January 22, 2016

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Happy Hour

#squadgoals achieved (with a baby)

by Meg Keene
HEY Apw, Hey guys, we’re at our big conference for the year in Salt Lake City. I wrote about how women centric Alt Summit is, and this year I brought my six month old baby, and a whole girl squad. (Eighteen year old cousin helping with the baby, Najva, Maddie, me, and baby girl are all having a wonderful time.) So let’s kick it to happy hour, because I need to go get ready for our big talk (and get the babies two hairs cut by a friend who also does Paris and New York fashion week, I KNOW RIGHT). [&hellip... read more

Our 200-Guest, Punk Rock Joshua Tree Wedding Was the Stuff of Legends

What's more punk: members of L7 and The Go-Go's performing or the flower girl's pink hair?

by A Practical Wedding
After the reception we had a shuttle bus transport guests to the after party at Rancho De La Luna, which is a famous recording studio and also the personal residence of musician Dave Catching. We have a lot of friends who are musicians, so we held a sort of mini-concert under the stars. Jane Wieldin from the Go-Go's was a guest at the wedding and performed "Our Lips are Sealed" with Donita Sparks from L7. Our friend Dave dressed up like Bruce Springsteen and did "Dancing in the Dark." Bryan and I sang "I Was Made for Lovin' You" by KISS while everyone in... read more

January 21, 2016


Want a Photographer Who Won’t Cut Out Your Wedding’s Blooper Reel?

When fine art and fun combine, the result is Lucille Lawrence Photography

by Stephanie Kaloi
Wedding days tend to bring on the feels, and with any luck you’ll experience the whole gamut: nervousness, butterflies, excitement, joy, and flat out rapturous happiness. Hopefully, your wedding day will be chocked full of happy tears and so much laughter that your sides ache for days—and hopefully you’ll have a photographer like Lucille Lawrence Photography on hand to capture every single silly moment that comes your way (especially if you have hamburgers, cake, and cute kids on hand): That’s not to say that our girl Lucille... read more

How Do I Tell My Mom I Hate Big Expensive Wedding Dresses?

AAPW: I just want one thing to be simple

by Liz Moorhead
Q: I love my mom, but she can be… intense. She is so excited about the wedding, in a totally exhausting way that has sucked the joy out of planning for me. I have tried to be very kind to her—I know it’s just because she loves us—but I am thinking about doing something hurtful. I am dreading dress shopping because I know it will be difficult. My mom has a lot of feelings invested in The Dress and nothing less than an outrageously expensive gigantic gown will do. It’s her dream to see me as (her version of) a Real [&hellip... read more

January 20, 2016

Suiting Tips

Four Things You Need to Know About Suits

And how to avoid looking like you're going to the junior prom

by Maddie Eisenhart
In the wedding space, there is lots and lots of talk of wedding dresses. If you’re just starting planning now, you’ve probably already skimmed over dozens of articles extolling the virtues of various wedding dress necklines, how to “dress best for your body,” and a bunch of other stuff that assumes ladies are the only people showing up to a wedding wearing clothes. But when it comes to suits… the wedding industry is basically like, “We’re sure you’ll figure it out!” And I’ve been to enough... read more

This Is What It’s Like to Accidentally Take a Tantric Yoga Workshop

Or how turning my sex life into a project was sort of a disaster

by Anonymous
For our first married Valentine’s Day, my wife gave me a partners’ yoga class. This was a genius idea. Yoga is one of the few fitness activities that we both enjoy, and the class was billed as an acro workshop, which was something both of us wanted to learn more about. The posters advertising the class seemed to use the term “partner” broadly—a person you wanted to do balancing tricks with as opposed to a person you make out with more often than other people. It sounded delightful. The night of the class, we grabbed a bite to eat and [&... read more

January 19, 2016


Here’s a New York Photographer Who Will Capture You Like You Are: Relaxed, Informal, Fun

Jubilation, delight, and exultation: a few words for what you're about to feel

by Stephanie Kaloi
Real talk: planning a wedding in NYC can be overwhelming. There are a zillion vendors for every possible aspect of your wedding that you might be into, and whittling down the possibilities that exist within your vision and your budget is a formidable task. Enter Samantha Gore Photography, who stands out in the crowd simply because she dares to deviate. Where you might find plenty of photographers who are into overexposure and wistful gazes in a field (which is lovely), or moody intense shots that kind of ache (equally delightful), Samantha Gore is into... read more
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Engagement Was the Saddest Time of My Life

