Comments for A Practical Wedding: Ideas for Unique, DIY, and Budget Wedding Planning http://apracticalwedding.com Weddings. Minus the insanity, plus the marriage. Thu, 24 May 2012 03:31:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Comment on Wordless Wedding: Fiona & Karl by Deanna http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/05/scottish-farm-wedding-with-at-home-tractor-shed/comment-page-1/#comment-110825 Deanna Thu, 24 May 2012 03:31:19 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/?p=41820#comment-110825 Can I just say I have serious admiration for the guts of any woman who will even attempt to fit in the back of a mini in her wedding dress?? Also, that seriously looks like the best dance party ever. I am actually now really sad I don't know you... Can I just say I have serious admiration for the guts of any woman who will even attempt to fit in the back of a mini in her wedding dress??

Also, that seriously looks like the best dance party ever. I am actually now really sad I don’t know you…

]]> Comment on Reclaiming Wife: The Weight of the World by rys http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/05/reclaiming-wife-the-weight-of-the-world/comment-page-1/#comment-110824 rys Thu, 24 May 2012 03:26:56 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/?p=41854#comment-110824 Even with wavy/straight hair, the texture is different! My white hairs feel so much thicker (in diameter) than the rest of my hair. I find it odd and mesmerizing at the same time. Even with wavy/straight hair, the texture is different! My white hairs feel so much thicker (in diameter) than the rest of my hair. I find it odd and mesmerizing at the same time.

]]> Comment on Reclaiming Wife: Moving In, The Easy Way by Cows and milk, birds and bees, living in sin | Musings of an Abstract Aucklander http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/05/moving-in-after-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-110822 Cows and milk, birds and bees, living in sin | Musings of an Abstract Aucklander Thu, 24 May 2012 03:15:57 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/?p=40745#comment-110822 [...] Course, cohabiting is not always all it’s cracked up to be. I wouldn’t swap it for anything, but it’s definitely not a painless thing for us. Our story is much more like this than it is this. [...] [...] Course, cohabiting is not always all it’s cracked up to be. I wouldn’t swap it for anything, but it’s definitely not a painless thing for us. Our story is much more like this than it is this. [...]

]]> Comment on Reclaiming Wife: The Weight of the World by athena http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/05/reclaiming-wife-the-weight-of-the-world/comment-page-1/#comment-110821 athena Thu, 24 May 2012 03:15:29 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/?p=41854#comment-110821 RN, those ladies are so very lucky to have you as their nurse... As a side note, I've just started watching Mad Men, and the emphasis on appearance back then (especially in how it was policed by other women as well as men) really highlights what both of my grandmothers (84 and 87, respectively) went through at my age in the 60s. Yeesh... it's clearly been a struggle for many women through generations... and I find the "expectation" that women not "let themselves go" is not only a representation of our commodity culture, but of gender inequality as well...(MAJOR DIGRESSION- sorry!) RN, those ladies are so very lucky to have you as their nurse…

As a side note, I’ve just started watching Mad Men, and the emphasis on appearance back then (especially in how it was policed by other women as well as men) really highlights what both of my grandmothers (84 and 87, respectively) went through at my age in the 60s. Yeesh… it’s clearly been a struggle for many women through generations… and I find the “expectation” that women not “let themselves go” is not only a representation of our commodity culture, but of gender inequality as well…(MAJOR DIGRESSION- sorry!)

