you already because I read your blog, and I found you on APW.

I love the APW community because here I feel like I've finally found my people. A group of sane, smart alec-y (yep I may be making up words now) people who I instantly connect with. I've had so much fun connecting with so many new APW ladies through Twitter this year. Helping each other find dresses and venues, supporting each other through life struggles, bonding over Downton Abby. You knew it was going to go there! I love working with APW couples because when we sit down to meet for the first time I know we already have lots in common! Not only does this translate to a seamless wedding vendor relationship, but it means we can actually be friends too. I love that we can be talking about wedding details one minute and marriage and real relationship issues the next. I know that APW couples value the marriage beyond the wedding day, and what I am going to give them will help them remember the little moments throughout that celebration, for the rest of their lives!

As far as the pictures go, my goal is always to capture real emotion throughout the day. I am not about posing you for hours on end, or dragging you around to a million places. I want to be alongside you celebrating the formation of your new family. Can we talk about how huge that is for a second?! What an awesome responsibility. And it seriously brings me so much joy to do it! I feel so blessed to be included in such a huge occasion of life and to have found a profession that love so much!

So ladies of Chicago and the upper midwest... go have loads of fun with Emilia Jane. Crack jokes, share cocktail recipes, and make amazing photos together. It's going to be excellent, I can tell (send photos!).

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Today, I'm super thrilled to write about Kara Shultz, Storyteller, serving the Chicago, Milwaukee, and Lake Geneva areas. First off, I have to say, Kara is just one of those no-nonsense, get-it-done people that you want to have as a friend... or, even better as your photographer/wedding day best friend. Kara had a baby on Christmas Eve, and she selected, and then re-sized images for this post within an hour of me asking for them. One handed. During a feeding. Which leads me back to the inevitable conclusion that new mothers are slightly magical, but I digress.

Kara Schultz describes her business in a way that always kind of profoundly delights me. Maybe because I'm also a super-doer, and I'm just thrilled with the idea of you having someone like this at your side on your wedding day. She says, "I am… a timeline goddess, a pro at zipping and lacing up dresses, expert at removing stains on different fabrics, never hesitant to sew your bustle back into place, always willing to fix your hair or put your veil back into place, not afraid to mix you a drink in the limo if I have to, willing to lay on the ground to get that shot, happy to sacrifice my clothes so you can sit on a bench or on the ground, an expert dress bustler and know all the types, speech writer extraordinaire, willing to talk you down when you're on the verge of a meltdown, the reassuring voice that everything is wonderful on your wedding day, there to help you in whatever way you need, your sounding board and confidante, the one who makes you dance with your wife/husband at the end of the night, a comedian to make you laugh. I'll do whatever it takes to make sure your day is yours." I LOVE THAT, you guys. I seriously love it.

But more than all that, I want to talk about how Kara's work has grown by leaps and bounds in the past year (but her pricing totally hasn't, so you should snap up this deal now). I mean, girlfriend is on FIRE. Her portfolio is full of super clear, emotional, and compelling shots. And all of it is sort of, cough, no bullsh*t. Kara doesn't go in for trends or frills. She just delivers rock solid photographs that tell a clear emotional story in one frame, over and over again.

And let's talk about her excellent pricing. First, she offers a special no frills APW package for $2,300. And, she's also offering y'all a free 16X20 canvas gallery wraps, because she thinks everyone deserves wall art. Most of all, you. You can see more about her pricing here, but seriously, snap this up Chicago and Milwaukee, because these rates are too good to last.

But beyond all that, Kara just loves you guys. She says, "I love working with APW people because we get each other. It's an easy relationship to have and they're realistic. They understand that, at the end of the day, the wedding isn't about the stuff at the wedding. It's more about the people. That's how I photograph primarily. I love photographing people, not things; I'm a people photographer, I love the interaction between them. My goal is to show who the couple is, and it's what I love to do. Whether they're silly or romantic or anything in between, that's what I like to do. I love to capture their love in the moment and their friends and family that surround them. My primary focus is to give the couple that lovely piece of wall art that they can cherish for years to come, and to give them art that they can use to tell the story of their love on the wedding day. In the end, it's the couple that's most important to me." Which, I mean, right?

And when I asked her about her artistic philosophy, well, I'm just going to give you her verbatim answer, because it's hilarious, "Be yourself. Have fun. Wang Chung tonight. (wee what sleep deprivation does to a person???) Ok seriously though, my philosophy is to focus on the couple and give them amazing images, so they can blow them up and display them on their walls. I'm also everything for them on their wedding day from counselor to best friend to emergency florist to DOC to medic. I try and do it all!"

I mean, basically? I think Kara Schultz is who you want to have on your team. I mean, when was the last time you read a sponsored post where the photographer offered to be your medic, if things suddenly went awry? That is good people right there, and that's not even talking about the photos. (Oh, the photos.) So go! Play! And, well, obviously you're going to have fun, so you really should send me pictures, just to be fair....