My mom died before I found my wedding dress

My mom had cancer twice. The first time I was six. We were living in Minnesota and would go to the Mall of America. We would window shop at the Disney Store and eat at the Rainforest Café. It was magical. It was distracting. And most importantly it made positive memories. I was twenty-three when she started chemo the second time. We were living in Ohio and we would go to Target. Buy silly things: sandals, mixing bowls, super hero pajamas. It was more practical. But we laughed and smiled and it made positive memories. Honestly retail therapy was as [&... read more

January 15, 2016


APW Happy Hour

Mercury Retrograde and Coloring Calendars

by Najva Sol
HEY APW, Najva here. Last week’s post may have been a “Happy Hour” in name, but the big ass giveaway we’re doing didn’t have our link roundup (though, you can still enter… and there’s some new podcasts to check out, so click on it or click on any of the links below to go straight to listening). Stuff Mom Never Told You: Episode One, A Practical Wedding Stuff Mom Never Told You: Episode Two, A Feminist Marriage Save the Date Podcast: Episode One, Interview with Meg Save the Date Podcast: Episode Two, Wedding Q... read more

The Most Important Thing I Learned in 2015

And how YNAB helped break me of my worst habit

by Maddie Eisenhart
There’s a running joke on staff that I’ve got gamblers’ blood in my veins. I like projects with quick payoffs, and I like tangible success. It’s why I’m in charge of the money stuff and not social media. Because the long game is my least favorite kind of game. And because I’m sort of a gambler, I’m the worst at saving. I like to make the money, spend it, and then enjoy the adrenaline high of trying to figure out how I’m going to figure my shit out next month. It means I’m a great partner, in both... read more

January 14, 2016

A Practical Wedding Update-0050

Want a Photographer Who Isn’t Afraid to Get a Little Bit Artsy?

Betty Clicker Photography's stealth makes her quick to catch all the #feels

by Stephanie Kaloi
As someone who has lived in the southern United State for most of her life, there are a few things I understand about southern weddings. One of the biggest is that southern weddings tend to have their own style, and it’s not always one that embraces moody or experimental photography. That doesn’t mean that great photographers don’t live and work in the South, because they absolutely do… it just means that sometimes it feels like your only choices are hiring someone local who doesn’t totally shoot in line with your vision or... read more
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How Do I Make My Partner Sell His Truck and Save Money?

AAPW: I'm trying to save but he likes to make it rain

by Liz Moorhead
Q:I am hoping for some help in a marriage-as-mini-socialism predicament. My fiancé and I recently bought a house, which sort of tipped the scales for us from keeping separate bank accounts and splitting the bills down the middle to sharing an account. It was getting really annoying to try to split everything “fairly.” So we are doing the all-in-one-pot-thing, with equal allowances in our individual accounts. We make enough to cover the bills, but I am concerned about our savings rate. Instead of being able to stash anything away, we pretty... read more

January 13, 2016


This Couple Decided to Elope in the Desert… During Maternity Leave

Just a little post-baby roadtrip through a foreign country

by Najva Sol
You often hear about the APW readers who hit the “fuck it, let’s elope” threshold (which, seriously, more power to them)—but what really fascinates me is people who have that attitude from the get-go. Like this couple. Adorable baby aside, they chose to tie the knot in Salvation Mountain, a large-scale outsider art project that’s in the middle of a desert. It’s colorful, fun, and oddly infamous (Coldplay made a music video there, for example). Since a trip to the mountain is on my bucket list, I just had to share a... read more
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What It’s Like to Be Muslim in America Right Now

by Najva Sol
My grandmother died last week. She lived her whole life in an ancient desert city in Iran, not only a strict Muslim, but also a badass feminist that started being a principal of a girls’ school at seventeen. I haven’t seen her in 12 years. She’s been hard of hearing and speaks with a heavy rural accent, so long distance communication was difficult at best. Worlds away from rural Iran, I was born in Washington, DC. My parents were finishing college (the first in both their families to do so). Shortly after my birth, we returned to the... read more

January 12, 2016

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This Photographer Inserts Your Love Story in a Fine Art Landscape

Rates: $3900 in the US, and $4400 anywhere else in the world

by Stephanie Kaloi
How many times have you been cruising a blogger’s website or reading a travel article online and seen photos of epic landscapes—and how many times have you wished your wedding photos could capture the same awe as the shots below? Now they can. All it takes is hiring Atlanta-based Elicia Bryan, who makes all her wedding photos—from those held locally in Atlanta, to ones in exotic locales—look like a work of art. If you’re getting married internationally, this is the time to hire Elicia: she’s itching to get to Australia, New... read more