Q: I’m a few months away from my wedding, and I’m stressed and thrilled and so, so excited. I’m mostly excited for the honeymoon. Time away from work and wedding planning and family craziness with the person I love most in the world. It’s going to be great. The only problem is, we have no idea where to start or how to plan it. I did some preliminary research online, and it seems like so many “example” honeymoons cost thousands of dollars. We talked to a local travel agent who gave us one or two options along with some snide comments about our budget. We’d like to pay off student loan debt and buy a house someday. I just can’t convince myself that $3,000 on a vacation is the right choice for us right now. Is it possible to have a relaxing, interesting getaway with a new spouse for less than $2,000? What have APW readers and contributors done for honeymoons?
A: Dear Anna,
Totally possible. For starters, avoid anyone who ever makes snide comments about your budget. Then, just do something. Anything.
Loads of folks will tell you to wait, to pay off some things, to save for a house and just “go on honeymoon later.” But a honeymoon is only a honeymoon if it happens right then after the wedding. If it happens long after the wedding, it turns out to be… a really nice vacation. (Not to begrudge anyone a really nice vacation. It’s just different.) There’s a reason the honeymoon comes right after getting hitched. All of that wedding stress and build-up, then this big amazing party, and roller-coastering emotions and overwhelm… whew, after all that, what you really need is a good breather with your partner. And maybe a hot tub.
Aside from that, isn’t it kind of a nice idea to jump into marriage with both feet, taking advantage of those newlywed highs by just hunkering down and reveling in them a bit?
It’s altogether too easy to say, “When we have more money.” But very often, that day doesn’t happen for quite a long while. A person can be discerning, responsible, frugal and still, you know, live right now rather than waiting until some unforeseen date in the future. (I know a bit about fruitlessly waiting for money.)
I get that for some folks, the stomach-churning over the expense of a trip in light of bills and debt will outweigh any vacation happies. But, there’s no need to go on some lavish getaway in order to enjoy that special little honeymoon cloud (no matter what snide travel agents may say). One of my favorite “vacations” recently was to a hotel in our own city. Cheap, close, but still away from the stresses of everyday life, and as a result, special. I’ll admit, before we left, I thought it was going to be pretty lame. But it turns out, the whole “where” of the thing doesn’t matter so much as the attitude. The relaxing. The being together just the two of us, without any of the normal pressures nagging at us.
But I have a feeling I’m preaching to the choir a bit here. You asked for ideas. And if there’s anything our readers are good at, it’s loads of ideas of all sorts. So, here we are guys.
what are some affordable ways to have a honeymoon now, instead of putting it off?