September 6, 2016

bride and groom dancing

70 Underrated Love Songs That Will Make You Teary at Your Wedding

Bring on the heart eyes

by Stephanie Kaloi
If you’re playing music at your wedding, chances are you’re going to want the best love songs to set the tone—I mean, right? There are stories of people who gtet so obsessive about their wedding playlist that they scour every song for its meaning, and cut anything about broken or bad relationships—which, you know, cuts out a lot of great music. But even assuming you’re not doing that (don’t do that—it will drive you mad), you still probably want to pack your playlists with love songs about LUV, because… that’s... read more

September 2, 2016


APW Happy Hour

Come hang out with us in SF on 9/13!

by Maddie Eisenhart
Hey APW, Maddie here with some fun news! Meg and I are going to be hanging out at the Minted popup shop in San Francisco in a few weeks. Meg will be doling out free advice (much like in the above photo, but probably minus the sequins) and I’ll most likely be walking around giving out free hugs, because #weddingplanning, right? So if you’ll be in the Bay Area on Tuesday, September 13, swing by and say hi. There will be free champagne, plus Minted’s design staff will be on call to help you out with anything you need (side note: [&hellip... read more

September 1, 2016


Do I Need to Tell My Guests That My Dad Is a Sex Offender?

I don't really know where to begin, or what they even need to know

by Liz Moorhead
Q: My dad is a convicted felon currently serving probation, and a registered sex offender. He was in prison when I met my boyfriend. I waited until we were fairly serious before telling him about my dad (it’s not exactly great first date material), and he was incredibly sweet and understanding. At the time, I left it up to him if he wanted to share anything, if at all, with his family. As our relationship progressed, we decided we would have to tell them eventually, which really meant when we got engaged. As we approach this next step I am [&hellip... read more

This Photographer Has All the California Chill Your Wedding Day Needs

Laura Ford is a calm and fun photographer who delivers joyful, timeless photos

by Stephanie Kaloi
Oh heeeey, California. Are you guys ready to hire your wedding photographer today? Because Los Angeles-based Laura Ford just sent us a bunch of killer photos to share with you. It’s time to sit up a little straighter, adjust your glasses, sprinkle a little glitter on your desk, and pay attention. Laura Ford is the photographer you hire when you want joyful, bright, timeless photos of your whole day—from details and décor to beautiful portraits to a whole lot of great candids that make you grin. Laura will deliver all of the above while... read more

August 31, 2016

huma abedin at work

Stop Blaming Huma for Her Husband’s Epic Fail(s)


by Meg Keene
Yesterday morning, I woke up to the delightful Page One New York Times print headline, “Weiner’s Texts Cast a New Shadow Over Clinton Campaign.” Of course the obvious response was, “HOW? HOW IS THAT? HOW COULD THAT POSSIBLY BE?”, which I screamed at my newspaper over breakfast. But beyond that, I found myself fuming, once again, about how we blame women for not only all of the things we perceive as personal failings (including but not limited to: working for a living, not raising perfect children, not always having perfectly... read more

25 Stunning (and Affordable) BHLDN Dresses for Under $1K

Plus a bonus: 15 super fab ones under $2K

by Maddie Eisenhart
Adona Dress ($570) When I was getting married, way back in the pre-Pinterest dark days of 2009, shopping for wedding dresses was a particular kind of horror for someone without a billion dollars at their disposal. I learned the hard way that while $500 or $1,000 (or even $2,000) might seem like a whole lot of money to put some clothes on your back, in the bizarro world of wedding dresses, those numbers were somehow considered “budget.” (How? How?!) And even still, the biggest problem wasn’t the cost. It was that almost every dress in... read more

August 30, 2016

once upon a time i was a perfect parent

This Is the Conversation You Need to Have with Your Partner Before Becoming Parents

It doesn't have anything to do with where the kid sleeps, trust

by Stephanie Kaloi
I spouted off a whole lot of stuff about parenting and kids before I had a child; I now recognize like 97 percent of that stuff as ideological garbage. But acting like you know everything is a great coping mechanism for when you’re about to enter into an arena you’re a little terrified of, and I’m not alone in my pre-parent (somewhat misguided, but deeply felt) ideas about how I would parent. Here is the truth, though: This is how two peacenik pacifist parents end up with a seven-year-old who loves pretending to shoot everyone and... read more

We Found You a Photographer Who Knows How to Blend Tradition and Art

In other words, she'll give you everything you need

by Stephanie Kaloi
If you’re getting married in the San Francisco Bay Area, you’re probably familiar with the region’s standard wedding photography rates and offerings (and it’s okay if you’ve shed a few tears over them). The struggle in planning a wedding with the dollars you have is real. In fact, this struggle leads to one of the biggest reasons we love sponsor Manali Anne Photography: She offers 8 hours of coverage and a second shooter for $3,500, but more importantly, her city hall elopement rates start at $650 (yep, six hundred and... read more

August 29, 2016

man and woman walking in a field

Have You Guys Ever Thought About Scheduling Sex?