This post includes Sponsors, who are a key part of supporting APW. For more information, see our Directory page for Kara Schultz, Storyteller.

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Sometimes, I think that the UK has the most phenomenal luck when it comes to wedding photographers. And that never seems to be more the case than when I think about Lauren McGlynn Photography in Scotland. The full story about Lauren is that she's an American who moved from Austin, TX to Aberdeen, Scotland just over a year ago. The sort of miraculous thing is that it was you guys, Team Practical, that helped allow her to pick up stakes and move her business whole sale to another country. You trusted her artistry, you invited her to share your weddings, you invited her to your weddings and your book clubs and your lives, and she repaid you a thousand times over with gorgeous, quirky, and emotive pictures of your weddings.

And the best thing about Lauren is how much all of you just like her. I routinely get dispatches from Scotland about what good people she is and how fun she is to have a drink with. I mention this, by the way, because I think it's extremely important to want to get a beer with your wedding photographer. Under no circumstances should you hire someone to follow you around on one of the more momentous days of your life that you wouldn't voluntarily spend a night at the pub with.

And what magic she's done with your weddings. This year alone we've featured her APW-er collaborations with Eva & Tyson's crazy Austin dance party wedding, Sarah & Steven's Edinburgh wedding during a riot (I met Sarah at the NYC book tour party, and she is rad. Hi Sarah!), Anne & Alex's simple and stunning church wedding, Nora & Luis's Welsh foodie wedding, and the wedding where Lauren first discovered APW, Devereaux & Justin's kick ass wedding. So to say that Lauren loves and understands you is really an understatement. She actually adores you.

Lauren told me, "Me and APW couples are like peas and carrots, or neeps and tatties if you will. We always genuinely really like each other, which helps me to take extra special wonderful pictures. I think that I became a better photographer in 2011 (Editors note: She totally did. So 2012 couples watch out!), and that is thanks in great part to the magic that happens at APW weddings, but it's also because APW couples trust me enough to give me the freedom to be creative. Most of the weddings that I have booked so far for 2012 are APW weddings and I couldn't be more excited because I'm feeling really inspired. I did a round up post of my personal work in 2011 too, and in it I said that 'My aim for 2012 is to create images that are beautiful and interesting and honest. I want to continue to evolve as a photographer, and yet hold fast to my authenticity.' I'm really sincere about that, and excited about it too. I think that APW weddings are perfect for making that happen because they posses all of the qualities that I'm after: beauty, honesty, and authenticity." Which basically means, I can't wait to see what you guys create together.

And. Lauren McGlynn Photography is so thrilled to work with you (as ever) that she's offering a special offer if you book with her soon. She says, "To celebrate my wonderful first year in the UK, I would like to offer a 20% discount to APW couples who book me within the the next six weeks for weddings in 2012. That means that they can get a full day's coverage, with a disk of all of their retouched high-resolution files, starting at just £960, and I don't charge travel fees for the UK. BAM." And that, my friends, is an amazing deal. One you should be jumping on right this second.

And that's not even mentioning all the other things Lauren is up to. She does a phenomenal photobooth (with a long time APW reader). She's been shooting an amazing portrait series, including this really lovely one of a couple who's been married more than sixty years. And her round up from 2011 weddings, and portfolio, will make you feel totally magically in love with her work. And that's not even mentioning her excellent prices. So go have fun together. I can't wait to see what 2012 brings....

This post includes Sponsors, who are a key part of supporting APW. For more information, see our Directory page for Lauren McGlynn Photography.

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The last time we talked about Zachary Hunt Photography (serving Austin, TX, the surrounding Texas areas, and beyond with super affordable rates), Zach was celebrating shooting his first ever APW reader wedding. And while that seemed un-toppable (I mean, the bride was throwing an uncooked chicken around the grocery store), man, did he show us. The excellent Zach (who I'm super excited to meet in Austin because he's one of those people who's both such a talented artist and the kind of chill guy you want to get a beer with) has spent a year shooting APW weddings, and what an awesome year it's been.

The great thing about Zach is that he just doesn't see things the way other people see things. I've talked before about how his photography has this feeling of belonging in an art book, but in a phenomenally alive way. He's capturing these moments in a way that no one else would (which is my definition of a real artist), but he has the rare ability to also fully capture you, your partner, your personalities, and the day as it unfolds. (And still get all the necessary wedding shots. No sacrificing function for art here.)

The two APW weddings that we featured from Zachary Hunt Photography's treasure trove this year were each so different and so well captured (and trust me, I know. I went through the full galleries for both these weddings, and it was hard not to pick every picture to share with you). There was Jennah and Gary's wedding that was full of the couple making hilarious faces. This was hands down the funniest wedding I've ever edited for the site (and you know I love that). And then there was Irene and Bob's unbelievably cool Austin bike wedding, which had a totally different vibe that Zach captured just as well. And that, is what true talent looks like, kids.

