June 3, 2016

model standing in rice paddies

APW Happy Hour

Eat, play, love

by Najva Sol
Hey APW, Najva here, reporting from Ubud, Bali! I landed about two days ago (after spending the last week of Korea super duper sick), and so far I’ve done yoga in the prettiest studio of my life, had a mulberry smoothie (my second favorite fruit, next to persimmons), jumped in an infinity pool for the first time, watched traditional Indonesian dance, and visited the rice paddies that Eat, Pray, Love made famous. To be honest, my memory of the story is pretty foggy, but I do know that Julia Roberts starring in the movie really set off tourism in... read more

See What’s So Sweet about This $11K Southern Brunch Wedding

Realization: DIY weddings rarely involve just yourself

by A Practical Wedding
If I could offer engaged couples one piece of advice it would be this: don't let other people dictate YOUR wedding. They will try, believe me. Stay true to your style, budget, vision, etc. Sure, feelings may be hurt, but when everyone gathers for your ceremony and you walk down the aisle, all of those previous disagreements fade. Make your wedding the best day of your life and ignore the rest... read more

June 2, 2016


If You’re Not Behind Amber Heard, Where the Hell Are You?

How is this even a question?

by Stephanie Kaloi
When Amber Heard and Johnny Depp got together a few years ago, I was among the collective that side-eyed the union intensely. Why would he end a fourteen-plus year relationship with Vanessa Paradis, a woman I considered queenly? Why would Amber Heard even want to marry him in the first place? I didn’t get too emotional about it apart from a few “LOVE IS DEAD” posts on social media, and that was that. I used to love Johnny Depp. I mean: Edward Scissorhands? Yes. What’s Eating Gilbert Grape? Boy, you’re a genius. Sweeney Todd... read more

Modcloth’s New Swimsuit Line Will Make You Feel (and Look) Good

ModCloth has honeymoon swimwear on lock for everybody and every body

by Maddie Eisenhart
Since roughly the time my boobs came in, the message I’ve been sent by the swimsuit industry has been loud and clear: cute, fashion-forward swimwear is not for grown-ass women. And the older I get, the more obvious it becomes. We like to pretend that the female form stays eighteen forever, with tight little tummies and perky boobs and no stretch marks. Which, god bless if that’s you. But when I look around for fun, stylish options catering to the thirty-something woman who has had a kid, or gained weight, or simply aged it’s…... read more

June 1, 2016

woman standing at desk with paperwork

I’m Not Shocked That Half of Americans Don’t Have Emergency Money

It's all fine, right? Ahahahhaha

by Stephanie Kaloi
A few weeks ago The Atlantic published a piece that was designed to shock its readers, it but didn’t surprise me at all: “The Secret Shame of Middle-Class Americans: Nearly half of Americans would have trouble finding $400 in a crisis.” And no, they were not talking the working poor; they were, as advertised, talking about the actual middle class. The Federal Reserve Board regularly conducts surveys to ascertain the “financial and economic status of American consumers” (don’t you just love being a consumer instead... read more
women at crate and barrel registry event

This Is What Happens When Two Queer Girls Walk Into a Registry Event

How a Crate and Barrel registry event made me rethink weddings

by Victoria Grant
One day not too long ago, my partner looked at me across the breakfast table, cocked her head to the side, and shyly asked, “So we’re going to get married… right?” I went blank. I have no question in my mind that I want to marry my girlfriend. Hell, I thought we already had the commitment thing on lock. We have a rad partnership that includes building a home together and being deeply entwined/invested/engaged in each other’s lives. We navigate career challenges, family celebrations, and world travel together. She has my back and I have hers... read more

May 31, 2016

pink-haired bride and groom in front of green building

Want to Win at Your Wedding Photography? Hire This Team.