Does it really... work?

by Anonymous
My partner and I tried a few different things before we ever sat down and had an honest conversation about scheduling sex. After all, making a timetable for sex is kind of the opposite of sexy, right? Anytime we even got close to talking about it, I would immediately flash back to an early episode of Grey’s, when Addison and Derek are discussing the fact that they never had to schedule sex in med school, with the implication that their marriage must be in trouble because they were now doing so. As the viewer, you understand that of course their... read more
bride and groom walking to venue

Here Are the Secrets to Easy Winter Wedding Planning

Baby, it's warm here

by Stephanie Kaloi
Maybe some of y’all are busy getting ready for autumn—aka the time of scarves, football (or so I’m told), and pumpkin spice all over the place—but for me winter is everything. Given that, it’s probably not a surprise that I am a big fan of the off-season winter wedding, and my husband and I eloped in mid-February. I find winter sunsets to be some of the dreamiest and moodiest to behold, crisp-to-cold temperatures make me feel alive, and long nights scream romance to me. If you’re similarly minded, and contemplating ditching... read more

August 26, 2016

ferris wheel at fair

APW Happy Hour

The Jareesa edition!

by Jareesa Tucker McClure
Hey APW, It’s your favorite intern, Jareesa, here! This week I’ve been behind the scenes working on a few things—brainstorming my next APW piece, knitting, and trying to not let my allergies kill me. It’s the last few weeks of summer, which is always bittersweet to me. I love summer (I think my July birthday has something to do with it) and summers in Minnesota do not disappoint. The end of summer in Minnesota means one thing: the Minnesota State Fair! I’m a huge State Fair fan (it’s called the Great Minnesota Get-... read more

We Crowdsourced Wedding Photos to Save Money and It Was Absolutely Worth It

Crowdsourcing and camera cake toppers for the win

by A Practical Wedding
We planned everything with an eco-conscious and thrifty mindset, so we opted not to include lot of things that would have been nice, but weren't necessary. That said, though, we know our type of wedding isn't for everyone. We didn't have a wedding banquet, and we didn't take many wedding photos because we wanted a relaxed and carefree gathering where we could kick back with a glass of wine or beer, and actually hang out with our friends without all the wedding obligations and duties... read more

August 25, 2016

table with slice of wedding cake

We Don’t Have to Invite ALL of Our Guests to the Reception, Right?

We love them, we just want an intimate dinner

by Liz Moorhead
Q: I’m a serious planner (stage management is part of my professional life) and my current job gives me a lot of downtime to dream things up. My pie-in-the-sky dream wedding looks something like this: church ceremony, small(ish) dinner with close family and friends, followed by drinks/dessert and giant dance party with everyone we know. Is there a way to make that happen that won’t make people feel left out? Can I invite people only to the ceremony and reception? Are we obligated to entertain guests straight through from ceremony on? I don&#... read more

Here Is a Photographer Who Will Travel Anywhere in Canada—for Free

Ben Kane brings epic photojournalism from Toronto to Vancouver and everywhere in between

by Stephanie Kaloi
Get excited, Canada, because Ben Kane Photography is back. Okay, I know, unless you’re a super-fan of wedding photographers, you’re probably like, “Ben who? Where’d he go?” Allow me to explain. We are all huge fans of longtime APW sponsor Ben Kane, and for good reason: His aesthetic is so awesome, Maddie coined the phrase “epic photojournalism” for it; he is committed to shooting all kinds of people having all kinds of weddings; and he manages to simultaneously capture both heartfelt emotion and epic beauty... read more

August 24, 2016


I’m Pregnant (and I Never Wanted to Be a Mom)

Going from #nokids to #yeskids is a trip

by Jareesa Tucker McClure
As I write this, I’m halfway through my first pregnancy. In fact, my baby person is moving around right now and it’s giving me great joy. Pretty much everything in my pregnancy has given me some joy, maybe because I never thought I’d experience any parts of pregnancy. Until very recently, I was the woman who was Team (Probably) No Kids. #NoKids, Please I can’t tell you the moment when I realized I wasn’t interested in having children. I do remember playing with my dolls, but my dolls were my friends—not my pretend babies. I also remember... read more
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