And that's just the tip of the iceberg. This year, Zachary Hunt Photography  has been shooting APW weddings all year, and if you ask me, each one is more gorgeous than the last. Zach says, "I am proud of all of the APW weddings that I have photographed this past year because many of them were so full of joy. I couldn't be happier with the couples I worked with who found me through APW."

And why wouldn't he be over the moon thrilled, given your weddings that he's gotten to shoot? I mean, every single one of them is a wedding I wish I could have been at. He says, "There was an APW Jewish/Marine wedding which was a perfect blend of traditional and nontraditional elements. I had never photographed so many crying people before. (The bride is a huge APW reader by the way.) There was an Austin musician's wedding that I loved. There was a moment in which the bride and groom sang in unison with a backing band. Also, there was a lovely portrait of the bride and groom with their cat, Meatwad. She found me through APW as well." (Editors note: Meatwad is one of our only cat readers! Hee.)

In the end, one of the (many, if we're being honest) great things about Zach, is that he just loves people who are passionate about things (bikes! tossing chickens! singing! getting married!) and he wants to be there documenting it for you. Here is one of my favorite of his stories: "I asked a couple (who found me through APW) about their interests and hobbies during an engagement session. They told me they performed in a drag king troupe called Kings N Things. Then they asked if I could photograph one of their upcoming performances. I, of course, said yes! Photographing the event was an awesome experience. I loved hanging out with the couple, seeing them perform, and documenting such amazing people doing what they love and are passionate about. I'm photographing another Kings N Things performance next month that I can't wait to share on my blog." I mean, RIGHT? (The pictures are incredible, by the way.)

In closing, Zach says, "Basically, I'm so grateful to the APW community for existing and all of the APW couples for trusting me. I had such a memorable year, and I can't wait to meet and photograph my next APW couple."

And I'm pretty grateful for Zachary Hunt Photography . He's such a kind and awesome guy. His rates are crazy affordable. He's so talented I can't even wrap my head around it. And he wants to work with APW-ers in particular. I mean, how much better can it get? So Texas, and beyond, you're in so much luck. Go browse, and then drop Zach a line. I'm frankly envious of how much fun you're going to have together.

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I'm always delighted whenever we have a sponsored post from Kelly Prizel. First, because she's a phenomenal photographer (she shoots out of New England and the Tri-State Area, but she's shot APW weddings everywhere) with affordable rates (her wedding packages start at just $2,800, a total steal given then strength of her work). But second, and really, because Kelly's sponsored posts are never your normal sponsored posts—they are mediations on the central values of APW—today's is about the nature of community, and how we create community and witness on our wedding days. It's the perfect complement to this morning's discussion, and it comes complete with gorgeous photographs and a photographer you're going to adore working with. Now here is Kelly Prizel:

In a sponsored post from a while back, I said this:

And in each wedding I shoot, whether the couple is 20 or 50, gay or straight, black, white or anything else, I strive to tell the story of what your wedding IS about: love, community, and commitment.

I’ve been thinking about about one of the words in that sentence lately: community.

I’m thinking of it because I recently experienced a first in my years of shooting weddings. While I’ve done tons of elopements and courthouse ceremonies, including a recent one where a killer-awesome lesbian couple who make tea for a living came over from Australia (!!!) to get married, I had never served as a witness until this December. And then, two days before Christmas, in the superior court of New York, I finally got to. My clients, two women from Arizona, flew in for a courthouse wedding, and, in the flurry of emails in the weeks before, asked me to be their witness.

Shooting a wedding is by definition an act of witness, a sharing of both the most private and public of moments. But something about my name being on these women’s legal document, the document that hopefully will one day secure some legal rights for them outside the state of New York, felt like it made me part of their lives in this very tangible, lasting way.

And even though their wedding was just them, me, and the judge, we created community that day. Not just the four of us. But the couple getting married in the courtroom before us, he in his dress blues, his wife in a blue strapless dress, fake fur coat, and chucks. His parents snapping photos. The couples congratulating each other as one finished up and the next began.

In these moments, we realize how amazingly communities come together. Communities of strangers thrown together by chance, sometimes. And then, very deliberate communities. Communities like A Practical Wedding, in which strangers from all over the world become not-strangers-anymore. Communities like my own So You’re EnGAYged, about which, during its hiatus due to my illness, I received email after email from queer people telling me how much having this space on the web meant to them.