]]> Comment on Reclaiming Wife: The Weight of the World by Caitlin http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/05/reclaiming-wife-the-weight-of-the-world/comment-page-1/#comment-110820 Caitlin Thu, 24 May 2012 03:03:43 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/?p=41854#comment-110820 I was raised using many of the tips that Meg listed (I also didn't have TV!). Now that I think about it I do have pretty good body image. One thing that helped me tremedously during my pre-teen/early teen years was New Moon Magazine: http://www.newmoon.com. It's written entirely by girls and emphasizes inner beauty and being yourself. I remember lots of discussions on what that meant and how it was different for everyone. It was community of smart, witty, strong girls discussing real issues. Kinda like teenage version of the APW community. :-) Despite having growing up in such a supportive environment, it still meant a lot to me to hear from my peers that outer beauty isn't the be all end all. I should note that I'm not affiliated with the magazine in anyway, it just was very influential in a transitional period of my life and I just thought others might want to check it out. I was raised using many of the tips that Meg listed (I also didn’t have TV!). Now that I think about it I do have pretty good body image. One thing that helped me tremedously during my pre-teen/early teen years was New Moon Magazine: http://www.newmoon.com. It’s written entirely by girls and emphasizes inner beauty and being yourself. I remember lots of discussions on what that meant and how it was different for everyone. It was community of smart, witty, strong girls discussing real issues. Kinda like teenage version of the APW community. :-) Despite having growing up in such a supportive environment, it still meant a lot to me to hear from my peers that outer beauty isn’t the be all end all.

I should note that I’m not affiliated with the magazine in anyway, it just was very influential in a transitional period of my life and I just thought others might want to check it out.

]]> Comment on Reclaiming Wife: The Weight of the World by Corrie http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/05/reclaiming-wife-the-weight-of-the-world/comment-page-1/#comment-110819 Corrie Thu, 24 May 2012 02:50:05 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/?p=41854#comment-110819 Yes, most definitely! It wasn't until I ran my first marathon a year after I graduated college that I really started to change how I looked at my body. Training forced me to realize that eating unhealthy foods (...or maybe I should say 'not appropriate foods for the task at hand') could not properly fuel my body for a long run the next day (my stomach would be upset and I would have no energy). I really started to view my body as that 'instrument' that needed to be fueled properly in order to function properly. It forced me to understand how what I put into my body affects my physical ability to accomplish what I want to do. Despite feeling pretty educated on nutrition and exercise prior to my training, it seems crazy that it took a marathon to really make me understand all of this and change my body image. I know most people don't take on exercise to that extent, but it's definitely an eye-opening way to understand what your body needs and to learn to love it for it's capabilities. I got injured during the race that year, but boy was I proud that my body was able to cross that finish line, and it's changed my mentality ever since. Yes, most definitely! It wasn’t until I ran my first marathon a year after I graduated college that I really started to change how I looked at my body. Training forced me to realize that eating unhealthy foods (…or maybe I should say ‘not appropriate foods for the task at hand’) could not properly fuel my body for a long run the next day (my stomach would be upset and I would have no energy). I really started to view my body as that ‘instrument’ that needed to be fueled properly in order to function properly. It forced me to understand how what I put into my body affects my physical ability to accomplish what I want to do. Despite feeling pretty educated on nutrition and exercise prior to my training, it seems crazy that it took a marathon to really make me understand all of this and change my body image. I know most people don’t take on exercise to that extent, but it’s definitely an eye-opening way to understand what your body needs and to learn to love it for it’s capabilities. I got injured during the race that year, but boy was I proud that my body was able to cross that finish line, and it’s changed my mentality ever since.

]]> Comment on Reclaiming Wife: The Weight of the World by Laura http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/05/reclaiming-wife-the-weight-of-the-world/comment-page-2/#comment-110818 Laura Thu, 24 May 2012 02:22:19 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/?p=41854#comment-110818 Wow, so so many comments. Also, I think this is a totally appropriate post for "change" week - bodies changing is a big change! A lot has already been said, much of which I agree with. But one point really seems to be missing in the above comments (or maybe I missed it in the sea of words)... Weight *gain* is not the only kind of change that is hard and painful. Weight loss, especially when dramatic, can also be a total mindf*ck. Even when it's planned or welcome. Like when you find out from the Bali lady that your boobs have shrunk 2 cup sizes, and you cry in the fitting room at the outlet mall. Or like when people call you beautiful or pretty or hot way more often at your new weight than the weight you've been since middle school. Or when you wear a deep-ish v-neck and realize you can see your ribs in the front and you think it looks super gross. And you realize you kind of didn't mind the way you were before, and you certainly had a much better sense of self at that size - who is the skinny stranger staring you in the mirror anyway? (I will also say for posterity that I've since gained a bunch back and have returned to my homeostasis weight, where I'm pretty darn happy and know how to dress myself. I do miss the smaller me sometimes, but mostly when I'm exercising and realize I could enjoy a run so much more if I had less mass to carry every mile.) The point is, *down* change, not just up change, in the body image department can be tough. Wow, so so many comments. Also, I think this is a totally appropriate post for “change” week – bodies changing is a big change! A lot has already been said, much of which I agree with. But one point really seems to be missing in the above comments (or maybe I missed it in the sea of words)…