With free travel nationwide

by Najva Sol
Every once in a blue moon, a wedding photographer comes along whose work is so good, it makes you consider framing photos of strangers’ weddings to hang on your walls. (That would be weird right? Ugh.) Shaw Photography Co. is one of those photography teams, so today is the day you hit the jackpot. Husband and wife team Brian and Christina, offer free travel throughout the US and an array of coverage options to accommodate all kinds of weddings and budgets (with full wedding coverage starting at $3500). The Shaws hit the road in a vintage... read more
woman crouched down on the floor

We Just Got Divorced and Now My Ex Is Getting Married

I want to be happy for them, I think

by Anonymous
My ex husband is getting married. I know that didn’t set off an explosion in your chest like it did in mine when I first heard it, but I’m sure there are a lot of folks out there who know that sinking, world-turned-upside-down, punched in the gut feeling I experienced when I found out. I won’t get into the gory details of how we got from forever to never, but I will say that never in a million years, not up until the very end did I imagine I’d be writing a story like this. In a time that can [&hellip... read more

May 27, 2016

woman holding mi

APW Happy Hour

Going to the chapel with my BFF

by Maddie Eisenhart
HEY APW, After reading Shonda Rhimes book Year of Yes earlier this year, I resolved to be more outgoing in 2016. Where “yes” used to be a bad word for me (it’s basically how I talked myself into being a workaholic for years), these days I’m using it to force myself to have more fun. Recent exploits include cooking up a day at the pool with the APW team in the name of work. And heading up for a long weekend on the river, wherein I will try and teach my now-hundred-pound dog to swim (wish me luck and buoyancy!). In other news,... read more

9 Fair Trade Wedding Companies You Want to Know About

Affordable (and stylish) ways to shop your values

by Maddie Eisenhart
The hardest part of making a billion wedding planning decisions is the near constant worry that every decision should be the best decision you could possibly make. Does it fit your values? Will everyone else like it too? And while there’s no magic formula to make everyone approve of your wedding, there are lots of ways to shop your values in wedding planning. Which is why today we’ve partnered up with Green Mountain Coffee (one of the largest roasters of Fair Trade Certified coffee) to share nine Fair Trade wedding brands that make... read more

May 26, 2016

bridesmaids standing together

I Don’t Have Enough Friends to Have Bridesmaids: Help?

AAPW: My partner has eleven groomsmen, and I'm stressing OUT

by Liz Moorhead
Q: I have always described myself as a man’s woman. I have two brothers, so I spent most of my time as a part of their friend group and doing typically male things with them, such as playing video games or making midnight treks to the gas station for Slim Jims and Gatorade. I would not, however, describe myself as a tomboy. I love makeup and glitter and shoes and all things girl; I just don’t like other girls. Growing up, I struggled very hard with building and maintaining female friendships, and it’s something that I still struggle... read more
Fig House Wedding

These High School Sweethearts Waited More Than Ten Years for This Modern LA Wedding

Plus a Mariachi band, peanut brittle, and traditional Vietnamese details

by A Practical Wedding
Zack and I have known each other since we were in elementary school but didn't start dating until high school. As such, we had been together for over a decade when we were engaged and knew each other's taste pretty well! For our wedding, we wanted a nod to tradition with modern elements infused in... read more

May 25, 2016


What Happens to Marriage When Babies Stop Being Babies?

And what happens to you?

by Stephanie Kaloi
I was twenty-four when I gave birth to my son, and now in 2016, I’m a thirty-one-year-old with a seven-year-old kid… and I have recently found myself with a whole lot of time on my hand. It’s not just me. My husband is experiencing the same thing. We regularly find ourselves meeting in the kitchen and sharing a pot of coffee, wondering what exactly happened to the tiny being who needed us all of the time, and what exactly it is we’re supposed to be doing with ourselves as he grows up. Even Toddlers Grow Up We had been married... read more

4 Super Easy Ways To Word Your Wedding Thank You Cards

Yes, you have to send them. No, you don't have to write them from scratch.

by Stephanie Kaloi
Now that we’ve established that you obviously have to write wedding thank you cards (I love you guys, I do, so I’m sorry about this), I figured it was only fair to give you a wedding thank you card template. Because while it’s easy for wedding thank you cards to feel like one of those overwhelming and anxiety producing tasks, they don’t have to be. As long as you can muster up a few heartfelt words, you can use the same template over and over (and we’ll even give it to you). But first, we need to take a moment for a [&... read more

May 24, 2016


How to Plan a Wedding as a White Person Without Appropriating

Intersectional feminism means woke wedding planning

by Najva Sol
Growing up as a Persian immigrant in America, one of my biggest young adult joys was getting to spend evenings at my friend Sarah’s house. Why? Because Sarah’s mom cooked up foods I only saw on TV or in restaurants… exotic delicacies like apple pie and meatloaf. My level of excitement was such that Sarah would look at me like I was crazy, shake her head, and say something offhand like, “But it’s so boring, I don’t know why you like it.” She was also stumped when I would giggle with abandon because her parents... read more
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