All of this is why you stay here. This is why I’m relaunching So You’re EnGAYged, now that my life is getting back on track. It’s also why I shoot weddings. Photos create community. Whether you book my photobooth and get your crazy friends to snap ridiculous pictures of themselves wielding whips and donning pirate hats, or you send your disk of wedding images to your grandmother who couldn’t make it to the wedding, images of your wedding circulate among your communities, cementing bonds around memories.

And even if your dad doesn’t remember my name twenty years from now, he’ll still have that picture I took hanging on his wall. And in that way, I’ll still be part of your lives. And that’s a pretty effing amazing feeling.

And with that, any of you looking for a photographer with phenomenal values, and equally phenomenal talent, in New York City, New England or beyond, browse Kelly Prizel's Porfolio. Dig into her blog. And then contact her. It may be the best wedding-related decision you ever made. Fact.

This post includes Sponsors, who are a key part of supporting APW. For more information, see our Directory page for Kelly Prizel Photography.

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Jonas Seaman Photography in Seattle. WHERE DO I EVEN START, you guys? I. It's. It's a rare thing that leaves me at a loss for words, but Jonas's photography sort of leaves me at a loss for words. Why? Well, because it doesn't look like anything else I've seen. Because I'm trying to figure out how I can hire Jonas to take some photographs that I can put on my wall. And also because I've met Jonas, I've chatted with him via email, he became friends with APW editor Maddie at first contact, and he's just awesome.

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So Seattle, and everywhere else (because heck yes, he travels at cost), you're totally in luck. I mean, beyond luck, really. In... kismet? Fate? I donno, but it's good. Rather inexplicably, Jonas Seaman Photography offers pretty-much-all-inclusive wedding photography packages starting at just $2,600 (with an APW discount!), and including eight hours of coverage, and all your high resolution images. Which is just a flat-out steal given how remarkable his work is.

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And let's talk about his work. He just wrote about his first year working full time as a photographer, and he let me pick some pictures from it. I might have picked some of the grittier artier images because, well, that's what I'm into, and they blew me away. But Jonas shoots in a whole range of styles. But first and foremost, this is an artist (who's had his work shown internationally) whose true passion is weddings. And is a seriously chill, super awesome, super nice guy, who you'll really love. Which is the magic connection of awesome.

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But what's truly amazing is he's going to capture how your wedding day felt, not just how it looked. And that's not only the most important thing, it's almost impossible to do. I'm going to suggest that you take a deep dive into his portfolio, frankly, if you're looking for a wedding vendor or not, because OMG GOOD. First, there is his blog, Americanvirus, which he started as a collection of creative work. Then there is the stories section of his site, not to mention his recent post rounding up the year. It's mind-blowing, incendiary, deeply creative, and just alive. It's a good example of what keeps me inspired, doing the work I do.

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So let's talk about Jonas Seaman's story, because it's a good one. And it's a crazy inspiring story for any of you trying to figure out how to make a change in your life and move towards your passions:

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I started the Americanvirus blog in 2008 as a way to stay creative and post my work, whatever creative work that would end up being. I posted videos, drawings, thoughts and photos. Some of my photography caught the eye of some Galleries in Germany, Italy, and Los Angeles who ended up showing my work. I had no idea at the time that Americanvirus would end up turning into almost exclusively a photo blog, let alone, a wedding photo blog.

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I started getting emails from couples asking if I was interested in capturing their wedding day. After shooting my first few weddings in 2010, I realized I wanted to make this my personal work. A lot of wedding photographers shoot weddings in order to make a living while they pursue their personal photography. For me, wedding photography has become my personal photography. That of course may change some day, but at the moment it’s what most inspires me so that’s what I’m driven to do.

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I feel super blessed by the couples I’ve ended up with. I love the kind of collaboration it’s brought to my work. It’s actually something that drives me now, wondering what we’re going to come up with together. Also, knowing that someday years from now they will still be holding onto, hopefully cherishing, these wedding photos we’ve made together. Every couple I’ve worked with, whether they’re very hands on or whether they just want to leave me to do my thing, seem to bring so much to the table. My images would be nothing without them.

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I’m excited to work with APW couples. I support LGBTQ couples' right to marry. I feel love should be celebrated for its diversity and I think it’s awesome that the APW couple comes in all shapes, sizes, colors, and budgets. I also don’t charge a premium just because I hear the word “wedding.” Yes, I took the sanity pledge! I’m excited to be a part of this team!

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Right? RIGHT. So good. So! I cannot wait in the deep down parts of my soul to see how this plays out. Jonas Seaman Photography plus APW couples? GOD, it's going to be good. And you don't just have to be in the Pacific Northwest. Jonas is down to travel affordably to you. Plus, he's offering $200 off on any wedding booked by APW couples that books before March 31st, 2012 (wedding can be any time). So what are you waiting for? Go, go, go! And have fun.

This post includes Sponsors, who are a key part of supporting APW. For more information, see our Directory page for Jonas Seaman Photography.