Weight *gain* is not the only kind of change that is hard and painful. Weight loss, especially when dramatic, can also be a total mindf*ck. Even when it’s planned or welcome.

Like when you find out from the Bali lady that your boobs have shrunk 2 cup sizes, and you cry in the fitting room at the outlet mall.

Or like when people call you beautiful or pretty or hot way more often at your new weight than the weight you’ve been since middle school.

Or when you wear a deep-ish v-neck and realize you can see your ribs in the front and you think it looks super gross.

And you realize you kind of didn’t mind the way you were before, and you certainly had a much better sense of self at that size – who is the skinny stranger staring you in the mirror anyway?

(I will also say for posterity that I’ve since gained a bunch back and have returned to my homeostasis weight, where I’m pretty darn happy and know how to dress myself. I do miss the smaller me sometimes, but mostly when I’m exercising and realize I could enjoy a run so much more if I had less mass to carry every mile.)

The point is, *down* change, not just up change, in the body image department can be tough.

]]> Comment on Reclaiming Wife: The Weight of the World by Lynn http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/05/reclaiming-wife-the-weight-of-the-world/comment-page-2/#comment-110817 Lynn Thu, 24 May 2012 02:17:35 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/?p=41854#comment-110817 A friend and I have started working through Julia Cameron's Sound of Paper. We're each taking our inner artists for walks because that's what recommended. And when I tell the PA, "it's time for me to take my inner artist...and the doggie...for a walk. Would you like you to come with me?" it's the greatest excuse. My *inner artist* needs to go for a walk. I'm sorry--she speaks, I respond. I'd like to eventually take my inner artist for a run because I used to enjoy the power I felt while coming up on mile 9. It's been an incredibly long time, but perhaps eventually. A friend and I have started working through Julia Cameron’s Sound of Paper. We’re each taking our inner artists for walks because that’s what recommended. And when I tell the PA, “it’s time for me to take my inner artist…and the doggie…for a walk. Would you like you to come with me?” it’s the greatest excuse.

My *inner artist* needs to go for a walk. I’m sorry–she speaks, I respond.

I’d like to eventually take my inner artist for a run because I used to enjoy the power I felt while coming up on mile 9. It’s been an incredibly long time, but perhaps eventually.

]]> Comment on Reclaiming Wife: The Weight of the World by Kimberly http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/05/reclaiming-wife-the-weight-of-the-world/comment-page-2/#comment-110816 Kimberly Thu, 24 May 2012 01:56:42 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/?p=41854#comment-110816 Awww, you guys. Here, let me take those vomit-covered shirts and wash them for you. Awww, you guys. Here, let me take those vomit-covered shirts and wash them for you.

]]> Comment on Why Moving in Together is Not Like Test-Driving a Car by Cows and milk, birds and bees, living in sin | Musings of an Abstract Aucklander http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/05/moving-in-with-your-significant-other-before-getting-engaged/comment-page-1/#comment-110815 Cows and milk, birds and bees, living in sin | Musings of an Abstract Aucklander Thu, 24 May 2012 01:54:31 +0000 http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/04/why-moving-in-together-is-not-like-test-driving-a-car/#comment-110815 [...] it for anything, but it’s definitely not a painless thing for us. Our story is much more like this than it is [...] [...] it for anything, but it’s definitely not a painless thing for us. Our story is much more like this than it is [...]

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